AIBU or is this not 100% my fault? *Warning - involves sex and a bit graphic /gross*

Well? Are you binning him?

He's the disgusting one. Get rid. The only thing he should be doing here is apologising profusely. The last thing he should be doing is blaming you. You really need to get rid of this POS.

He’s gross OP. A mature adult would not make you feel shame for your body doing something that bodies do, especially when he caused it. He should have laughed it off and helped you both clean up.

tmi but I was giving oral to someone once and threw up (no head pushing involved, totally my own doing) and I was so embarrassed and apologetic and he was so nice and kind, cleaned myself and him up, made sure I was ok/comfortable etc - it happens let alone with him causing it and he should never have treated you like that

This. Get him drunk and ram his throat and see how he likes it. You can't even consent properly when you're drunk.

Date your own age

My God, this is not a good person, OP. Walk Away.

I'd be so tempted to offer to repay the favour and try ramming a cucumber down his throat without him gagging and vomiting. What an arse.

Get a large banana or dildo and ask him to let you ram it forcibly down his throat to see how he likes it. What a vile piece of shit, dump him immediately you deserve better than that.

Even if you hadn’t vomited on him you should not stay with someone who pushes your head like that.
There are red flags all over the place with this guy. Apart from the head pushing, him reacting like that and not seeing or admitting that it was what he did that made you vomit is a big red flag.

yanbu. Bin him.

OP please leave (and safely). I assume you don’t live together as it’s a relatively new relationship so hopefully it won’t be too complicated. This is concerning and his behaviour may escalate.

You couldn't help it, it was an involuntary action. Dump him. Sure it's not a nice experience for him but it hardly was for you either, and he initiated it. You have nothing to apologize for.

Your throat is not a sex organ, its not designed for a penis. If you ram a dick into someone's gag reflex they will be sick. Especially if you do it without consent

Just like if you ram it up someone's arse you'll get shit on it. If you stick your penis in a jar of Jam you'll get jam on it. What did he expect?

It's not your fault and I would be leaving him based on his reaction

Nope, I’m afraid your furious accusation doesn’t work, because I asked my question before OP had made any replies to anyone.

Take yourself somewhere to regulate your emotions.

He probably will as he seems to think it’s OP’s fault.

Dump him right now.

He is the one going over it. Did you read what OP said?

Doing something that makes you gag whilst having sex is of course a reason to dump someone

He’s the gross one not you. And I agree it’s assault.

Pushing your head = red flag
His reaction = red flag.

You know this but you need to leave him

'most people agree it’s not a good sign'

It's not just not a good sign, its a blaring red siren. Get rid of this deluded creep and find someone much nicer x

I vommed over my husbands leg in the early days I wasn't even drunk just ill. He didn't even mention it he just looked after me cleaned the bed,himself and held my hand as I drifted off to sleep. Op there is a man out there that will cherish you even when you've vommed on them! but it is not this man! You deserve so much more.

Absolutely not your fault.

I remember dating a new guy back in 2010. When we went to have sex for the first time, my period started right as he slid it in, and he screamed in shock like a little baby, called me disgusting, got dressed, left and I didn't see him again, because HE refused.

Some men are just twats.

I'm so sorry op you did nothing wrong that's 1000% on him. Him pushing your head down is a giant red flag as is his behaviour afterwards. That man will see you as a object to serve him and any human emotions, needs, illness you dare to show will be a inconvenience to him. Run so far away from this man op.

What he did is absolutely NOT okay.
No good man would do anything during sex that would take control away from you without explicit discussion BEFORE in a not sexual moment, especially knowing you've previously experienced SA.
Giving oral puts you in a vulnerable position, It is easy to choke/have your breathing restricted by the penis, so the man should never be the one controlling/dictating depth.
Hand holding hair or on the back of the head resting, fine, but pushing down at all trying to force more of himself into your mouth is imo sexual assault.

Geting vomited on is him getting off very lightly, he should be ashamed and disgusted with himself, not you.

He's just shown you who he is, and that he's not respectful of boundaries and can be abusive, i'd urge you to please, put your safety first and leave this man.

He is the disgusting one - run in the opposite direction. Not normal. He doesn’t want a human girlfriend with inconvenient human aspects like stomachs so I’d recommend he leaves the human race well alone and invests in a sex doll.

Fuck this man and all like him. I hope he gets dick rot.