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Standing at gigs - finally some sense!

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StacksOfSnacks · 26/04/2026 14:49

I love live music and frequently attend concerts and have been utterly baffled in recent years that people behave as they would in the cinema - plonked on their backside, mutely watching. For me it’s all about the immersive experience - dancing, screaming, swaying, singing, waving my arms… But not only are more people staying seated, but I’m actually seeing discourse where people such as myself are being criticised for acting exactly like a typical concert goer - singing and standing.

I went to a show last night and noticed this little note on my e-ticket “People around you may stand!” though I think it should go without saying, finally some sense is prevailing and those whingers can keep schtum now (which they advocate for at gigs anyway 😂).

Disclaimer: I know people will pile on saying that not everyone can stand, and no they can’t and I understand that. I’d support if they wanted to have a section where people stay seated if there’s demand for it. However, I have observed a change in behaviour that is out of proportion even when considering that.

Standing at gigs - finally some sense!
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mcmuffin22 · 26/04/2026 21:54

intrepidpanda · 26/04/2026 15:38

I actually find the 6ft people more considerate. Its usually the 5.3 female i get sticking their hair in my face without any thought or consideration to where they stop.

Oh my god, the hair! I always get a woman with smelly hair who works her way from the back to stand in front of me and throw her hair about in my face.

Pedallleur · 26/04/2026 21:51

Firefly1987 · 26/04/2026 21:10

I actually thought seated tickets were harder to get than standing-is that not the case? When you think about it it's pretty shitty to buy a seat and then not sit in it all night! What a waste...

I've always found standing to be more readily available. It's the diehards/enthusiasts who want to stand. Many of us want the option of a seat

chillyputsomesockson · 26/04/2026 21:38

furrysocks · 26/04/2026 20:39

Not convinced a grown woman needs to scream at a gig tbh - that would do my head in. Mind you, I was at the Magic Flute and the woman next to me decided to sing along to the Queen of the Night aria, which was very similar.

Omg I would have very directly told her to shut up! Why would she do that?!! Some people are so self involved it’s ridiculous!

minipie · 26/04/2026 21:34

I don’t have a particular issue with standing and dancing.

Singing is annoying. I snagged Radiohead tickets and half the time Thom’s subtle performance was being drowned out by the group of 20 something blokes behind me who seemed to think each song was a football chant and were bellowing it out en masse.

Mind you if it was Louis Tomlinson being drowned out I wouldn’t mind so much.

CatRestaurant · 26/04/2026 21:34

Spaghettea · 26/04/2026 21:19

I book seated but stand up and dance. Seated means there's somewhere to put my jacket and bag.
I've been going to gigs since the late 80's and never known people to actually sit in the seats.

I’ve always stood at gigs too. This seems like a recent thing, people getting arsey about us wanting to actually enjoy ourselves. Who goes to a gig and doesn’t dance?!

chillyputsomesockson · 26/04/2026 21:33

It depends on the seating. If it’s tiered not so fussed about standing. However I went to see Michael Bublé a few years ago at an arena and even the floor area (that would usually be the standing area) was all seated, so when people then stood up, (everyone ended up standing up) you had to stand where you seat was. I literally couldn’t see a thing at all. So disappointed and an absolute waste of money. Generally if it’s a seated concert, sit.

on a side note the viral clip of Adele having a go at staff who told the lad to sit back down really pisses me off. He was blocking the view of everyone behind him but Adele clearly didn’t give a shit about all their enjoyment!

CatRestaurant · 26/04/2026 21:32

intrepidpanda · 26/04/2026 19:00

If you want to stand you should get a ticket in the standing area.
Much better idea than people taking up accessible areas whrn they are capable of making it to a circle seat.

But there are way more seated tickets than standing. Not everyone who wants to stand can get a standing ticket. Why should our gig be ruined because others are boring?

MferMonsterSearchingForRedemption · 26/04/2026 21:29

earshadow · 26/04/2026 17:53

Was at YungBlud on Friday night and he was telling people to stand up, stand on seats, even get on shoulders. Thats how a concert should be in my opinion !

I was just going to say this.

I was there too. Fantastic show and the majority of people around me were dancing in the seating area, just like every other concert I've been to.

PinkCatCushion · 26/04/2026 21:23

Seated = you sit apart from last couple of songs.
Standing = you stand. Feel free to dance, wave your hands about as much as you like.

NmeChangr · 26/04/2026 21:21

Firefly1987 · 26/04/2026 21:10

I actually thought seated tickets were harder to get than standing-is that not the case? When you think about it it's pretty shitty to buy a seat and then not sit in it all night! What a waste...

I’ve always found it’s easier to get standing, if you don’t mind where you stand (sometimes they are sectioned off)

it’s also far easier to book for a group of 3+ standing than ever expecting seating together. If it’s a popular gig expected to sell out, it’s so so hard.

socks1107 · 26/04/2026 21:20

If others are standing I’ll join in but tend to follow the crowd and read the room most of time. I was at a gig last night and did loads of standing, dancing and singing - fantastic night!

Deadringer · 26/04/2026 21:20

I always get a seat because i like to have a space of my own but i dont expect people to sit quietly in theirs. The last concert i went to was David Gray, not a particular fan but my friend is, it was an awful experience. We were seated at the back and most people paid absolutely no attention to the show, if they weren't constantly going in and out to the bar or the toilets (and I mean constantly) they were talking loudly or scrolling on their phones. I mean why bother?

Spaghettea · 26/04/2026 21:19

I book seated but stand up and dance. Seated means there's somewhere to put my jacket and bag.
I've been going to gigs since the late 80's and never known people to actually sit in the seats.

Firefly1987 · 26/04/2026 21:10

I actually thought seated tickets were harder to get than standing-is that not the case? When you think about it it's pretty shitty to buy a seat and then not sit in it all night! What a waste...

mumofoneAloneandwell · 26/04/2026 21:02

Balloonhearts · 26/04/2026 15:16

At other times I prefer the seated area as it has a rake, I'm on the petite side, so especially at heavy rock gigs where there are a lot of men in attendance I have no chance of seeing in the standing area.

Oh the irony...

Sorry op, yabvu 😄

NmeChangr · 26/04/2026 20:59

The last few gigs I’ve been to (Yungblud/Capaldi) have all been pretty respectful, I don’t know if it’s just a thing in the venue but everyone seems to respect not to stand the whole time in a seated section, but get up where it’s warranted. Judge the area around you.

It’s not as easy as saying “well buy XYZ” ticket then” for popular gigs, because of queues and scalping you have to scrape to get any ticket in the first place.

if you’re wise enough, you can figure out what seats are at the back of each section and stand to your hearts content. I just did that recently and it was a bloody fab option tbh.

I’m not the person to ruin someone’s evening , I’m blessed to be there regardless.

BananaPeels · 26/04/2026 20:52

Pedallleur · 26/04/2026 20:40

I've paid £££ to sit. I will dance/stand at the appropriate time. I know if I see ACDC or Oasis there is a chance I'll be standing all the way. If I see Florence and the Machine (as I did) and someone stands blocking the sightline of 10+ people then the stander should be downstairs on the floor. If everyone stands and I still have a great view I'll sit (Raye/MCR recently).

Edited

I saw oasis at Wembley in the seated section and everyone stayed seated pretty much the whole way through.

Pedallleur · 26/04/2026 20:50

Was at a gig last night (standing) and some enthusiasts got a large flag out. Now about 30 of us can't see. We requested they desist (they did). Sitting on your partner's shoulders? NO!!

Sidebeforeself · 26/04/2026 20:47

Looneytune253 · 26/04/2026 20:31

Cannot believe the insanity on this thread. Of course you should stand and dance at a music concert. I can’t even believe this would even be a debate

It’s “you can” not “you should”.Its not in the terms and conditions. People enjoy stuff in different ways..who knew?

flagpolesitta · 26/04/2026 20:47

Looneytune253 · 26/04/2026 20:31

Cannot believe the insanity on this thread. Of course you should stand and dance at a music concert. I can’t even believe this would even be a debate

This!

slashlover · 26/04/2026 20:40

StacksOfSnacks · 26/04/2026 15:44

not everything all at the same time throughout, I don'[t have that much stamina. But yes, I did display normal concert goer behaviour, as did the vast majority of the people surrounding me.

Don't know if people on this thread are being intentionally obtuse or if they simply need to get out more, but the pearl clutching at someone dancing at a concert, singing along to the chorus, and waving their arms on occasion is astonishing.

People paid to hear Louis, not your shitty singing. And, yes, people can hear you.

Pedallleur · 26/04/2026 20:40

Looneytune253 · 26/04/2026 20:31

Cannot believe the insanity on this thread. Of course you should stand and dance at a music concert. I can’t even believe this would even be a debate

I've paid £££ to sit. I will dance/stand at the appropriate time. I know if I see ACDC or Oasis there is a chance I'll be standing all the way. If I see Florence and the Machine (as I did) and someone stands blocking the sightline of 10+ people then the stander should be downstairs on the floor. If everyone stands and I still have a great view I'll sit (Raye/MCR recently).

furrysocks · 26/04/2026 20:39

Not convinced a grown woman needs to scream at a gig tbh - that would do my head in. Mind you, I was at the Magic Flute and the woman next to me decided to sing along to the Queen of the Night aria, which was very similar.

Tshirtking · 26/04/2026 20:39

Looneytune253 · 26/04/2026 20:31

Cannot believe the insanity on this thread. Of course you should stand and dance at a music concert. I can’t even believe this would even be a debate

Stand and dance if you want to. Just don't complain when others tell you to sit down. They have paid to watch the concert, they don't want your body blocking the view.

Looneytune253 · 26/04/2026 20:31

Cannot believe the insanity on this thread. Of course you should stand and dance at a music concert. I can’t even believe this would even be a debate