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To ask to bring my Partner to a Wedding

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OliveToboogie · 24/04/2026 16:32

My cousins daughter is getting married in June. Myself my sibling and cousins are all invited to the Wedding. I am the only one Divorced but have been with my partner 7 months. Every other family member will be going as a couple would it be too cheeky to ask if I can bring my partner .

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ThejoyofNC · 24/04/2026 16:48

If they wanted him there, they'd have invited him. It's a brand new relationship so I don't see why they would.

neverbeenskiing · 24/04/2026 16:47

Lovelynames123 · 24/04/2026 16:40

When one of my closest friends got married she issued me a single invite with the instriction that I was tell her if I met someone - I.did and he was included as a plus one. Personally, I think it's rude to not invite a partner, I've had plus ones when I haven't even had a partner!

I think it's a bit rude to not invite a "partner" as in a long term, co-habiting relationship but I don't think it's rude not to think to include the bloke your mum's cousin has been dating for a few months.

Wynter25 · 24/04/2026 16:44

IWaffleAlot · 24/04/2026 16:34

Yes it would be. It’s 7months which is no time at all. Not even a partner yet. Sorry but this is very cheeky, they would have said +1 if they wanted.

Ive been seeing my partner over 7 months. I call him my partner

Lmnop22 · 24/04/2026 16:42

You can’t ask for a plus one - your cousin will have thought it all through and painstakingly gone through the guest list, table plans and what she can afford food wise BEFORE handing out invitations and for you to expect her to change her plans and incur more cost to accommodate your partner of 7 months when your already only her mum’s cousin is CF territory!!

Backawayfromthesausage · 24/04/2026 16:41

No of course not, if they wanted your new boyfriend there they’d have invited him, 😱

neverbeenskiing · 24/04/2026 16:41

Don't do this. It's really rude to put people on the spot like that. If they wanted you to bring a plus one it would have said plus one on the invitation.

Lovelynames123 · 24/04/2026 16:40

When one of my closest friends got married she issued me a single invite with the instriction that I was tell her if I met someone - I.did and he was included as a plus one. Personally, I think it's rude to not invite a partner, I've had plus ones when I haven't even had a partner!

ChildrenOfTheQuorn · 24/04/2026 16:39

I was a bridesmaid and I asked for a +1 for the evening do and was turned down. I was mortified and wished I hadn't asked! Don't do it!

ExtraOnions · 24/04/2026 16:37

Ask if it’s ok for him to come to the evening, rather than the whole day. If you are a close family, no harm in asking .. but be prepared in case it’s a “no”

ParmaVioletTea · 24/04/2026 16:37

7 months is no time .

YABU

Blueyelloworange · 24/04/2026 16:34

It would be a bit cheeky as it doesn't sound like you are that closely related to the couple and you haven't been with your partner for terribly long.

IWaffleAlot · 24/04/2026 16:34

Yes it would be. It’s 7months which is no time at all. Not even a partner yet. Sorry but this is very cheeky, they would have said +1 if they wanted.

PillsBox · 24/04/2026 16:34

God no, don't do this.

It's nice enough of the bride and groom to invite mum's cousins, which is a bit of a stretch without asking if a boyfriend of a few months can come along too.

bessaas · 24/04/2026 16:33

I wouldnt ask to bring my partner I would ask specifically if partners are invited or not then you're giving her the opportunity to extend the invite about a relationship she may not have thought about