To say 'make your own breakfast' to Husband

One kid. One husband who is doing less by the day.

I would be very surprised if the son knows how to make a curry from scratch. I got it wrong earlier. Apparently the son does a bit of washing up and washes his own cutlery and mows the grass sometimes but that seems to be about it. It was the comment about being disappointed in a sandwich and no chicken curry at lunchtime that got me and the wanting rice and dal for breakfast after having a stomach upset

It obviously doesn't help that the father is defaulting to doing very little around the house at the moment

You have high school aged kids and you make them morning and evening snacks?! And you’re worried about them getting bugs from takeaways?

Do less.

Hands up who hasn't read the thread!

Oh you’re Asian

I broke that ‘culture/ tradition ‘ from early

OP, I don't mean to be rude, but if you're all sat at home, working at a desk or studying, how on earth are you all eating so much?! This all sounds completely unnecessary and OTT in so many ways.

You have one child. One. And he is 16!

Yes he can use a washing machine, Yes he can make himself lunch or whatever snacks he may or may not want. Why do you think he can't?

You are massively overthinking everything with all this who makes the tea, or the hot chocolates ... Wtf?

If you are making a particular effort with your son's breakfasts, etc right now because he has GCSEs, then fair enough.

But otherwise - stop! If you happen to be making something and other people want some then fine. But beyond this, your son can use a kitchen as well as you. You are 3 adults, all with 2 hands each.

My DH is Indian too and my teens (4 of them) sort themselves out largely. And yes, some of them are boys! You are not raising a prince in the clouds. Get him to make you a curry and be done with it.

I don't think she said she wasn't managing her diary

Her husband WFH too. So no reason he should be expecting OP to be doing all the cooking.

Except she previously made simple foods like soup and sandwiches - it only changed to curries etc. from scratch relatively recently.

So people who work from home are cooking rather than working? No wonder employers want people back in the office

She works from home by the sounds of it. I think the husband is the person who needs to step up. He can cook from scratch. He's just chosen to opt out of doing so

They have one kid. I don't buy the he expects his mum to serve him because that's what he's always been taught tbh. At some point it's normal for teenagers to start making their own food - and it's not just that. He's turning up his nose at what she's offering. She's on a lunch break from work and a sandwich won't do? Has to be rice and dal from scratch? Most days. Even when he has an upset tummy she's to make him rice and dal?

Selfish isn't the word.

Don't know why people piling on the kids. The kids expect mum to serve them because that's what they've been taught.

It's essentially a case of, you're fucked off about always serving him. Yeah it wouldn't have been MUCH more effort, but it is still more effort than he was making. You'd finished making yours, he could have made his own, he was expecting you to let yours go cold while making his or give you his and make yourself more. Just the idea that you would offer him half your food and he would take it. Is honestly so selfish.

I understand that, I am surprised she has such long lunch breaks from work to have time to.

Usually the curry pot can serve more than one meal though. If the husband and son are eating it all make more and save for the next day.

It looks like the son doesn't do much around the house. Cuts the grass sometimes. He doesn't cook. He doesn't clean - the OP said she does all of that. I personally wouldn't be buying takeaway all through exam time - they have a microwave and an air fryer. They can make a microwave meal in less than ten minutes.

I think it's more than bad habits. The OP was expected to serve the FIL when he visited them as far as I'm aware. Her husband was ok with that and the message being passed to the son is that women are there to do everything for men

It's to do with the food she's cooking at lunchtime (curries from scratch) according to her

What does that gave to do with long lunch breaks?

That too. Clear fluids.

Cut the snacks. Have a biscuit or an apple.

If I were you OP. After exams are over. I would seriously be thinking of taking myself off on a mini break. Doesn't need to be expensive. Book some time off work - take yourself away for a weekend - and leave them to it.

I'd probably leave any big changes until after the exams. Constantly cooking is not compatible with a full time job and you're not BU to not want to cook breakfast twice.
I wouldn't be reducing work hours, you'll just be expected to do even more. Perhaps a chat to your family after the exams, laying out what you expect. Yes it shouldn't be needed but they have got into bad habits. Exhausting yourself is not good at all.
While the exams are on make things as easy as possible, more takeout if they like that? And everyone makes their own hot drinks?

I suspect not.

FFS.

He had better have made that himself at least.

She was expected to boil rice to go with said curry I believe because her husband didn't want to cook that evening

I'd be very surprised if he can cook dal. He doesn't know how to turn the washing machine on. It's the OP who makes him the dal.