To be furious with DH for this?

You are just making stuff up. There is no evidence that he has 'been down the hospital no end and supportive for months'. In fact, the evidence points to him being a spoilt, self-centred and selfish mummy's boy who does what he wants without caring about the consequences for his wife and children.

If he had just had surgery on his bollocks would you have left him at home with a one day newborn and another child to go drinking

There is your answer

I don't say this lightly but that would actually be the end for me. The disrespect is fucking unreal

You are a better person than me I would lick the door and if he threw a paddy I would call the police . He can go sleep at his moronic mums house

go back to reddit, incel

Most couples don't have that age gap so I'm not sure why you thought that! You repsonses reek of the manosphere way of thinking, you dont appear to live in the real world. And if you think he's entitled to behave this way in front of his children then you're clearly not a parent. Going to the hospital every now and then does not justify his behaviour. Judging by your other responses you're on the wind up and definitely a troll, most probably a male one.

Plan A- let him go to Ibiza ,change locks. get your sister to pack his stuff & take to his mums. Realise its over.

Plan B- same as plan A

Has he not mentioned this?!?!? He is planning a trip to Ibiza in 2 days time??

If he goes then I'd be packing his bags and taking them to his parents house.

How has he 'earned it'? The OP is the one who was pregnant, risking her health in pregnancy, probably morning sickness and other health issues, then painful long labor and childbirth. What did he do? Fuck all other than 8 seconds pleasure and no health issues at all for 9 months. An easy ride. No change for him. Nothing. Seriously, what on earth has he done to 'earn' it? If anyone's earned anything, it's the OP!
OP, I think we have some Mens Rights Activists on this thread. Ignore them.

Who said anything about getting another man

What a complete scumbag he is. The apple clearly didn't fall far from the tree if his deadbeat mum's attitude is anything to go by. I wonder what she would have thought if she had a baby at home and a newborn and come back from the hospital and your father in law left her alone to go to the pub all night. How would she feel then? Maybe she needs to remember what it was like to have a young child at home and newborn at home on the first day.

He is garbage! He should love you enough to want to look after you on your first day at home! He should be cooking for you and wanting to be there! I'd tell him you are very serious right now about getting a divorce because you didn't realise what a deadbeat husband and father he would turn out to be, and if he goes to Ibiza, you WILL be filing for divorce and to bet on it, don't call your bluff.

Do you have a father that can read the riot act to him and put the fear into him?

OP isn’t though

@Coffeecherrymama did you MEAN tickets for Ibiza? Did you mean Ibrox? (Scottish football ground)

Please, get the locks changed while he is gone.

One day you will be on your deathbed. Will you look back and think “I’m glad I did all that trolling on Mumsnet. That was a life well spent”.

The fact that my post made your thoughts go to meeting another man says a lot about your mindset.

The OP would be better off letting this man-child go and focusing on herself and her children.

@ElatedPinkSeal Not every woman feels that having a man by her side is the pinnacle of her existence.

Unbelievable, isn't it?

Time to himself? On the day his wife and newborn are released from hospital? Leaving her, the newborn and a 3 year old alone? For 17 hrs with no communication? Overnight? Then coming home drunk/drugged up,scaring the 3 y/o and vomiting everywhere?

Don't think that is quite the right time..

It seems like he should be the one to be evacuated from the property, not her, who may literally have had a baby as recently as yesterday. She should be in no way required to pack/ organise all of baby and toddlers stuff ready to go elsewhere. Christ I could hardly move at that point even though it was a ‘normal’ birth I recall feeling like I’d been hit by a lorry. She should be in a lovely post partum bubble being attended to. Someone needs to come and collect this useless lump and clean up all his bodily fluids on the way out.

To be fair, he’s probably been down the hospital no end and supportive for months, why shouldn’t he get a bit of time to himself as well. Not to mention that he will no doubt have to go back to work soon to support you both. I was surprised by the age of the DH, 25 is very young for a man to have a kid nowadays. I was expecting more like DH 35-40 and wife early to mid 20s

Odd a 25 year old would be printing off boarding passes, so the latest update reads suspiciously to me.

However, in the spirit of fairness and believing the OP, I would personally let the prick go to Ibiza and use the time to end the marriage.

I know it won't be easy OP, but this man has no respect or care for you. He doesn't give a shit. You are only 27 so can save yourself from a whole load of mental torment and heartache by wising up to him NOW.

He didn’t give me any choice, he just said he was going out with his “mates” and then left.

He's no more "entitled" to a night out than you are - arguably considerably LESS so as you've just been through a pregnancy and childbirth. What would have happened if you had also decided to make plans to go out with your friends without checking with him and the children were left alone overnight ??

His mother is either an idiot or a liar (or both); if you can't avoid her then at least ignore/disregard her input.

Does sticking the boot into OP when she's one day post-partum make you feel good about yourself?