To be furious with DH for this?

YANBU, but don't involve his mother in your marital disputes. If you act like he's a child (who has to do as his mummy says) why should he think he has to act like an adult?

DHs mum, get off the bloody thread 😄.

OP your DH is a twat and his mum is his flying monkey, backing him up so you have to take being treated like garbage. Women like her is what creates men like him.

Can't believe Im reading this tbh. You deserve 100% better. Don't ever bother speaking to your mother in law again about anything substantive.

I'd leave my husband if he did this, anything could have happened to you or the kids.

What an absolutely terrible attitude. Shame on you. Are you a man???

Ask his mum if he will be looking after the baby tomorrow then, while you take the night out you’re entitled to?

Oh yuk. What an insensitive “mother in law”you’ve got. So sorry OP.
Going forward, you’ll know now not ever to look to her for support again.
Did you not realise until now that she was that sort of woman?
(FWIW If it was my son I’d tear him a new one).
Have you any decent female support to turn to? Mother, sister, friends?
Sending you massive hugs.
if you eventually ditch this waste-of-skin man, at least you now have an indelible record of her behaviour that you can eventually tell her grandchildren about.
Hang in there OP. 💐

He and his mother are awful. He's left you at home by yourself with a 3 year old and newborn days after giving birth. Wow!

Weren’t you at least a little sad that your DH would rather be out with mates than at home with you are you his new baby?

He is disgusting OP. There is no excuse. None. Keep hold of your anger. What a selfish bastard.

Are you his mum?

His mum needs to butt out. She’s the reason he’s so entitled. He’s needed at home, with his family, not with his mates.

What a selfish twat. Is he home?
He needs to grow up fast.

Yes, at 25 his bloody frontal cortex is fully formed, so what’s his excuse? He’s not 16 ffs.

This is unforgivable in my opinion. What a prize twat he is. I hope you had an ok night with the baby 💐

As if. HV's don't do relationship counselling.

Dont live your relationship through his mother. He should have his own moral compass by now.

Christ, what have I read?! You poor thing.
I hope you did keep the key in the door last night, what an utter shit.

By all means 'wet the baby's head' but you both need to be in agreement as to when this could happen and not treat it as a normal bloke night out!

And now, you'll be dealing with a stonkingly hungover miserable fucker all day 🤬 and as for the MIL....😑

Hope you're ok OP. Congrats on your beautiful baba.

Ignore the MIL.

Really sorry OP. Hope you are ok.

That's absolutely no excuse. He has chosen to father two children. He isn't a young teen.
@Coffeecherrymama, his behaviour is disgraceful. I can't believe his misogynist mother is defending him.

Yes selfish and annoying but then he's 25.

I divorced my ex-H over this behaviour but it wasn’t a one off, it was from months of going out until 7am (yes, 7AM!!) he said it would calm down when we had DD but it didn’t. I had a post partum breakdown and was suicidal and catatonic, my parents had to take DD when she was 5 weeks and that woke him up.

he was great (read: bare minimum for a normal decent partner) for 3 weeks and then one night he said he wanted to go clubbing again. I was exhausted and ended it then and there. DD was 10 weeks old.

This happened after months of this behaviour, refusal to change or take accountability and DARVO tactics (because apparently reaction to his behaviour was unreasonable). And he was still shocked I left him despite telling him many many times I would do this. He was 36.

I’m not saying your DH will be like this because this was a very special breed of insanity and early midlife crisis imo. But it is a BIG deal he left you as soon as you got back from hospital. You need to have a serious conversation that this behaviour is unacceptable and you need support. He has 2 children, one newly home from hospital with a wife who is recovering from childbirth. He has no right to do be doing this and if he has a problem with it he should have thought about that before having kids.

For reference my ex is now miserable. He sees DD as much as he wants but he’s a glorified babysitter. None of our friends speak to him anymore, he lives with housemates in a flat share because he can’t afford his own place (I was the bread winner earning 90% of the household income) and while he is free to go out now as much as he likes, all his friends now have kids and wives and happy stable lives while he is in his late 30s in a flatshare with no family and no prospects. Karma is real.

Lock the door and let him sleep at his mums since he’s entitled to a night out. What a prick

What has his mum got to do with it.
Hes her son so she probably feels sorry for him having to watch you give birth, maybe hes traumatised
🙄. He should not have left you to go out.
Very unfair

He clearly doesn’t love you. Suggest you act on that accordingly.

That's clearly not a very helpful thing to say to someone who's just given birth, is it?

Yes