why is it hard to like other people’s boy children

Because you're sexist.

I feel this may be a you problem?
I have a great relationship with my nephew, my cousins boy and the 40 odd boys I come into contact with at work each day.

I can’t comment on the boys in your life, I have a few in mine and they’re mostly pretty sweet nice kids. I will say that I know a lot of adult women in relationships with men who have turned out to be pretty toxic partners (I’d say half of them, other half wonderful so it’s defo not all men) and I do wonder at what point the learned narcissism begins. It probably didn’t start at 40 or 30 or 20, I’d assume there’s something in the way that half of society parents boys. It probably starts very young so maybe you’re on to something!

I know a lot of girls who are similar to how you describe these boys. However I will say that I know more girls who have been taught to be compliant, fit in, behave nicely, make themselves smaller and quieter than I know boys who've been taught that.

I am a teacher and see approx 100 boys daily. They are a mix of funny, kind, friendly and annoying. Just like the girls. If the boys in the home environment are being boorish and annoying then call it out. Also, reflect on the possibility that you’re raising meek girls so the contrast is jarring….

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All this post did was make me feel desperately sad for your stepson. Poor kid. A step mum who dislikes him and a father who married, and stays married, to a woman who dislikes his child.

Well my 12 year old boy cleans his room,
clears the table, actively asks to help and isn’t overbearing. I personally think he’s one of the most tremendous people I know

It sounds like you just don't like THESE particular boys very much.

If you haven't managed to bond with SS after 5 years, I suspect he's long since picked up on your dislike, and I'd imagine the feelings are mutual by this point.

In my experience as a primary school teacher, I'd actually say that boys are the easier and more naturally likeable sex. Especially in the 9-11 demographic, but all the way through really. I think there's some truth in the saying that boys are simple creatures compared to girls, who I personally find to be much more complex and difficult.

Dont be ridiculous, coming online with a goady post citing an encycolepaedic knowledge of exactly three children, to make sweeping statements. Intellectually lazy and now getting pious and defensive citing the patriarchy instead of recignising how extremely lightweight and silly your position is - at least the way you have framed it in your posts on this thread,

Catch yourself on

I have a 15 yr old son, and had a lot of contact with his friends in primary school. They were all very different personalities to be honest.
Currently I volunteer with primary age boys and girls. Again, they are all very different. Some boys and girls are a joy - some not so much!

Misandryst.

Some kids of either sex are entitled like their entitled parents.
If a dad is a total twat towards his partner and d his sons are learning that behaviour just as the d are learning that men and boys are 'in charge'.
I have boys and girls and all are respectful of the opposite sex because that is how they were raised to be decent law abiding citizens.

The exact opposite happens in our house. My son is helpful and shows love through acts of service. My dad is the same.

My daughters are so, so lazy and whine and moan if asked to lift a finger and then don't do anything even when disciplined. It's an ongoing battle.

I laughed at that too. Something Must Be Done.

I was going to say the same. I've got a boy and I'm not saying this as their mum but he's regularly commented on how pleasant he is. I love spending time with his little boy friends too. I've met brattish, unsuffereable girls as well!

There seems so much hatred for all men and boys from quite a significant section on mumsnet. You see the ones, sobbing when they find out they're having a boy or a second boy that they'll never have a daughter and "little bestie". I genuinely wonder how many of them manage to procreate in the first place given their views on men.

Your DH was a boy once. And your daughters will probably end up in relationship with men and this may lead to grandchildren in the future. So it may be worth reassessing your views on boys OP.

Ask yourself this. Would they really have different parenting if they were girls? Some parents are just shit or baby/pander to their kids too much.

Have you ever considered if you fail to like ANY boys then maybe you’re the issue OP?

My friends who have got a boy and a girl often say the girl is much harder work.

No experience as only have one lovely son.

Yes we need to tackle misogynistic behaviour as a society. Stating that you don't like boys is really not the way to go about that. It's the opposite. Seeing the best in boys and encouraging and supporting them to be wonderful men is an excellent way to do it.

The men and boys in my life are amazing. They are all different of course but generally gentle, helpful, straightforward, calm, capable.

My son is an incredibly sweet and fun child, and his group of friends are all absolutely lovely kids. They make me hopeful for the future of men, and therefore women.

Oh give over