To say 'make your own breakfast' to Husband

My 5 year old boy made his own breakfast this morning, I’m training him up to make his own lunch 🤣

You should be constantly training your kid discreetly for adulthood so they don’t end up marrying and needing a wife to babysit them.

Well this would be easier if you'd stop dripping feeding!

you asked, he said, no then changed his mind when yours was ready 'no. You missed your chance when you said no. You'll have to make your own now'. (Or if he's generally lively ud have given him mine & made more, but not if he's an arse!)

as for hot chocolate for the DC tell him that's a lovelyidea if YOU want to make him one.

Its usually DH saying lets give him hot chocs when we have coffee and then I end up doing it haha

Why? Not sure why you think it's funny either. You can't act like a martyr and then complain.

Well if you want to calm this down.

You go & say, sorry I snapped earlier, just feeling maxed out on being kitchen slave.” Leave it there see if he steps up

This is where my pedantry about language would come in handy.

The obvious answer to "Can I get some toast and eggs too" being "Of course". Then let him get them.

My 6 year old makes her own lunch! (every Saturday..) and is quite cppble of making a sandwich, moving fruit form a bowl to her plate and getting yoghurt form the firdge

Of course a teenager can do it - don't they have hands or eyes?

Yes! I don’t know any teen that doesn’t!

Your husband sounds quite childish and hard work. I couldn't imagine not offering to sort out any meals for my family for 4 days. Unless he was doing some kind of big project for the household or something which was taking up all his time. The sulking would make me not want to cook for him again tbh, completely unnecessary of him given you offered him breakfast and he turned down the offer initially. Son should be old enough to make himself a sandwich for lunch though.

Still very unclear why you're doing things like "hot snacks" for the kids and they aren't doing it themselves? And surely they're capable of picking up a piece of fruit for snack themselves? 16 yo can certianly make own lunch and clear up.

adn kids can make themselves breakfast?

Stop being martyr

You all need to grow up and stop making mountains out of molehills when it comes to meals.

We both work from home and fend for ourselves for meals or sometimes eat leftovers or meat we’ve cooked off for lunches in a salad or sandwich.

A highschooler can make their own lunch.

I hope he tilted his head at you, asked you if you meant to be so rude and then gave you a Paddington hard stare.

This for starters!

if your teen is sitting exams they don't need to be babied having their lunch made for them & hot drinks or mummy getting them ready for school & daddy taking them.

if you were making breakfast for yourself why didn't you ask DH if he wanted the same?

Ahh so he’s a sulker. Your 1950s housewife behaviour makes sense now. You’re treading on eggshells, working and fulfilling every whim of your H and Dc to ensure he doesn’t sulk for a whole day.

Today-

You’re working
You told him you were exhausted
You asked him if he wanted eggs before you made yours, he said no
He then asks for some when you’ve finished making yours.

No wonder you snapped at him.

The fact you’re asking if YABU says a lot about the way you’re treated in your household.

You need to have a serious chat with H and tell him you feel like you’re a 1950s housewife and it needs to stop.

This is not normal from an adult.

Or another woman will get saddled with a useless, entitled husband.

Like the world needs more of those.

exactly dc will turn into one of those adults incapable of doing anything for themselves and op will wonder why they still live at home in their 40s. Sort it out op.

What do you mean 'if only'?

You're not a passenger in your own life.

And despite what you may think, you're definitely not doing your DC any favours.

I've never heard anything as ridiculous as 'if only'.

Have a good think about what kind of man your son will grow into, at the moment it's probably one who thinks it's a woman's job to cater to him.

My kid has a learning disability and still capable of making himself lunch with the air fryer or mircowave…. What the hell is your 16 year olds excuse? No wonder your exhausted your babying your teenager!

Your 16 year old should be perfectly capable of understanding what food he can use to make himself lunches and how much of and MAKING IT HIMSELF.
Your husband needs to be told that sulking is childish and unattractive.

This sounds crazy to me. Maybe slightly different as I’m a single mum but my 14 yo dd sorts her own breakfast, lunch, snacks etc. I make us both an evening meal.
any reason why you can’t all do this?

It sounds like you're stressed and you took it out on him during a time you probably both didn't expect it? Is it unreasonable to feel stressed and react? I don't think so? Is it unreasonable for it to get to this level? I think so, yes. Is there anyway you can realign things so you both don't suffer from burnout etc? I think everyone has bad days. Just apologise, if you want, or explain yourself or ignore it and move on. I don't know how your relationship works but, if he was surprised and you're writing about it here, it probably bothers you.

Hope you have a better day today.