AIBU to think correcting a slightly unusual name pronunciation is unnecessary?

Frohn.

I think Yanbu on balance. If you live in a place where there is a 'standard' way of pronouncing a name, you are fighting a losing battle if you insist on correcting everyone who doesn't pronounce it in a way that reflects your personal cultural heritage. To me, it's not comparable to pronouncing a Welsh name incorrectly or persistently choosing the wrong version where there are two equally used variations.

If you choose a name for your child which has a common pronunciation on the country where said child is being raised, then you are a bit of a berk if you constantly insist that people say it differently. This is just a hazard of living somewhere different to where you grew up!

YABU. She is just as entitled to the correct pronunciation of her name as anyone. Names are really important.

I dont think its unreasonable to want your name or your child's name to be pronounced correctly, no.

Frone-cis?

In fairness in the UK both those pronunciations are possible.

I lived in South America for years. My name was difficult for people to pronounce so I just went the Spanish version. It isn't what everyone wants to do but it made life easy and I like both versions.

Ask the founder of Mumsnet how many times in her school years she corrected people who called her by the male equivalent, or a completely different name with the same ending.

I ask every student I meet their prefered pronuniaction, because names are important, they are our identity. I do my best to replicate their preference allowing for (my) regional accent and memory!

ETA: I have a European name that has multiple possible pronunciations depending on country, I'm happy to accept those differences, perhaps because I prefer them to the English pronunciation I grew up with.

My partner has a non-British surname which is routinely mispronounced and if I pick up a phone call for her, I correct the mispronunciation. If it annoys me (which it does), I imagine the almost 70 years she's been experiencing it must be rankling a tad by now.

My name is pronounced differently in different countries/languages. Ditto my children’s names. I don’t insist on the British pronunciation when someone is speaking our other language. It’d be an irritating fusspot thing to do.

On the other hand, I think I can ‘insist’ on either the full or a shortened form of my name, depending on my preference. YABU about that.

I'd love to see you tell my Italian MIL that she doesn't hear someone pronouncing things differently... she'd take that oh so well...

It being "very popular and standard" in Britain doesn't make it her name though. She wants to be called her name. Why is that unreasonable?

People occasionally shorten my name, and while I don't really mind when it's people I'm very comfortable with, I don't like it when it's people I've just met. I introduce myself as my full name because that's my preference and who I feel like I am, don't then call me something different. This is the same.

Italians can't pronounce the short i anyway. The Italians in your DN's family won't hear the difference between the Brits pronouncing it Izz and them pronouncing it Eez.
Ignore your DS, because her Italian in-laws won't be able to hear her being pedantic anyway.

I’ve been watching a few TV shows recently where people pronounce characters names slightly differently. It’s never acknowledged and no one seems to care. In one, the Australian woman calls her son Aaron. She pronounces it Ah-ron. Her kind of boyfriend pronounces it Air-ron. In another show the character is called Fatima. Half the show call her Far-ti-mar and the other half say fati-mer. No one gets upset of offended by it though. I have no idea if it’s deliberate. I’m assuming the director would tell the actor to change it if it wasn’t right?

Of course its reasonable to correct people who mispronounce your/your child's name. Also reasonable to not correct them if you can't be arsed. I live in Finland and my last name is nearly always mispronounced but I don't correct that as I'm rarely called by it (basically just at the doctors) but I will tell people to call me by my nickname which is impossible to mispronounce.

My daughter is called Lyla. Even family friends who've known her since birth (7 years old) sometimes call her Layla. Teachers do it too. She corrects them and so do I, because she isn't Layla and it upsets her.

I think part of OP’s issue is that it seems everyone is corrected, not just family and friends.

I have a name like this and don’t correct people I have no relationship at all with (eg a hotel receptionist). I’d find it pointless and picky to correct people who don’t really know me and never will, but each to their own I guess.

It's rude not to take the time to pronounce someone's name, especially your own niece!

Well, it’s not her name, though. It’s another culture/language’s version of her name. It would be like expecting a Frenchman called Guy (rhymes with ‘see’) to allow himself to be called ‘Guy’ (rhymes with ‘tie’) because that’s the way it’s pronounced in the UK, by family who know what his name is.,

My name is very unusual,

It ends sa - people pronounce is za - it infuriates the hell out of me.

So yes I will correct them - there is no z in my name its a s, an s is softer than a z

I think this is key. I also have a name that some cultures pronounce differently because it contains sounds not common in many languages.

If someone I'm dealing with in passing like cruise staff or hotel staff or basically anyone who is only in my life for a short period then I don't care how it is pronounced.

But a member of the family or someone I work with or socialise with then yes I will correct them and pronounce their name how they want.

I'm still mystified by this whole "frohn" thing.

I’m guessing Frarn-cis as the person in question is from London.

Frarn-cis or barth make absolutely no sense as a phonetic transcription of the sounds involved when you have a rhotic accent as most Americans do (as rhotic accents pronounce all the r’s in a word).

I have a rhotic accent too and was really confused when I first saw people using ar like that on MN. I’m used to it now. From my point of view ‘frohn’ makes more sense than ‘frarn’ does 😁

My midwife was called Eva, pronounced Ev-ah. I wouldn’t have called her Ee-vah because that wasn’t her name!

I’d just do everything I could to avoid saying her name.