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Why do people prefer to rent rather than buying a house?

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Cocktailglass · 25/04/2026 21:14

Genuine question, AIBU to not get that in the long run you pay off mortgage, own your home to pass on to your DC and rent, especially with the high rates now, is dead money?

I do of course understand getting a mortgage is harder now and house prices, I'm talking about people who have been renting all their lives.

Unless having rent paid for on benefits, I don't get why anyone working hasn't got on the property ladder, less to pay every month with a long term mortgage, eventually nothing to pay unlike rent.

As I said, not talking about now, but decades ago. You showed your earnings, were offered the best deal of what you could borrow, bought your first home within these means, a starter home with the intention of paying far less for payments than rent, property goes up in value, you buy your next home without too much of an increase, still less than renting. So the upgrading continues and initially you just get what you can afford to get on the ladder.

Renting does give you the benefit of any problems being the responsibility of the landlord but all depends on how good they are! With council properties in a much better position as houses are upgraded and issues dealt with (hopefully) more quickly.

Plainly speaking, you work, give a significant part of your income to someone else just to live in their house, pay bills and CT. What's the benefit of this rather than knowing you're paying straight into a loan for your own property, a financial asset, it's yours? Xxx

OP posts:
PuggyPuggyPuggy · 25/04/2026 23:23

Cocktailglass · 25/04/2026 21:59

That's the point, it was much cheaper to buy decades ago of you read, talking about this time.

And decades ago, there were also people who couldn't afford to buy, just like there are now. It's only a mystery to people who cannot fathom that some people have less money than they do. I suppose you will now wonder why these people don't just get a better job.

WhistPie · 25/04/2026 23:23

The OP said:

As I said, not talking about now, but decades ago.

Well decades ago, I got a 100% mortgage and didn't need a deposit, just a £250 reservation fee. Every time I moved, I got a bigger house & used my buyers deposit as my deposit. I now live in a house worth 5 times what my original house is worth, and haven't had a mortgage for a decade or so.

Different times.

cestlavielife · 25/04/2026 23:22

mortgage for cheapest property I could afford, repossession with light fitments ripped out, mouldy carpets, back garden a jungle. It was mine, worked hard to make it better

Well well done you!
But that might not work for many reasons....

And maybe you got unexpectedly preganant with twins or a child with disabilities or expected to work away three nights a week meaning a jungle reposession is not realistic vs a walk in ready rental.

Maybe a rental you dont have to clear mouldy carpets and jungle is better option right now for 2 or 3 or 12 or 20 years...

RosieSpring · 25/04/2026 23:14

Laurmolonlabe · 25/04/2026 22:34

My brother could afford to buy from early on in his career, but chose not to- he was very mobile and lived abroad, which I am sure informed this decision.
Finally aged about 55 he decided to buy- if you don't like the hassle of homeownership, and like to move often it might be for you. I am sure given the opportunity about 95% of people would prefer to buy though- retirement is very difficult if you continue to have a large outgoing like rent.

I think this is a very different situation to most people who are renters and can't afford to buy and don't have a choice. But maybe the OP was thinking about people like your DB and not people who don't have the means to buy.

DuckyLuck · 25/04/2026 23:12

Cocktailglass · 25/04/2026 21:57

Absolutely not being goady at all! I used to rent but at the first opportunity of getting a mortgage I did. I honestly really do not understand why anyone would give money to landlords. I saw my rent money as just gone, so looked at getting a mortgage for the cheapest property I could find, same area. Half the amount in payments so the money saved from meant I could use it to make it my home.

Really? You honestly don’t know? Ignorant.

Kelticgold · 25/04/2026 23:10

Cocktailglass · 25/04/2026 22:25

Honestly not being goady at all! After renting for 6 years, landlords who did the bare minimum for house problems, limited control of what I could do to improve down to colur of paint, still doing all the things to maintain your home like painting fences, getting new carpets to make it better.

Having worked since age 16 and studying, got a good job, just saw rent money as a waste, put away a bit every month over years for a £5000 deposit, mortgage for cheapest property I could afford, repossession with light fitments ripped out, mouldy carpets, back garden a jungle. It was mine, worked hard to make it better and the mortgage was half of what I was paying so that saving meant I could put into my house.

This really is the basis for my question, my own experience, decades ago, which I made a point of saying because it's different and harder now.

Did you rent for 6 years? Why did you not buy earlier?

fundamentallyauthentic · 25/04/2026 23:10

This really is the basis for my question, my own experience, decades ago, which I made a point of saying because it's different and harder now.

But this basis has little relevance now, because it is MUCH harder now to buy.

Delphiniumandlupins · 25/04/2026 23:10

A lot of people who rent will have children who think that renting is a perfectly normal way to live. It offers flexibility. There's still quite a lot of social housing around and that means a secure tenancy and (usually) less problems getting repairs done. There's no unexpected costs.

cestlavielife · 25/04/2026 23:08

Cocktailglass · 25/04/2026 22:04

Yes i know, I rented for 6 years before thinking about a mortgage. I wasn't earning much but saved a bit every month to put down a deposit of £5000 for first property.

Well yeah. And what is a 5k deposit gonna get you today?
Except shared ownership etc. Which not be right for various reasons.
Some people have to rent for multiple reasons
Some choose to rent because the buying compromise eg location etc does not work for them. For a short or long time.
Do not diss other people for renting.
It is not dead money ...you paying for a roof and maintaining that roof.
Now, availability and cost is another story..
Bring back more social housing/ more affordable secure rentals

Crushed23 · 25/04/2026 23:08

Renting allows me to live exactly where I want to live.

My apartment to buy would be about $2m. I can’t afford to buy in this neighbourhood, but it’s where I want to live, so I rent. It’s as simple as that. 😊

ZebraPyjamas · 25/04/2026 23:08

Cocktailglass · 25/04/2026 22:13

That's my whole point, a mortgage is more affordable. Yes you need a deposit but back in the day it was a low amount.

What I’m paying in rent would be more than what I would pay in a mortgage for the same value house but I can’t get a mortgage because of my income, single person and number of dependants. As a couple we did have mortgage approval but rubbish timing in the housing market meant we kept just missing out on houses by being outbid. So for me and many like me while in theory I could afford mortgage repayments, no institution will lend to me due to the aforementioned issues so I will be renting forever, not by choice.

DiamondCity · 25/04/2026 23:08

I literally don’t know anyone who ‘prefers’ to rent. I’m sure those people exist and have good reasons for their preference. Most people would much prefer to be able to buy. It’s not as straightforward nowadays, much larger deposits for even basic starter homes are required in many areas of the country and if you have children that affects your affordability. If you’re buying on your own, you’re in an even more difficult position.

In the end it’s non of your business really but I think you know that.

fundamentallyauthentic · 25/04/2026 23:07

likelysuspect · 25/04/2026 22:27

No they're not necessarily shit holes. you know this is where people live, thrive, send their kids to school and have family dont you?

People live there and buy houses and work.

How arrogant do you sound to write off whole areas of the country as a shit hole.

Where I live in fact, the leafy south east coast, I could get a one bed flat for 100k.

Move north and you can get plenty.

I said some of them are in shit holes. People live in them, so what? You haven't pointed out anything groundbreaking.

ValueofNothing · 25/04/2026 23:03
  1. I'm childless so no one to inherit my property anyway
  2. I'm single
  3. You need a deposit to buy a place. And it's harder to get one together if you're single and not a high earner. I'm surprised this isn't something you've ever considered before.
  4. The size of my rented flat and the city centre location is out of my reach in terms of a mortgage, but not if I rent. I could get a mortgage and buy but would have to live somewhere smaller and on the outskirts of the city, away from work and public transport. (I am aware that is not the set up in every city but it is how it works in mine.)
Abso · 25/04/2026 23:00

zukinizen · 25/04/2026 22:13

the majority of renters have it from the government? a life tenancy on a council house which rent you can afford especially if it is paid for you? that is a good deal and you don't sweat the small things to be able to find a job. You might not leave an inheritance but at least you have where to live until you are alive

Not true. The majority of renter's are in private rentals.

Zov · 25/04/2026 22:58

likelysuspect · 25/04/2026 22:27

No they're not necessarily shit holes. you know this is where people live, thrive, send their kids to school and have family dont you?

People live there and buy houses and work.

How arrogant do you sound to write off whole areas of the country as a shit hole.

Where I live in fact, the leafy south east coast, I could get a one bed flat for 100k.

Move north and you can get plenty.

How jolly lovely for you that you live in an area that is 'nice' and you can get a 'nice property' in a 'decent area' for £50K to 100K. 🙄

However, many people in most parts of the UK CANNOT get a property so cheap, and certainly not in a nice area. The cheapest property within 10 miles of me is £195K, and that is a 1 bed flat. Houses, (even small, terraced 2 beds) start at £250 to £270K! Why the hell should someone have to move MILES away from family and friends to be able to buy a property?

Ridiculous attitude. Bet you're a fan of Norman Tebbit eh? Got no jobs in your town? Get on your bike and ride to another town for one! Can't afford to buy in your town or village? Move 100 miles away to the North East! Or to Jaywick! Plenty of cheap 'properties' in Jaywick. Roll up, roll up!

Good grief! Hmm

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Reinventedblanket · 25/04/2026 22:57

Such a ridiculous post. I've just bought my first house at 45. Ive always rented because I didn't have the money for a deposit and it took me a long time to save for one.

Abso · 25/04/2026 22:57

SurreySenMum26 · 25/04/2026 22:49

I didn't know people prefer to rent.

It's not secure that you can stay, that the rent will stay the same. My friend rents and her rent goes up disproportionatly every time the initial period is over.

Even if you don't pay the mortgage off, you always have your equity.

Equity can go up and down as well. My friend never had any equity the whole time she owned her house.

ThankyouBakedP0tato · 25/04/2026 22:56

I rented for 20 years whilst saving up a deposit and I was lucky to have good private landlords. The pro's of renting for me were:

  • having oven, fridge, shower fixed or replaced if they broke
  • having the garden cleared if I asked
  • boiler servicing every year, new boiler when it was needed
  • any repairs to roof, walls, pipes fixed
  • no responsibility for any building repairs or major maintenance
  • freedom to move whenever and wherever I wanted

It's more long term security now that I've bought - but there was no way I could have afforded all that white goods, boiler and building maintenance when I was starting out.

Abso · 25/04/2026 22:55

Whilst a mortgage is often (but not always) cheaper than rent, you also need a sinking fund for emergencies - boiler goes, roof leaks, a window is smashed. And for minor repairs, dodgy electrics, a sink leaks etc. A survey won't pick up most of that stuff, even a new boiler can fail.

Owning a house is a lot of responsibility and not everyone feels up to it. Renting is stressful and so is owning. Different stresses and people pick the stress they feel comfortable with.

RosieSpring · 25/04/2026 22:55

He invented some disability and left work and said to the job centre he cannot find work anymore and they are homeless

Yes, the job center are known for logging someone's made up disability and asking the council to hand them a house...

LocalHobo · 25/04/2026 22:53

I like the lack of responsibility. I can spend weekends having fun, not doing maintenance, gardening etc.

CypressGrove · 25/04/2026 22:49

Cocktailglass · 25/04/2026 22:13

That's my whole point, a mortgage is more affordable. Yes you need a deposit but back in the day it was a low amount.

What's back in your day got to do with people who can't afford a deposit now? Of course this is a a goady post - unless you are exceptional thick??

SurreySenMum26 · 25/04/2026 22:49

I didn't know people prefer to rent.

It's not secure that you can stay, that the rent will stay the same. My friend rents and her rent goes up disproportionatly every time the initial period is over.

Even if you don't pay the mortgage off, you always have your equity.

hahabahbag · 25/04/2026 22:46

I do have acquaintances, former colleagues that said to me “why are you buying?” As they went off on yet another mini break on the new budget airlines then moaned 10/15 years later they couldn’t afford to buy so for some their lifestyle choice impacted there position later but for anyone under 30 it hard in some areas that said my dsd has bought a house with her dp, but had to trade off where it is, 45 minutes from work