To be furious with DH for this?

You are an absolute superstar to be coping. He wouldn’t get back into the house ever again if it was me. I hope his Dad sees him for what he is when he picks him up. You have grounds for divorce and I would imagine custody of the children considering the state he’s in. Take photos of him while he’s out of it.
Im so glad your sister is going to be with you. Take care and please keep us posted if you can. Congratulations on your new baby. 💐

Did your mother have other people there to help her with the newborn and possibly other small children? Because OP was alone with no support, and her DH knew that.

My ex did exactly this with our 1st born. I was so upset and could never forget, what was meant to be a special moment.
Unfortunately he didn't improve.

Solicitor for you tomorrow if this is real.....I am absolutely flabbergasted that hes going on holiday without telling you when you have a newborn and a toddler!

Stop having a go at @ElatedPinkSeal.
Opinion forum.
If you don't like the opinion, you don't need to get personal.
My father was out for three days after I was born.
Yes, it was 47 years ago, in another country, mother was quite privileged.
Guess what, everyone survived and as a father he taught me stuff and gave me great experience for life to cope with.

@ElatedPinkSeal nothing right about that age gap either!

Problem is we only read your side here OP….

not defending in any way but there must be a reason he s like this , unless he’s a cf and I am sure you wouldn’t marry one of those ….

I think your best option is to cut your losses here OP.
I wouldn't bother reading him the riot act, I would smooth things over and act normal meanwhile I would write down everything that had happened and start building a divorce case. Don't do anything to tip him off, focus on organising things so that you can get rid of him fully and make sure there is no way back for him.
Don't communicate with his parents or if you do make it completely neutral, they will not support you at all they will be in his corner fully.

Thinking as well since hes been sick everywhere he needs cleaning and disinfecting so I would pour bleach all over him maybe get some in his mouth or eyes

simply gone on a night out…..on the day she comes home from hospital with a new baby!! What utter bullshit you’re saying!!

That’s exactly what men are supposed to use paternity leave for 😂

Idiot!

I would 100% leave him for this.

Vile behaviour

Wow OP his behaviour is disgusting and can't believe his mum doesn't see an issue with it! Hope he is out of the house soon, you need to do some serious thinking about this relationship

Your MIL is an absolute bellend

I thought he had simply gone on a night out

The fact is that the OP had just came back from hospital giving birth! Common sense and morals say a father would be home for the mother of his child on the first night she returned home from the hospital giving birth!!! That does not need explaining to anyone even a quarter decently raised properly. He could have gone out a month from now. He should have been home with her, cooking for her, making her a cup of tea, running her bath etc for that FIRST NIGHT HOME.

Lock the fu#@*ng door and leave a note for him to go to his mother’s! And, if you’re up for taking him back … it’s payback time, BIG TIME ! I hope you can feel the warmth of the sympathy you’re getting on here. Best wishes from me for you, your DC and new baby.

He is a scumbag who isn’t ready for kids. He’s young to have a family and is probably regretting his choices. What an idiot. I think you’ll be better off without him tbh. His mum sounds rough as well. I hope your sister can support you a bit.

Ibiza is a clubbing island. You're thinking of Mykonos.

I feel for you. It would be good if your sister could stay and give you some support. You say he is not normally like this but if he has a ticket for Ibiza, there seems to be other things going on. Leave him to sweat for a day or two and see if you can work things out. Do not engage or take calls from his mother, it sounds like she is facilitating/encouraging his behaviour.

I would have kicked the shit out of him whilst he is so drunk and unable to move then rub his head in his sick (i probably wouldn't really as I have emetophobia) then I would drag him outside leave him there in the pavement and rip up his tickets to ibiza. And yes you should divorce him!

Ummm wow just wow isnt ibiza the gaycation spot??

calm down! I’m just speaking from my experience. Nothing wrong with that age gap! Didn’t read the full thread originally and yes it does sound a lot worse now and uacceptable. I thought he had simply gone on a night out - the stuff about coming back in that state and the trip away is clearly unacceptable

Im confused why he has a physical ticket for Ibiza… wouldn’t that be on his phone?

@ElatedPinkSeal i just read your expected age gap? Why the fuck do you expect a 15 year age gap?!

What on earth makes you imagine this random scenario that has no bearing on the ops situation?