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Things people do that baffle you 2

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jenzzi · 25/04/2026 09:10

Following this thread https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5520735-things-people-do-that-just-baffle-you?page=40

Things included
talking on loudspeaker in public
very elderly people who shop on Saturday morning
people that stop at shop entrances
people park next to you in a car park that is about 20% full

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What does either a specific person in your life, or just the general public do, you just don't understand why they do it, and you either can't ask the...

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OP posts:
Isittimeformynapyet · 25/04/2026 17:58

newornotnew · 25/04/2026 17:36

They have their reasons, they want to shop on Saturdays.
What's not to understand?

I didn't say I don't understand. I said I was surprised. I'm sure many do have reasons, but "because I've always done that" isn't a very good one. It's unnecessarily rigid and flies in the face of common sense.

But you're still going to infer that I'm saying they shouldn't arent you ...

For the record, anyone can shop anywhere at any time. And that is my firm opinion.

TerryCallierLookAtMeNowNsoul · 25/04/2026 17:56

Isittimeformynapyet · 25/04/2026 17:33

That is NOT what the pp said or implied.

Thanks for the NIPPY reply

ForeverTheOptomist · 25/04/2026 17:55

TerryCallierLookAtMeNowNsoul · 25/04/2026 10:35

Social contact

is important for many elderly people that have no one so that wee chat with someone at the bus stop or checkout person may be the only people they'll speak to that day.
A bit more patience and understanding wouldn't go amiss

Someone in the last thread about 'baffling' complained about a couple who walked around their 'estate' and talked to people as they went.

It incensed me.

Someone else said that the thread was 'Judgy''. It was. Time after time.

Just needed to get that off my chest!

Am enjoying this thread! Thank you!

Puffalicious · 25/04/2026 17:48

People who let in the cheeky bastard drivers. e.g. road works, so road down to one lane; we've all been queueing for ages at rush hour; a cheeky fecker drives at super fast speed down the lane which is soon blocked - signs & lights everywhere- sticks on their indicator & expects to be let in. We could all have tried to do that, mate, but we've waited our turn. Cue someone then letting them in!!!! Rage inducing. Happens every, single day at the minute!

Whatexcellentboiledpotatoes · 25/04/2026 17:40

I saw on thread 1 that the reason whole families go shopping together has been explained on another thread. I can't find that thread.

Would someone please tell me why?

Onefortheroad25 · 25/04/2026 17:40

People who pull out in front of you and then drive like a snail. Drives me mad!

newornotnew · 25/04/2026 17:36

Isittimeformynapyet · 25/04/2026 17:31

I think the point is that busy people shop when they can, not when they necessarily want.

I wouldn't say that people who don't work during the week shouldn't go to supermarkets at the weekend, but I'm surprised they choose to when it's all so much calmer during the week.

But the previous thread was full of the usual MN faux misunderstanding, with people saying "how dare you tell people when they can and can't shop!"

They have their reasons, they want to shop on Saturdays.
What's not to understand?

Isittimeformynapyet · 25/04/2026 17:33

TerryCallierLookAtMeNowNsoul · 25/04/2026 11:20

I beg to differ through voluntary work I meet a lot of elderly people with no one.
So because you see elderly couples you don't think loneliness is an issue🤯

That is NOT what the pp said or implied.

Isittimeformynapyet · 25/04/2026 17:31

Flamingojune · 25/04/2026 11:10

I can't believe all this anti old people shopping bollocks. Its so entitled and self important to think only 'busy' people should shop when they want.

I think the point is that busy people shop when they can, not when they necessarily want.

I wouldn't say that people who don't work during the week shouldn't go to supermarkets at the weekend, but I'm surprised they choose to when it's all so much calmer during the week.

But the previous thread was full of the usual MN faux misunderstanding, with people saying "how dare you tell people when they can and can't shop!"

Katemax82 · 25/04/2026 17:30

mondaytosunday · 25/04/2026 17:22

@Nitgel - what do you think the bell is for? It’s to warn you they are coming up behind you!
As for elderly people - as mentioned on another thread my parents shopped daily as part of their routine. And yes that would include a Saturday!
This has probably beeen mentioned as I have not read all of last thread but why do people on MN and local WhatsApp or WIWIKAU ask questions that Google could answer instantly. ‘What time does our high street Sainsbury’s close’ ‘Can my YP choose their insurance on results day’ ‘what tax do I have to pay if I sell X’…. And on here specifically: nub theory or ‘what should I name my baby/cat/puppy’ and ‘is there a line or…’?

The nub theory was right on my stepsons partners scan (despite him saying it was bullshit) but mine was totally wrong

newornotnew · 25/04/2026 17:29

jenzzi · 25/04/2026 13:16

80+

There are two generations of retired people. Those who have retired in the last 15 years. Then those who have been retired 15 plus years. Both groups have different views etc.

Yet society treats all retired the same way

You really shouldn't stereotype in this crude way.

newornotnew · 25/04/2026 17:27

jenzzi · 25/04/2026 11:03

Majority I see are couples. I don’t think it’s a social issue.

I don't understand why you think older people shouldn't shop on Saturdays?

Humans enjoy routines, if they've done that for sixty years, why do you need them to stop?

ItsJustMeMyself · 25/04/2026 17:25

Neighbours playing their shitty music in their gardens. Your taste of music is shit. You're a shit person for being rude.

lovealieinortwo · 25/04/2026 17:23

why do people on MN and local WhatsApp or WIWIKAU ask questions that Google could answer instantly.

@mondaytosunday Surely Google could answer most questions posted here? So MNs would be redundant

GreyfriarsJobbies · 25/04/2026 17:23

DuchessOfStuffit · 25/04/2026 15:57

People who tell everyone every intimate detail of their lives/relationships then complain that everyone knows their information or complain about all the drama in their lives.

Then say, "Well, it's okay for you. You have no issues or drama in life..."

Yes, I do. I just don't talk about it to all and sundry.

On a related note - thinking that stuff you post on social media is still somehow 'private'. In 2026. There's been a few threads where the OP has complained that somebody has acted on something they'd posted on Facebook (or wherever), and part of their beef is that this is a 'misuse of their private information'. And they're able to vote/drive/have kids. The mind boggles.

mondaytosunday · 25/04/2026 17:22

@Nitgel - what do you think the bell is for? It’s to warn you they are coming up behind you!
As for elderly people - as mentioned on another thread my parents shopped daily as part of their routine. And yes that would include a Saturday!
This has probably beeen mentioned as I have not read all of last thread but why do people on MN and local WhatsApp or WIWIKAU ask questions that Google could answer instantly. ‘What time does our high street Sainsbury’s close’ ‘Can my YP choose their insurance on results day’ ‘what tax do I have to pay if I sell X’…. And on here specifically: nub theory or ‘what should I name my baby/cat/puppy’ and ‘is there a line or…’?

lovealieinortwo · 25/04/2026 17:22

By posters who spend all day on MNs. I get losing a few hours but some posters argue from day to night, how do they have the time? Baffling!

Yellowpapersun · 25/04/2026 17:06

@Whatexcellentboiledpotatoes my experience was similar to yours, except I stupidly started smoking when I was 19. My boyfriend at the time was a few years older and he and his friends smoked and I felt it made me fit in and be one of the gang. How stupid! Anyway I smoked for a few years but gave up long ago.

KimberleyClark · 25/04/2026 17:05

distinctpossibility · 25/04/2026 16:04

Families where both parents - and usually younger siblings - go along to mundane weekly events such as to sit and watch their 9 year old at kickboxing

Shoes-on households

People who think having barbecues is a relaxing and easy way to cater. Ditto those who insist that camping is relaxing and straightforward.

Edited

Barbecues, yes yes. I particularly don’t get the point of gas barbecues. I thought the whole point was to cook over fire. If you’re going to use a gas barbecues you might as well cook indoors.

jenzzi · 25/04/2026 16:52

Flamingojune · 25/04/2026 15:38

So all these annoying oldies arent harassing you then

I worked for a supermarket for around 15 years. Other customers got annoyed by them dithering, stopping at random places suddenly etc.

OP posts:
Flamingojune · 25/04/2026 16:35

Shoes on or off, dont care

Katemax82 · 25/04/2026 16:22

distinctpossibility · 25/04/2026 16:04

Families where both parents - and usually younger siblings - go along to mundane weekly events such as to sit and watch their 9 year old at kickboxing

Shoes-on households

People who think having barbecues is a relaxing and easy way to cater. Ditto those who insist that camping is relaxing and straightforward.

Edited

My husband wears shoes 24/7 as he gets a bad back if he is ever without supportive trainers

AntiqueBabyLoanSmurf · 25/04/2026 16:18

Gwenhwyfar · 25/04/2026 11:40

Sometimes they don't have that many alternatives. I would never want to do it, but I get it.
Also, watch the adverts and how they market themselves to young men without careers.

Notice how they always seem to recruit in less privileged towns and areas. They also tell you of all the places you'll travel, all the skills you'll learn, all the experiences you'll have... but they always seem to forget to tell you that the main purpose of the job is very frequently to kill (or threaten to kill) people and to have a very good chance of being killed yourself.

I agree that, for many, it isn't a completely freewill choice whereby they've considered all of the many and varied exciting options available to them and actively chosen that one; more that they don't have any other exciting options open to them so they think they've got nothing to lose.

AllTheChaos · 25/04/2026 16:09

Twomunchkins2 · 25/04/2026 12:00

@squashyhat

People who park on pavements and think that because they pull their wing mirrors in or leave the hazard lights on that makes it OK.

I completely agree! There’s numerous cars near me that does this continuously. However this is the main culprit.

Edited

Ooof! So anyone with a pushchair needs to walk in the road, and screw wheelchair and walking stick users? What a tosser!

distinctpossibility · 25/04/2026 16:04

Families where both parents - and usually younger siblings - go along to mundane weekly events such as to sit and watch their 9 year old at kickboxing

Shoes-on households

People who think having barbecues is a relaxing and easy way to cater. Ditto those who insist that camping is relaxing and straightforward.