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At what age does it stop being acceptable to be smashing a ball against a wall on a quiet Sunday morning in a residential area?

65 replies

Watermelonsugar44 · 26/04/2026 12:25

We have lived next door to a family with a son who is obsessed with playing “tennis “ against the wall for about 10 years now.

He hits the ball at about serve level intensity.

It wasn’t too bad when he was younger as it was mainly after school and also our son who is a bit younger also used to play football outside, so although it was a bit annoying, it was understandable.

It got a bit worse around GCSEs and a levels as he obviously had more spare time, so would be thwacking it multiple times a day into the evening and starting about 8am usually.

He is now at uni (hoorah) but seems to be home a lot, still thwacking multiple hours of the day. He must be 19+ by now….

He hits it against his garage wall which is right next to our kitchen and office where my husband works from home and our bedroom above.

He shows no signs of stopping. He doesn’t seem to go out or see friends ever, or work.

We have never said anything because I’ve always presumed it’s just a phase and prefer to keep the peace, but this is ridiculous isn’t it?

OP posts:
BudgetBuster · 26/04/2026 12:54

A phase? For 10 years?

zukinizen · 26/04/2026 12:51

Life is never perfect. Poor boy, this seems his whole world

PrincessHoneysuckle · 26/04/2026 12:51

The sound of a ball bouncing or being hit on something really enrages me so I definitely think YANBU

Avantiagain · 26/04/2026 12:46

His age isn't relevant to this.

Peony1985 · 26/04/2026 12:44

MasterBeth · 26/04/2026 12:42

If he was hitting it against a communal wall, I would be all against this but... he isn't. He is practising a sport in his own garden in the daytime.

Don’t be daft.
If he was having loud parties Op would say something. Or the neighbours had a barking dog. Noise nuisance is a thing.

MasterBeth · 26/04/2026 12:42

If he was hitting it against a communal wall, I would be all against this but... he isn't. He is practising a sport in his own garden in the daytime.

Peony1985 · 26/04/2026 12:41

Just ask him if he could find somewhere else on Sundays as it’s very noisy and disruptive to his neighbours.

Coconutter24 · 26/04/2026 12:41

I’m not sure why age is relevant it is annoying however old the child is. Seems unfair that it was annoying but acceptable when your child was making some of the noise but now they’re not it’s a problem? How often is he home if he is at uni? It’s surprising the parents haven’t said anything because even if that was my own child I wouldn’t let them go all day

Odetoabeachandafern · 26/04/2026 12:37

You have been extremely patient, kind, and understanding op!

Special needs aside (he never goes out?) I think you have more than earned the right to stick your head out of the window and ask politely if he could please practice elsewhere as your dh is trying to make Zoom calls on the other side of the wall!

He is of the age when presumably he can take himself off to the local sports centre?

TheWonderhorse · 26/04/2026 12:37

Can you not say something to him? Come to a compromise?

Morepositivemum · 26/04/2026 12:36

We have a kid next door who practices football day in day put noisily- I love it! Mh wise it probably helps him, or maybe he’s a squash player or something! Or maybe he just doesn’t have any friends and this is his outlet, maybe he has mh difficulties- there’s a range of different excuses but at the end of it all just be sure before you make it a thing to your neighbours as maybe he or they need it (I know a young autistic lad that does similar, it’s his outlet)

ImthatBoleyngirl · 26/04/2026 12:31

No age is acceptable imo. I wouldn't let my kids do it.

Okiedokie123 · 26/04/2026 12:29

What have the parents said when previously you've mentioned it to them? Surely you have at some point

Jackiepumpkinhead · 26/04/2026 12:27

It’s not acceptable at any age. I would have spoken to the neighbours years ago.

LittleBearPad · 26/04/2026 12:26

Have you spoken to your neighbours. I think after 10 years I might have mentioned something.

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