AIBU or is this not 100% my fault? *Warning - involves sex and a bit graphic /gross*

Again, another man that’s watched too much porn and thinks women enjoy this sort of behaviour

Darling, you did nothing wrong.

Just seen this is a zombie thread - sorry.

He's horrendous. Unless you have actively told him you enjoy him doing that, he should not be doing it.

I suspect it's potentially dangerous too, though I am no medical expert. And very unpleasant/painful/scary if you aren't expecting it and don't want it.

And even if you asked him to to do it, he still ought to be aware that vomiting is a potential outcome when you forcibly trigger someone's gag reflex like that.

Fuck him off now - you never push someone's head down and he knows what you have been through - fucking bastard.

I'm not a woman, but holding someone's head during oral sex is a massive NO unless you ask if it's ok and they clearly stop what they're doing to say 'yes.' What did the idiot expect to happen apart from she's going to vomit? It's ludicrous behaviour. Any man telling her 'it's your fault' isn't old enough to be having sex with anyone.

His fault!

He is the gross one!

Choking a woman in oral is common in porn.

LTB.

Sending a 🫂

I don’t see how this has got to 7 pages.
His fault 100%
This will escalate
Bin

I think we can assume the 'men' who hate women are on this thread now.

I would counsel against any more detail.

Ah. Right. Plus there's been a couple of anti-women comments on this thread.

You're right to flag it.

If I said what I thought you should do to this man I would be banned from MN

Yes. You can be play fighting with someone giving gentle taps but if he punches you in the face hard it's still assault.

Just for this

I’m late 20s, he’s late 30s.

and he pushed your head down….

I think your gag reflex did you a favour. Kick this predator to the curb

"My partner very suddenly forced a sex act on me without asking for my consent. It caused me to vomit. Instead of apologising profusely and asking if I was OK and trying to help me, he called me disgusting, stormed off and is now sulking about it."

There, fixed it for you OP.

The fact that he is blaming you tells you he is training you to suit his needs.

He is training you to be tip toeing around him and doing what he demands, too scared to 'cause a fuss'.

Huge red flag for an abusive arse who will 100% get worse and worse.

Be glad you've discovered this early on and RUN.

Not your fault at all - perhaps he’ll think twice about doing that in future (if you stay with him that is).

Giving a man oral, does not mean you consent to him ramming his dick down your throat, FFS. How porn sick are people now days?

Let me help you, if I have sex with a man, it doesn't mean I get a free pass to shove my fist up his arse. Im sure you can understand that one, can't you? Well brace yourself, this may shock you, but women have the same rights as men and arent just blow up porn dolls.

The only thing you've done wrong is to apologise!

Tell him forcibly that what HE did was disgusting, and it's his own stupid fault that you were sick on him.
Oh, and tell him never ever to do that to a woman again.

And then leave him. As others have said, this is an abusive relationship, you need to move on.

Really horrible OP. Sorry that happened to you.

the fact he hasn’t apologised for his part is a red flag

Dump.
Kick to the kerb.
Burn all evidence.
Get fucking rid.

This is not going to end well. Run, don't walk.

There are two threads about this in the last 24 hours both by first time posters, the other one doesn't feature vomit.
I think some men might get off on women being outraged by such scenarios, and how degrading it is, just seems a bit of a coincidence

Tell him you only threw up for a second.

Then block him and never suffer his pornsick bullshit again.

Nope, this is big red flag territory. Get rid.

Walk away, you deserve better.