AIBU to think correcting a slightly unusual name pronunciation is unnecessary?

I think it’s fine for her to correct people and want to be called by her name as it’s pronounced.

YABVVU. They have every right to correct the name if people are saying it wrong.

I hope that you pronounce it properly.

It depends what you mean by that.

If you are a Liza, then people should pay attention to whether you're a Lee-za or Lye-za.

But if you're a Sandra, then there's only one variant of that name, even if people pronounce it differently.

This exactly.

As annoying at it may be. constantly correcting people is not going to win you any friends.

The names Alexander, Sandra and Francis are English language names pronounced differently but completely correctly in different British English accents. No-one is using a wrong sound.

No one in this country properly pronounces my surname. No one in my other country properly pronounces my first name. It doesn't bother me in the slightest and I never correct anyone.

Other people feel differently though and that's fair enough. Although I should also point out that sometimes it is virtually impossible for people to correctly pronounce some sounds, if they haven't grown up hearing/using them. My DF could not make a "th" sound if his life depended on it, so I would for example, find it very unreasonable if someone called "Cathy", or any other "th" name, took offence at this.

I have a very unusual name and yes I correct people otherwise how will they learn? I'm 52 and for the first time in my life I finally heard someone calling their child by the same name as me this year. I nearly keeled over because it was so unnerving!

I also have an unusual last name and when I tell people they 'correct' it to a more familiar name. Sometimes several times. Its bloody annoying. For example if your last name was Janssen and someone changed it to Johnson or Jones.

If someone tells you how they want their name pronounced, you should try and use that pronunciation.

My surname is constantly mispronounced. Cannot be arsed correcting people especially if it’s a one off interaction. I dont care. It’s just a word.

The way OP has said even if the person is most irrelevant suggests it’s people who may never see her again or who “don’t matter”. not friends and people who should take the time to learn how to pronounce?

I have a foreign name, spelt a foreign way but has an English version. My surname is also foreign but I would say quite easy… until someone new absolutely butchers it. I don’t think we ever bothered to tell people and I answer to both. I only know one person who corrected people on pronunciation (ee sound instead of I) and no one thought anything of it and said it correctly going forwards. I don’t think either way is wrong.

Leave her to it. Someone responding to this thread saying they don't bother doesn't mean she IBU to bother.

I like learning different pronunciations. It's genuinely useful to learn that Eva can be "Eh-va" or "Ay-va" as well as "Ee-va" and it might prevent me making an incorrect assumption in the future.

No. Pre-Mouldies.

I'm from the UK. My name's spelt differently to the UK version of it. I don't correct people, even though the UK pronunciation makes it sound like a name I dont like & never have. The country I live in now is an English speaking country and they don't pronounce it correctly either. I can't be bothered correcting people; that'd be a full-time job.

Interestingly, when I lived overseas, and when I've visited other non-English speaking countries, they all pronounced it correctly/differently.

Of course you're being unreasonable. It's staggering to me that you even need to ask. Why wouldn't a child, or the parent of that child, wish for them to be called by their correct name?

I work with a Polish lady called Marta. Im from Yorkshire so my accent changes it slightly. She isnt bothered but again others have corrected me. I cant help it, I dont change it on purpose, so I get the accent thing.

😂 possibly. Ive also had Lauren back on my work experience at school, thought not going to see these people after 2 weeks so Lauren it is 😂

People rarely say my name properly, even after I've just literally introduced myself. It drives me insane and so I let people call me by a diminutive that isn't "me" but saves a lot of aggro when I'm at work. It's annoying when you tell someone your name and they don't say it correctly. I'm 56 and I will always correct people. It's my NAME! A customer once told me that the pronunciation of my name depended on where the person saying it was from. No it doesn't, it depends on what my mother called me, and she called me X not Y! So yes, you are being unreasonable!

My surname - born right here in England but have a Scottish surname - is mispronounced every day. I correct anyone who mispronounces it, every day. It’s not a big deal and your sister isn’t unreasonable.

OP, a name is imoortant, and it’s clearly imoortant to your DSis that people get her child’s name right. Nothing wrong with that.

Pronouncing someones name right is just basic manners.

I would always pronounce someone's name in their preferred way if I'd been corrected about it.
On the whole for my own name, I'm not too fussed either way.
I did, however, object loudly when, on meeting for the first time, an old school pal of my husband's, he proceeded to refer to me by the name of our dog!
And no, my name's not Fido or Rover. 😅

Oh I think we know

It's fine to correct someone, so they get it right. It's only twattish to continue if the person physically struggles with the pronunciation, because of a speech issue etc. It wouldn't bother me, one neighbour calls me Sue, another Carol, as the saying goes, as long as you call me for dinner, I'll answer to anything.

Absolutely fine and acceptable to correct someone who will be using the name a lot - friends, family, teachers etc. The child is entitled to be called her correct name.

For someone you encounter once (or very occasionally) who is never going to have to use the name again, pointless to correct it.

Both of my kids have names that are mispronounced (although the "wrong" versions are used by others with those names). I did (nicely!) correct DS's teacher when he was in infants as it was bothering him, but now many of their friends pronounce their names incorrectly to my ears and I don't say anything as kids are old enough to say it themselves if it annoys them.

My dd’s name is commonly mispronounced -if it is someone we will see regularly then I would correct if it was a one off random (Starbucks etc…) then I/ she don’t care.

If someone keeps getting it wrong we just keep saying it correctly, not pointedly but I might have used her name a bit more than I would normally.

When we lived overseas everyone pronounced my sons name the local way not the British way - we just rolled with it.

So I’m actually with you OP, it only becomes an issue if you make it one. No one who was (is she has grown now so don’t know how it is dealt with now) in regular contact kept getting it wrong and if there was the occasional slip up, no big deal.