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Did you find love (and even kids?) after 40? Feeling hopeless

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Toawond · 23/04/2026 20:23

I am lucky that I have a wonderful 5 year old child already. Unfortunately the man I thought wanted to spend his life with me in actual fact did not.

I have (I guess like most people) always wanted a relationship and a family unit. Of course I know me and my child are a family but I would love a marriage and another child.

I am 40 in October and it all has started to feel quite hopeless. I do try online dating but I’m pretty indifferent about it. I guess I could do more to try and find someone but I’d love to just meet someone ‘organically’ and it feel right. I suppose that’s luck really isn’t it? Did it happen for you?!

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Toawond · 23/04/2026 20:29

Hadalifeonce · 23/04/2026 20:28

Yep, happened to me. Met via mutual friend, married 9 months later, 1st DC at 42 2nd at 45. Married 27 years now.

@Hadalifeonce this is so lovely!!!! 27 years amazing ❤️

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Toawond · 23/04/2026 20:29

pushontheswings · 23/04/2026 20:27

I was 39 when I met DH and 40 when I had DS; I then had DD two and a half years later, a few weeks before I turned 43 Smile

@pushontheswings how did you meet if you don’t mind sharing?! Did you feel like all hope was lost? I’m really struggling mindset wise with actually hoping it will happen and then feeling sad as the months pass and nothing changes. In a way I feel it’s safer to resign myself to being single for evermore

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Hadalifeonce · 23/04/2026 20:28

Yep, happened to me. Met via mutual friend, married 9 months later, 1st DC at 42 2nd at 45. Married 27 years now.

pushontheswings · 23/04/2026 20:27

I was 39 when I met DH and 40 when I had DS; I then had DD two and a half years later, a few weeks before I turned 43 Smile

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Toawond · 23/04/2026 20:26

Hayfever25 · 23/04/2026 20:25

Well, obviously it happens to some people, surely you know that already?

@Hayfever25 yes I’d like to hear about it it to give me some hope!

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Hayfever25 · 23/04/2026 20:25

Well, obviously it happens to some people, surely you know that already?

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