To be furious with DH for this?

Why do you have to wait for his father? His behaviour is unacceptable. Tell him to leave. Absolutely no use to you - especially if he’s going to Ibiza Tuesday.

hes clearly been taking drugs to be still drinking at 9am so I wouldn’t want him around the children. Have you checked his pockets to check there are no empty bags or left over drugs around that your toddler could potentially pick up

OP next time a healthcare professional comes to see you (not sure how often that is now) tell them what is going on and they might be able to direct you to agencies for support. His behaviour is unacceptable both in terms of caring for you and caring for your children. Going on an all night bender when your wife has just got home from having a baby is not “high jinx” or a “party lifestyle” ; it is abuse.

Did he tell you when he booked the Ibiza trip, seems a tad selfish to not tell you at all,,,

What a prince!

can you go to your parents?

definately kick him out. Pack up all his stuff and change the locks when he goes to Ibiza

Is he conscious yet?

Has he anything to say for himself?

Has he gone? Do you have friends and family that can help you recover ?

As someone who is involved in courts helping lots of litigants in person (women): a LOT of these responses will see you far far worse off legally. Do not do any of these. You will end up stunned at how quickly his legal team will be able to characterise you as an abuser in the relationship. And you would have handed them the evidence. Because that is precisely how the courts or anyone who has ever studied a single law textbook will characterise the following.

• Changing the locks to exclude a co-owner = Unlawful eviction (Protection from Eviction Act 1977)
• Locking a co-owner out of their home = Unlawful eviction / interference with right to occupy
• Filming him drunk is filming someone incapacitated in a private home without consent = Misuse of private information / breach of privacy
• Filming and using footage to control or distress = Controlling or coercive behaviour (Serious Crime Act 2015)
• Seizing or withholding someone’s passport = Theft / controlling or coercive behaviour
• Destroying his ticket or giving it to your sister = as above.
• Defacing or destroying someone’s passport = Criminal damage / theft

OP you are in a highly vulnerable state post birth. Come off MN, enjoy your babies . Ask your sister to take you somewhere nice even if it’s a nice hotel. If indeed your DH has funds to be going to Ibiza with you can go to a hotel for a couple of days with your sister. Such an expense is arguably necessary for your mental health, marriage and judging from some of the wild suggestions, at this stage, for your liberty too.

In fairness, I'm in my 30s and I usually do print copies out of most tickets to anything, because I have anxiety that I won't be able to pull up the e-tickets when I need them. Manage it by creating myself a physical back up.

He doesn't want to be married with children any more, Coffee. Face facts, he is far too immature for the implications of all that.

You are in a dreadful position here but if you can afford to kick him out, do. At the very least it will be a wake up call for him, make him grow up.

Not many men are married with two kids at 25 these days. You are young too, you deserve a better life.

And drunk 20 somethings apparently!

Oh fuck me, he would be kicked out for staying out all night and coming home throwing up everywhere, but especially when you add on his little Ibiza holiday just after his baby is born. Absolutely fuck that. Off to his parents who sound like that’s where he got his entitled twatness from.
You’re better off without him. FFS. It would put me right off him and we would be over.

Yes, they do, for elderly people who don't have phones.

Always with the enabling mothers!!! She obviously didnt raise him right! Y@ou are entitled to support from your selfish twat of a husband!!

So along with not giving you any support when you are straight out of hospital; he chose to ignore your frantic messages causing you anxiety, and he has created rank mess that you cannot ignore.

It can. My ExH booked himself into a health spa for the whole of the second week after my DD was born. He 'needed it to recover from the stress of the birth'. I divorced him a couple of years later. I then found out much later that he had taken a so called friend of mine with him.

Aye right 😁

Nope they don’t even do paper boarding passes let alone proper tickets

OP I’d love to know which airline was that 😂

Who prints out tickets anymore?

Can you get one of his friends to take him, or put him in a taxi, or get your sister to take him to his parents? Shred the tickets and change the locks, if you do.

Can you get your father to pick him up, read him the riot act, and dump him at his fathers?

Nah it’s same old same old. She knew. They are always this bad, but many women choose to go along with it. She’ll forgive him and probably have a third.

Looks like it!