Page 5 | To be worried about my 22 year old dating a 30 year old

Beyoungbefoolishi · 2026-04-24T11:34:42+00:00

22 dd is dating a 30 year old in (late July) man currently

Oreosareawful · 24/04/2026 12:44

Sorry OP, you're overreacting. Thats not an age gap.

ErlingHaalandsManBun · 24/04/2026 12:43

Nope, I would not be concerned at all and I have two DD's in the same age bracket.

In some ways I would rather them date someone who is a bit older and hopefully has matured a little than some of the dickheads around that are the same age.

Just ask yourself this, is she happy? Does he treat her well?

If the answer to those is yes then that should be the end of your concerns.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 24/04/2026 12:43

She is a fully grown adult woman, dating a man 7 years older. Not something to be alarmed about

Savvysix1984 · 24/04/2026 12:43

I was that age when I met dh. Married 20 years no issues. Seemed like a normal enough age gap.

OneNaiceSnail · 24/04/2026 12:42

Thepeopleversuswork · 24/04/2026 12:39

I would also be concerned too OP.

A queue of people will be along shortly to tell you they met their husband when they were 16 and he was 30 and they are still “madly in love”, but I am always suspicious of the motives of anyone who seeks out a much younger partner. It suggests they don’t want an equal.

Having said that, if you signal your disapproval she will double down so I would accept it but gently push her to be wary.

How on earth are you comparing a 16yo child to a woman who’s been an actual adult for a few years now??

Chatsbots · 24/04/2026 12:42

Yeah, but this isn't 16 & 32.

My DH was that age exactly when I met him. I was the same age as your DD. 30 years later, here we are. Excellent DH.

Age isn't the issue, his character & motive are...

ErlingHaalandsManBun · 24/04/2026 12:41

Thepeopleversuswork · 24/04/2026 12:39

I would also be concerned too OP.

A queue of people will be along shortly to tell you they met their husband when they were 16 and he was 30 and they are still “madly in love”, but I am always suspicious of the motives of anyone who seeks out a much younger partner. It suggests they don’t want an equal.

Having said that, if you signal your disapproval she will double down so I would accept it but gently push her to be wary.

Nonsense.

She is 22 and he is 29 🙄They are hardly Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas.

AgnesMcDoo · 24/04/2026 12:41

That’s a fairly normal age gap

Thepeopleversuswork · 24/04/2026 12:39

I would also be concerned too OP.

A queue of people will be along shortly to tell you they met their husband when they were 16 and he was 30 and they are still “madly in love”, but I am always suspicious of the motives of anyone who seeks out a much younger partner. It suggests they don’t want an equal.

Having said that, if you signal your disapproval she will double down so I would accept it but gently push her to be wary.

GreenSmoothy · 24/04/2026 12:39

I wouldn't be concerned with that age gap it depends on them, ie if similar life stage, if he is kind to her, if she is happy.
Invite him for lunch get to know him.. a garden pub lunch would be lovely these sunny days.

DuchessOfStuffit · 24/04/2026 12:38

No. She is an adult. A 7 year age gap isnt shocking. She could be with a 20 yo who you may be happy with- because hes 20- and hes an immature bell end soooo

MabelAnderson · 24/04/2026 12:38

That seems pretty normal ! Unless there is something else that is worrying you, I don’t think the age gap is an issue at all. I have the same age gap with my DH, thirty years later we are still happy.

Ygraine · 24/04/2026 12:37

So he's 29, not 30.