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To be furious with DH for this?

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Coffeecherrymama · 25/04/2026 22:05

First night home since giving birth and DH has gone out with his mates drinking and still isn’t home and he isn’t answering any calls or messages. He didn’t give me any choice, he just said he was going out with his “mates” and then left and said he would be back before 10pm but he’s still not home! I’m so angry that he has just left me here with our newborn when he knows I’m struggling but his mum says I’m overreacting and that he’s “entitled to a night out”! I feel like I could just cry to be honest! AIBU?

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Pinkissmart · 25/04/2026 22:17

NuffSaidSam · 25/04/2026 22:11

YANBU

But what I don't understand is how has this side of his personality never shown itself before? Because either this is who he is and you've made a baby with a complete prick or this is wildly out of character and he's having a breakdown/got a brain tumour.

Cut it out. It’s not OP’s fault

Decacaffeinatednow · 25/04/2026 22:16

He is a total fucking bastard. So is his enabling mother

SunMoonandChocolate · 25/04/2026 22:16

Was he like this when you had your first baby OP? Is he the sort who is always out with his mates, and an absent parent most of the time? If so, then you've made a huge mistake having a second child with him. Are your parents around at all to offer support, or is it just his Mum who gets a say in your lives?

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Coffeecherrymama · 25/04/2026 22:16

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What the hell?? I don’t keep him caged up??

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Coffeecherrymama · 25/04/2026 22:15

thistimelastweek · 25/04/2026 22:12

That he's a selfish git goes without saying.
But how did his mum get to have a say?

Because I called her assuming she would be appalled at his behaviour and get him to come back home

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Summerhillsquare · 25/04/2026 22:15

Well you're very tired/absorbed with baby so you'll have to lock the door and go bed, what a shame!

Fourlittlepiggies · 25/04/2026 22:15

I can’t believe what I am reading. I’m so sorry OP, completely not ok.

AgnesMcDoo · 25/04/2026 22:13

That’s appalling behaviour

thistimelastweek · 25/04/2026 22:12

That he's a selfish git goes without saying.
But how did his mum get to have a say?

NuffSaidSam · 25/04/2026 22:11

YANBU

But what I don't understand is how has this side of his personality never shown itself before? Because either this is who he is and you've made a baby with a complete prick or this is wildly out of character and he's having a breakdown/got a brain tumour.

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Coffeecherrymama · 25/04/2026 22:09

TakeALookAtTheseSwatches · 25/04/2026 22:08

No yanbu at all. Is this your first child? If it is I think this is probably him showing you what kind of parent he's going to be. An uninterested and absent one.

Our second child x

His mum is saying he’s “entitled” to a night out and “entitled to celebrate the baby” but I’m absolutely furious

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TakeALookAtTheseSwatches · 25/04/2026 22:08

No yanbu at all. Is this your first child? If it is I think this is probably him showing you what kind of parent he's going to be. An uninterested and absent one.