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Colleague warning me off reporting inappropriate group chat

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JutrScot · 23/04/2026 20:33

I’ve been made aware (with evidence) of some male colleagues who have a non work group chat with each other in which sexualised comments have been made about me and other colleagues.

The colleague who made me aware of this has said there’s no point reporting this as 1. It’s a non work group chat with messages outside of working hours and 2. Incase of any implications on our own careers.

I want to press ahead to report but she has given me some slight doubt. I’d appreciate anyone with a greater grasp of these matters than me giving an indication.

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worldshottestmom · 23/04/2026 20:39

Report it. It doesn't matter who's time it is on, now that the targeted colleagues know about it is a serious issue. Doing it behind their back is not okay in any reality. Creating such a disgusting workplace culture, be it on WhatsApp or in person, is completely unacceptable.

I had a guy from my old workplace sending topless selfies to random female staff. It was through Snapchat and no screenshots were taken, but having multiple people report him was enough for them to take disciplinary action.

21ZIGGY · 23/04/2026 20:37

Some "men" in my work have a similar chat, but it is on teams and it includes a woman.And they also make inappropriate sexual comments about other staff particularly young women. I've heard about it but can't report it because i'm not in the chat and it really infuriates me that the woman that's in the chat let's it go on.

We have to stamp this bullshit out, and I think you should report

CharleneElizabethBaltimore · 23/04/2026 20:36

from what i understand yes morally the group is omg, but im not hr but i believe your collegue is correct on those points , unless its on works phones then how would the company prove the chats etc ?