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AIBU to feel hurt after my husband admitted feigning support?

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ckm043107 · 25/04/2026 23:44

Over the past five years, I lost both of my parents within a short period of time. Given how close I was to them, I’ve experienced significant and ongoing grief. Recently, my husband told me that he has been pretending to support me during this period. Is it unreasonable for me to feel shocked and upset by this?

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ckm043107 · 25/04/2026 23:51

Oricolt · 25/04/2026 23:47

I'm sorry for your loss, Op. That sounds like a very tough time.

I'm a bit unsure what the difference between supporting you and pretending to support you is?

He said that all comforting words etc have not come from the heart but just going through the motion of pretence unfortunately.

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Mumtobabyhavoc · 25/04/2026 23:48

Pretending to support you @ckm043107
How so? Did he elaboration on his actual feelings and opinions?
I think I'd be questioning everything about him and your relationship and then asking myself if it's worth it. 💐

Oricolt · 25/04/2026 23:47

I'm sorry for your loss, Op. That sounds like a very tough time.

I'm a bit unsure what the difference between supporting you and pretending to support you is?