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To be furious with DH for this?

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Coffeecherrymama · 25/04/2026 22:05

First night home since giving birth and DH has gone out with his mates drinking and still isn’t home and he isn’t answering any calls or messages. He didn’t give me any choice, he just said he was going out with his “mates” and then left and said he would be back before 10pm but he’s still not home! I’m so angry that he has just left me here with our newborn when he knows I’m struggling but his mum says I’m overreacting and that he’s “entitled to a night out”! I feel like I could just cry to be honest! AIBU?

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Swiftie1878 · 26/04/2026 14:25

LizandDerekGoals · 26/04/2026 13:58

He has probably always been selfish but op didnt notice until she had to be completely selfless as she became default parent.

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He’s booked Ibiza! 😂😂😂
This didn’t come out of the blue. OP must be trolling or missing out a HUGE back story.

WannaSweetie · 26/04/2026 14:24

I couldn’t get past this I’m afraid, how awful for you OP 💐💐

can we get past the printed tickets please 😆 maybe his mate booked it for a load of them & gave them all a hard copy as they’re travelling to the airport separately.

IAmBeaIDrinkTea · 26/04/2026 14:21

Lotrgot · 26/04/2026 14:19

DP going to vote Reform. We have never agreed on politics, but this is just shit. I don't know how I feel about him tbh. Im voting Green. I have said please dont tell anyone, i would be mortified! Don't really know what I'm asking here. Just wanted to get it off my chest and see what others think.

Maybe better off making a thread about that instead of in here?

Lotrgot · 26/04/2026 14:19

DP going to vote Reform. We have never agreed on politics, but this is just shit. I don't know how I feel about him tbh. Im voting Green. I have said please dont tell anyone, i would be mortified! Don't really know what I'm asking here. Just wanted to get it off my chest and see what others think.

ThatBlackCat · 26/04/2026 14:17

freaking · 26/04/2026 14:05

Tickets for Ibiza ? Do they even still do paper tickets ?

Yes. Why wouldn't they? Not all of us use smartphones or even when we have them use the net. Mine can't even do QR codes, for example. Have no idea why. Many of us still prefer paper ones and demand them even if we have a smartphone. Something nice about having paper tickets to keep as a keepsake in a memory folder/box. Can't do that with a bloomin screen.

PurpleLovecats · 26/04/2026 14:15

Trading all your updates, this would be the end of my relationship with him.

I have no idea why you’re engaging with his mum, he’s not her responsibility and she’s clearly an enabler do she’s not going to show you any sympathy,

Go it alone, he’s not worthy of you all.

What an absolute fucking twat he is.

Figgygal · 26/04/2026 14:12

he's got 2 kids at 25 it's hardly a surprise he's showing himself too be immature

kohlrabislaw · 26/04/2026 14:11

freaking · 26/04/2026 14:05

Tickets for Ibiza ? Do they even still do paper tickets ?

Yeah sounds unlikely doesn’t it.

FreeRider · 26/04/2026 14:09

Yeah...

To be furious with DH for this?
freaking · 26/04/2026 14:05

Tickets for Ibiza ? Do they even still do paper tickets ?

Whyherewego · 26/04/2026 14:03

Memeyoulater · 26/04/2026 11:45

Plan A- let him go to Ibiza ,change locks. get your sister to pack his stuff & take to his mums. Realise its over.

Plan B- same as plan A

Good plan !

cantthinkofagoodusername1 · 26/04/2026 14:02

I’m so sorry OP, no one should have to go through with this. Sounds to me like you have an extra child to deal with. Long term you’ll find it easier without him around, it sounds like he just creates mess and chaos.

Givemeachaitealatte · 26/04/2026 13:58

Coffeecherrymama · 25/04/2026 22:09

Our second child x

His mum is saying he’s “entitled” to a night out and “entitled to celebrate the baby” but I’m absolutely furious

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Your MIL is the reason the 'boy mum's stereotype was invented. I would be mortified and livid if my son did that and would march him home from the pub myself.

YANBU OP in the slightest.

LizandDerekGoals · 26/04/2026 13:58

Swiftie1878 · 26/04/2026 13:51

There HAS to be a huge back story here, surely?

He has probably always been selfish but op didnt notice until she had to be completely selfless as she became default parent.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 26/04/2026 13:56

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That’s unhinged

ForeverTheOptomist · 26/04/2026 13:56

Coffeecherrymama · 26/04/2026 10:38

Found Ibiza tickets for Tuesday in his wardrobe now!! I’m actually raging!!! I feel like I could actually divorce him right now because I’m so angry

I feel like I just want to cry

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I said yesterday, early on in this thread, that I felt it ill advised to start telling OP that she should consider divorcing DH given that she had just given birth. I retract. Divorce the bastard.

Namingbaba · 26/04/2026 13:56

Some of the suggestions are just mad. Don’t assault him and keep things off of social media

ChillingWithMySnowmies · 26/04/2026 13:54

Ilovecakey · 26/04/2026 13:47

How would he know it was her who did it. Doesn't sound like hes in a state to remember anything

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Don't be ridiculous. You could blind someone, and it isn't even funny to jest about.

rainbowstardrops · 26/04/2026 13:54

Well that all moved on quickly.

ChillingWithMySnowmies · 26/04/2026 13:52

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don't troll hunt, if you don't believe it, report it and leave the thread.

ThatBlackCat · 26/04/2026 13:52

PigglyWigglyOhYeah · 26/04/2026 13:44

Apologies - I voted YABU by accident. You absolutely are NOT being unreasonable.

You can undo your wrong vote by clicking on the right one, you know. For some reason not a lot of people on Mumsnet know this, or have tried.

Mydogisagentleman · 26/04/2026 13:52

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Swiftie1878 · 26/04/2026 13:51

There HAS to be a huge back story here, surely?

Poetnojo · 26/04/2026 13:51

I would LTB, and I never really say that, plus I would hide his passport.

LizandDerekGoals · 26/04/2026 13:50

Coffeecherrymama · 26/04/2026 11:35

Ibiza! I’m absolutely raging, feel so angry but so upset too

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I actually wouldn't mention id found them and i would just take them.

he doesnt like you. Dont waste your life with him.