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What would you do in this situation

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Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 20:06

Had some free items outside the house in a box clearly labelled as free. Someone came to pick something up I had offered separately and also took a dinning set that was outside that was mine. I’ve told the they said they would return it still haven’t. I thought it was clear enough but obviously not. I did Aplogsie fo the mistake however it’s still not been returned. Surely in. Way it’s stealing?

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Netcurtainnelly · 25/04/2026 21:49

if the person that took it was nice they would give it back.

Hollyhobbi · 25/04/2026 21:49

When you said dining set, I thought you meant a table and chairs not a dinner set!

Queenhecate · 25/04/2026 21:48

Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 21:44

It was boxed plates cups and bowls etc

That’s a dinner set.

a dining set to me was always a table and chairs.

Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 21:46

Jellybunny98 · 25/04/2026 21:00

Good for you.

Yes being a good person isn’t hard

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Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 21:45

ShetlandishMum · 25/04/2026 21:01

Tbh learning by doing. Don't place things next to a sign with "free".

Wasn’t next to sign saying free though as stated

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Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 21:44

Dollymylove · 25/04/2026 21:37

Why didnt you put the non free stuff inside your house?
If you want it back go and get it yourself

I can’t with no address

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Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 21:44

Queenhecate · 25/04/2026 21:39

how did you fit a dining set in a bin bag?

It was boxed plates cups and bowls etc

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Queenhecate · 25/04/2026 21:39

how did you fit a dining set in a bin bag?

GeishaTrumpet · 25/04/2026 21:39

Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 20:59

Well just goes to show people’s mind sets. I personally wouldn’t keep something someone said wasn’t to take

Do you have any of her details? Or is it just someone from social media?

Dollymylove · 25/04/2026 21:37

Why didnt you put the non free stuff inside your house?
If you want it back go and get it yourself

ShetlandishMum · 25/04/2026 21:01

Tbh learning by doing. Don't place things next to a sign with "free".

Jellybunny98 · 25/04/2026 21:00

Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 20:59

Well just goes to show people’s mind sets. I personally wouldn’t keep something someone said wasn’t to take

Good for you.

Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 20:59

Jellybunny98 · 25/04/2026 20:50

No, but this was your confusing mistake and won’t interest police in the slightest so chalk it up to a mistake.

Well just goes to show people’s mind sets. I personally wouldn’t keep something someone said wasn’t to take

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Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 20:58

PillsBox · 25/04/2026 20:53

Yeah but it was only shite that you wanted rid of.

If you won’t go and get it, it doesn’t look like you’ll get it back.

Stuff I could have Sold yes

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PillsBox · 25/04/2026 20:53

Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 20:46

I don’t have her address and don’t drive. She also took enough stuff for free so not unreasonable to want the one thing back she shouldn’t have taken she got quite a bit from me

Yeah but it was only shite that you wanted rid of.

If you won’t go and get it, it doesn’t look like you’ll get it back.

Jellybunny98 · 25/04/2026 20:50

Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 20:44

So it’s okay to steal?

No, but this was your confusing mistake and won’t interest police in the slightest so chalk it up to a mistake.

Evaka · 25/04/2026 20:48

Situation sounds really weird and of your making I'm afraid.

newornotnew · 25/04/2026 20:47

What do you mean by dining set?
An indoor table and chairs, or a garden table and chairs?

I don't really know what your next move should be!

Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 20:46

PillsBox · 25/04/2026 20:44

I’d go and pick it up from them and apologise for the confusion I’d clearly caused.

I don’t have her address and don’t drive. She also took enough stuff for free so not unreasonable to want the one thing back she shouldn’t have taken she got quite a bit from me

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PillsBox · 25/04/2026 20:44

I’d go and pick it up from them and apologise for the confusion I’d clearly caused.

Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 20:44

Jellybunny98 · 25/04/2026 20:33

I’d chalk this up as your mistake to be honest and move on

So it’s okay to steal?

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KilkennyCats · 25/04/2026 20:44

A dining set in a bin bag??
Rather silly to leave it in the front garden at all, never mind beside a pile of stuff labelled “free”.

Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 20:44

Lmnop22 · 25/04/2026 20:35

Putting something outside next to a box marked “free” which was separate is bizarre.

If it was your son’s couldn’t you have organised him to collect it another time or taken it out to him when he was there??

Wasn’t next to the box

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Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 20:43

ColdAsAWitches · 25/04/2026 20:41

Told them when? How long ago was it? If it was an hour ago you're being unreasonable. Last week, less so.

On Tuesday

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ColdAsAWitches · 25/04/2026 20:41

Told them when? How long ago was it? If it was an hour ago you're being unreasonable. Last week, less so.

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