What would you do in this situation

Shopping7777 · 2026-04-25T19:06:31+00:00

Had some free items outside the house in a box clearly labelled as free. Someone came to pick something up I had offered separately and also took a dinning set that was outside that was mine. I’ve told the they said they would return it still haven’t. I thought it was clear enough but obviously not. I did Aplogsie fo the mistake however it’s still not been returned. Surely in. Way it’s stealing?

Oreosareawful · 26/04/2026 18:32

If you’ve spoken to her via messenger, you can ask for her address to go and collect your plates?

still a ridiculous situation, that you caused!

Moonnstarz · 26/04/2026 18:21

Shopping7777 · 26/04/2026 18:18

I was out when he wanted to come

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Does he not have a key to your house?

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Shopping7777 · 26/04/2026 18:18

Fairyliz · 26/04/2026 17:39

This is really weird, why would you put your son’s plates out in the garden?
Surely you would leave his stuff in kitchen, bedroom, hall? Yes a bit annoying but he’s your son! Were you just expecting him to pick them up from the garden and not speak to you?

I was out when he wanted to come

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Moonnstarz · 26/04/2026 17:47

I think you need to let this one go.
Sounds like they thought it was a yard sale and anything in the garden was available, which is an easy mistake to make with you having a sign out and by the sounds of it also having posted on social media (hence how you contacted them to ask for it back).

As others have said it seems odd to leave your son's dinner set in a bin bag in the garden. Why wasn't it in the house or in his room?

somanychristmaslights · 26/04/2026 17:46

I can’t even follow what’s happened, so no wonder the other person was confused 😂

Fairyliz · 26/04/2026 17:39

This is really weird, why would you put your son’s plates out in the garden?
Surely you would leave his stuff in kitchen, bedroom, hall? Yes a bit annoying but he’s your son! Were you just expecting him to pick them up from the garden and not speak to you?

KilkennyCats · 26/04/2026 17:30

Shopping7777 · 26/04/2026 16:02

No I’m having a clear out as moving not selling the plates. I’m saying I could have sold stuff not that I did

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Why did you put stuff you were about to give your son in the garden, in the first place?
Isn’t he allowed in your home?

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Shopping7777 · 26/04/2026 16:02

Schoolchoicesucks · 26/04/2026 10:20

I thought it was stuff for your son. Were you selling it to your son? How much would you have sold it for?

Yes I think she should have asked if she could take it and failing that should have returned it once she was told it wasn't up for grabs. But given that hasn't happened, think I'd chalk it up as a life lesson around not leaving stuff outside in bin bags that I wanted to hold onto.

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No I’m having a clear out as moving not selling the plates. I’m saying I could have sold stuff not that I did

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Shopping7777 · 26/04/2026 15:59

Lmnop22 · 26/04/2026 13:19

How did you know who had taken it if it was just a stranger on the street taking something he/she thought was free?

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Because it was through Facebook therefore I had a messages thanking me for the dinner set and other stuff she took

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Lmnop22 · 26/04/2026 13:19

Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 22:01

Through message

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How did you know who had taken it if it was just a stranger on the street taking something he/she thought was free?

Schoolchoicesucks · 26/04/2026 10:20

Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 22:01

It wasn’t junk….it was literally stuff I could of sold but decided to help others won’t make tha mistake again

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I thought it was stuff for your son. Were you selling it to your son? How much would you have sold it for?

Yes I think she should have asked if she could take it and failing that should have returned it once she was told it wasn't up for grabs. But given that hasn't happened, think I'd chalk it up as a life lesson around not leaving stuff outside in bin bags that I wanted to hold onto.

puppycuddles · 26/04/2026 10:12

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 25/04/2026 23:08

Why would anyone in their right mind put a load of plates and dishes that they actually wanted into a bin bag and dump it in the front garden?

I was wondering the same thing.

If you'd planned to sell them, why were they in your front garden?

Also, how can you believe that they were stolen? They were next to the free stuff.

I was also wondering how anyone could do something so foolish and then act surprised to find out everything has been taken.

It's not surprising this person thought the dinner set was there for the taking, they reasonably assumed you wanted to get rid of it, why else would anyone put their plates and mugs in a bin bag in the front garden when advertising free items!

That said, the person should return the set since you've explained the mistake but somehow I doubt they will at this stage. I think you have to accept that the dinner set is gone due to your own foolishness.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 25/04/2026 23:08

Why would anyone in their right mind put a load of plates and dishes that they actually wanted into a bin bag and dump it in the front garden?

I was wondering the same thing.

If you'd planned to sell them, why were they in your front garden?

Also, how can you believe that they were stolen? They were next to the free stuff.

Franjipanl8r · 25/04/2026 22:29

I think we need a diagram to show what this outside space is and where the items were.

KilkennyCats · 25/04/2026 22:12

This thread is pure ludicrous.
Why would anyone in their right mind put a load of plates and dishes that they actually wanted into a bin bag and dump it in the front garden? Nonsense.

youalright · 25/04/2026 22:09

So why was a box of plates outside where you trying to sell them

PillsBox · 25/04/2026 22:05

Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 20:58

Stuff I could have Sold yes

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Yeah but you couldn’t be arsed with the hassle so it suited you both.

BlueMum16 · 25/04/2026 22:03

Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 21:45

Wasn’t next to sign saying free though as stated

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How far apart were they? I have a big front garden but it could look like everything out there was 'free' especially if other stuff had been taken and left gaps.

You are not getting this back.

Stuff for your DS should have been in the house.

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Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 22:01

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 25/04/2026 21:59

How did you contact her to ask for your things back @Shopping7777?

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Through message

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Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 22:01

Skybluepinky · 25/04/2026 21:53

You were lazy and instead of taking stuff to the recycling centre or charity shop, dumped it outside and did a label saying free, then you are annoyed that they removed your junk.

It wasn’t junk….it was literally stuff I could of sold but decided to help others won’t make tha mistake again

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KilkennyCats · 25/04/2026 21:59

Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 21:44

It was boxed plates cups and bowls etc

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A dining set is a table and chairs, op. I wondered how you’d gotten it into a bin bag!
Why did you leave it in the garden, though, that’s a fairly inexplicable thing to do?

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 25/04/2026 21:59

Shopping7777 · 25/04/2026 20:46

I don’t have her address and don’t drive. She also took enough stuff for free so not unreasonable to want the one thing back she shouldn’t have taken she got quite a bit from me

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How did you contact her to ask for your things back @Shopping7777?

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 25/04/2026 21:57

So it wasn't a table and chairs?

ExitPursuedByABare · 25/04/2026 21:53

Leaving stuff outside on the pavement is asking for it to be taken in my opinion. Especially as there was already stuff to be taken nearby.

Skybluepinky · 25/04/2026 21:53

You were lazy and instead of taking stuff to the recycling centre or charity shop, dumped it outside and did a label saying free, then you are annoyed that they removed your junk.