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Standing at gigs - finally some sense!

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StacksOfSnacks · 26/04/2026 14:49

I love live music and frequently attend concerts and have been utterly baffled in recent years that people behave as they would in the cinema - plonked on their backside, mutely watching. For me it’s all about the immersive experience - dancing, screaming, swaying, singing, waving my arms… But not only are more people staying seated, but I’m actually seeing discourse where people such as myself are being criticised for acting exactly like a typical concert goer - singing and standing.

I went to a show last night and noticed this little note on my e-ticket “People around you may stand!” though I think it should go without saying, finally some sense is prevailing and those whingers can keep schtum now (which they advocate for at gigs anyway 😂).

Disclaimer: I know people will pile on saying that not everyone can stand, and no they can’t and I understand that. I’d support if they wanted to have a section where people stay seated if there’s demand for it. However, I have observed a change in behaviour that is out of proportion even when considering that.

Standing at gigs - finally some sense!
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Pedallleur · 27/04/2026 14:42

Spaghettea · 27/04/2026 12:39

This is like a parallel universe. People sitting for pop and rock gigs 🤯. Literally never done it or seen it happen. Can you imagine sitting for Prince? He'd have lost his shit if people weren't enjoying themselves and dancing.

I'll be standing and dancing at Harry in June. I pay for a seat so I'm not rained on or in the sun. Along with 90k other people who will also be dancing.

I did sit down for Prince but stood when required. He might play a slower number so no need to go crazy. I saw Nile Rodgers last year, utter danceathon and some people remained seated. I was up but checked the row behind were also standing

blubberball · 27/04/2026 14:41

Saw Yungblud at the O2 on Friday. It was a fantastic show, and we were sat in the accessible section. I am unable to stand for long periods, so stayed seated for the show. I can appreciate that people want to stand up and celebrate whatever, and they did. I just looked around the side of the person in front to the best of my ability. I was just enjoying the vibes and singing along. I'm a more casual fan though. I think it's quite expected for people to stand and be excited at gigs

MrsOni · 27/04/2026 14:38

It is a tricky one. I personally much prefer standing at gigs so will avoid seats if at all possible.

The problem is some venues have no standing at all, or not enough, and all it takes is a few people to stand and then the people behind them need to stand, and so on. It must really suck if you can't stand for whatever reason. Some acts will actively encourage people to stand as well. I've seen a few bands at the Hydro in glasgow - which is a fucking awful venue - and most people are standing in the sitting sections, and there isn't always any standing allocation at all.

Maybe venues need to sell sections as strictly no stand, but I imagine actually enforcing that would be next to impossible.

Monty36 · 27/04/2026 14:36

The Symphony Hall in Birmingham will say ‘ some people may stand’ and can be very heavy going if people do sometimes do that.

BillericayDickie · 27/04/2026 14:35

Danikm151 · 26/04/2026 22:09

People who stand for the whole gig piss me off!
I went to see Linkin Park at Wembley last year( after a whole day in London so my fee were sore) really great seats- in line with the stage. the really tall idiot in front stood the entire time but stock still. Couldn’t peer through a gap. That created a chain reaction of more people needing to stand.

cheer- yes
stand when the band encourages it- yes
have no consideration for others around you when you could have just purchased a standing ticket- you’re a twit

wow I am jealous. bet it was good. @Danikm151 (misses point of thread)

Tshirtking · 27/04/2026 14:27

Umbilicat · 27/04/2026 14:11

Lol, I think the miserable people of the world alliance has found this thread and demanded its members all contribute. Artists HATE people not dancing at their gigs. Those who don't like it should stay home and listen to a recording.

Because people who actually study music want to make do with a recording? Get real. My teens study music and perform. All the bands they know personally don't care if people don't dance, they do appreciate people who go and listen to and enjoy their music live though.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 27/04/2026 14:11

StacksOfSnacks · 26/04/2026 15:22

standing on your chair is downright dangerous, I take offence at your implication that my dancing and singing could be compared to such behaviour.

I understand you wanting to stand up and dance, @StacksOfSnacks - but singing along is unacceptable, imo. People have paid through the nose to hear the band/artist, not you! Having someone singing near them will interrupt their enjoyment of the music.

If there are songs where the audience is encouraged to join in, by all means sing along, but the rest of the time, let the musicians do the performing!

Umbilicat · 27/04/2026 14:11

Lol, I think the miserable people of the world alliance has found this thread and demanded its members all contribute. Artists HATE people not dancing at their gigs. Those who don't like it should stay home and listen to a recording.

BananaPeels · 27/04/2026 14:07

Spaghettea · 27/04/2026 12:39

This is like a parallel universe. People sitting for pop and rock gigs 🤯. Literally never done it or seen it happen. Can you imagine sitting for Prince? He'd have lost his shit if people weren't enjoying themselves and dancing.

I'll be standing and dancing at Harry in June. I pay for a seat so I'm not rained on or in the sun. Along with 90k other people who will also be dancing.

With all due respect how on earth do you dance to ‘most beautiful girl in the world’? Are we all supposed start slow dancing with our partners? It is absolutely the sort of song you stay seated for and sing along. I don’t believe everyone was up and jumping up and down for it.

Tshirtking · 27/04/2026 14:02

TanquerayTickles · 27/04/2026 13:49

So am I, and not at Wembley they didn't!

Wembley is hideous anyway. Seems to have it's own rules that apply just to Wembley. Went in my younger days and never again

TanquerayTickles · 27/04/2026 13:49

Tshirtking · 27/04/2026 13:37

I'm old enough to go to the last circus tour. Funnily enough people remained sitting.

So am I, and not at Wembley they didn't!

Tshirtking · 27/04/2026 13:37

TanquerayTickles · 27/04/2026 13:34

Good luck telling Take That fans to sit down at The Circus tour this summer 😂

Yes, people can enjoy themselves without dancing, but at a pop/rock concert, most people want to dance; it is perfectly normal to do so.

I'm old enough to go to the last circus tour. Funnily enough people remained sitting.

TanquerayTickles · 27/04/2026 13:34

Good luck telling Take That fans to sit down at The Circus tour this summer 😂

Yes, people can enjoy themselves without dancing, but at a pop/rock concert, most people want to dance; it is perfectly normal to do so.

Sidebeforeself · 27/04/2026 13:32

Yes I didn’t say they have to sit

FruAashild · 27/04/2026 13:28

Sidebeforeself · 27/04/2026 13:13

And so that people could sit in them

Could sit, not have to sit. The driver for changing terraces to seating was not because people wanted to sit, in fact there have been campaigns for 'safe standing' rather than seating because the majority of fans want to stand.

Sidebeforeself · 27/04/2026 13:13

FruAashild · 27/04/2026 13:10

Stadiums have seats for safety reasons after the Hillsborough disaster to control crowd density.

And so that people could sit in them

FruAashild · 27/04/2026 13:10

Sidebeforeself · 27/04/2026 13:06

People can enjoy themselves without dancing. And I cant believe you have never seen someone sit down….what did you think the seats were for?!

Stadiums have seats for safety reasons after the Hillsborough disaster to control crowd density.

Pricelessadvice · 27/04/2026 13:09

Watching an act live is about the experience- watching the performer and hearing the music. I don’t want to watch Susan and her mates shrieking and dancing two rows in front of me.
If I wanted to dance, I’d go to a disco.

Sidebeforeself · 27/04/2026 13:06

Spaghettea · 27/04/2026 12:39

This is like a parallel universe. People sitting for pop and rock gigs 🤯. Literally never done it or seen it happen. Can you imagine sitting for Prince? He'd have lost his shit if people weren't enjoying themselves and dancing.

I'll be standing and dancing at Harry in June. I pay for a seat so I'm not rained on or in the sun. Along with 90k other people who will also be dancing.

People can enjoy themselves without dancing. And I cant believe you have never seen someone sit down….what did you think the seats were for?!

Tshirtking · 27/04/2026 12:45

Spaghettea · 27/04/2026 12:39

This is like a parallel universe. People sitting for pop and rock gigs 🤯. Literally never done it or seen it happen. Can you imagine sitting for Prince? He'd have lost his shit if people weren't enjoying themselves and dancing.

I'll be standing and dancing at Harry in June. I pay for a seat so I'm not rained on or in the sun. Along with 90k other people who will also be dancing.

Prince also had a no phone policy at his shows, do you think young people today would tolerate that?

Spaghettea · 27/04/2026 12:39

This is like a parallel universe. People sitting for pop and rock gigs 🤯. Literally never done it or seen it happen. Can you imagine sitting for Prince? He'd have lost his shit if people weren't enjoying themselves and dancing.

I'll be standing and dancing at Harry in June. I pay for a seat so I'm not rained on or in the sun. Along with 90k other people who will also be dancing.

Sidebeforeself · 27/04/2026 10:42

FernandoSor · 27/04/2026 10:11

Vast majority of gigs I go to are standing-only. Avoid the big and overpriced venues that have seating and problem solved.

Well it depends what sort of music you like doesnt it? Cant imagine Beyoncé is going to come to my local O2 Academy any time soon!

Gardenquestion22 · 27/04/2026 10:13

At the O2 a few months ago - which has a fairly steep rake - and 2 x 50 somthing old blokes next to me - off their tits on coke I suspect - being complete wank badger - screaming, stumbling, waving their arms 'dancing' - for two pins I'd have pushed them over. Fortunately there were 2 spare seats along from us I could shuffle into and get away from them. I kind of think that kind of behaviour is better in the standing area.

ETA I don't mind people standing in the sitting area - but have a bit of common sense.

FernandoSor · 27/04/2026 10:11

Vast majority of gigs I go to are standing-only. Avoid the big and overpriced venues that have seating and problem solved.

GingerBeverage · 27/04/2026 10:10

This is why I stay home and stare into middle distance.