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Original poster

To pause location tracking when he is with me?

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Sowhatimstillarockstar9 · 24/04/2026 06:30

Morning - I am starting to come out the other side of a hard divorce with a controlling man. I had a long running thread on here for a while about his behaviour.

Anyway - he currently has life 360 set up on my son's phone. Is it reasonable of me to pause this tracking when he is with me for the whole weekend? I know he will hate it and it will create an issue but it makes me uncomfortable that he will know where we are constantly.

I'm obviously happy for him to have it when my son is in his care.

Just after other opinions. Thanks

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Lemonfrost · 24/04/2026 08:08

You should BOTH turn off the tracking app permanently. Problem solved.

HoldItAllTogether · 24/04/2026 08:04

Unless You are worried your ex might use the information against you then I think it would be a lot of bother to be switching your ex’s tracking on and off and your own tracking on and off all the time. Are you sure it would be worth the hassle.
It does seem like pausing it will just end up causing a big problem when you have tracking on the phone too. I guess two separate phones with your sons shared apps would work better.

Anonomoso · 24/04/2026 07:49

Sowhatimstillarockstar9 · 24/04/2026 06:44

I have the family link app which constantly tracks DS. I know he will say I have location tracking which can't be turned off!!

So this app, was it one that was on the phone when you purchased it or did you add it?

Original poster
Sowhatimstillarockstar9 · 24/04/2026 07:09

I don't actively track him when he is with his dad it's the account family link that it's linked to tracks.

But yes i didn't mean to drip feed information

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Ablondiebutagoody · 24/04/2026 07:05

Either turn it off or if you also want to track him when he's with his Dad, just leave the phone at home all weekend.

MiddleAgedCrohn · 24/04/2026 07:03

I don't think you'll get an accurate answer because your drip feed that you track your son when he's with dad will massively skew opinions. I voted YANBU but would now say YABU. Either you both can or can't.

Charlottejbt · 24/04/2026 06:57

He's really done a number on you if you think it's unreasonable for your ex to track you, or track your DS when in your care! I'm glad this tech wasn't available when I was married to a man like that. YANBU.

Lengokengo · 24/04/2026 06:54

Leave the phone at home when you go out. So it shows at your house all the time, so he all gets the information , but the information is not updated.

then you don’t create conflict, but you have the upper hand

liveforsummer · 24/04/2026 06:53

I’d probably encourage Ds to leave his phone at home whenever you leave the house together? I think it’s a bit muddied by the fact you have tracking that cannot be switched off when he’s with dad

Original poster
Sowhatimstillarockstar9 · 24/04/2026 06:50

DS is 11 and I pay for the phone

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Wheretocelebrate · 24/04/2026 06:50

Sowhatimstillarockstar9 · 24/04/2026 06:44

I have the family link app which constantly tracks DS. I know he will say I have location tracking which can't be turned off!!

I don't fully understand the differences between your tracking and his tracking but it needs to be fair. Why can you track your son wheb he's with your ex but not him? I think both of you need means of tracking that can be switched off when with the other parents

dizzydizzydizzy · 24/04/2026 06:48

As a domestic abuse victim in particular, I would say 100% turn that tracking off when your son is with you. He has no actual need to track your son while he is in your care.

Shittyyear2025 · 24/04/2026 06:48

How old is ds and who pays for the phone?

Original poster
Sowhatimstillarockstar9 · 24/04/2026 06:44

I have the family link app which constantly tracks DS. I know he will say I have location tracking which can't be turned off!!

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superchick · 24/04/2026 06:43

Completely fine. I have location tracking for my DC but I have no need to check it when they're with their dad. But I could see that someone with controlling tendencies would and it would be unfair on the other parent.

RoseField1 · 24/04/2026 06:31

Absolutely fine. He's not responsible for his whereabouts when he's with you.