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Why isn't there any mainstream media focus on British men rape who molest and rape, women and children? But just 'the boat people' ?! Evil/badness exists everywhere!

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Betchygreen · 23/04/2026 19:27

I'm an immigrant of white British/European descent and I saw a headline today in the mainstream media about 'rape meaning sex' pleaded according to asylum seekers who have recently tried at court for rape.

What's going on? If I had to report a (my) white British rapist, I really don't think it would've made headlines. Nor would've any other abuse. White Male British men seem to get off with impunity, or I know are ever accused and formally charged.

I feel it is a shocking abuse of power that only newcomers and brown skinned/other culture peoples are singled out.

Why is it that the UK remains so very much patriarchal and oppressive towards women and children? Why are we not centred in such as way that it as important for women and children to thrive in our society and culture as it is for men of any/whichever long standing class? Is it classicism or what is it? Explain it to me, I truly don't understand why it has to be like this other than those who get a rise out of feeling powerful and in control of others?

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nomas · 23/04/2026 21:30

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Calling an entire culture disgusting is not only grossly offensive it ignores that the vast majority of rapists and child abusers in the UK are white.

And you think there was just one male rapist in the country? How delusional.

EwwPeople · 23/04/2026 21:28

The way I see it is like this. The issue is men. Adding More men , many of them traumatised, that have gone through God knows what, with possible metal health issues, that are treated like shit and being told how unwanted they are , with no real supervision , support or input …. Is that really a good idea?

NotAnotherScarf · 23/04/2026 21:23

AliceAbsolum · 23/04/2026 20:17

Agree. It boggles my mind people defend them. It must be sheer denial of the situation? Idk

Oh and you didn't answer my second question... surprise!!!! 🫢

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NotAnotherScarf · 23/04/2026 21:18

nomas · 23/04/2026 21:11

Those stats are wrong for a start.

Ok provide the right stats about child molestation in Telford

nomas · 23/04/2026 21:11

NotAnotherScarf · 23/04/2026 20:10

Yes it's shit that Telford has a Muslim population of 1000 and 100 men have been implicated in the rape of young girls...10% of the total population....so what were the women and children doing at that time?

When a huge number of all certain population are identified as committing crimes why are you defending them

Why come to England by small boats, when you are in a safe, prosperous European county.... actually ignore my first point and just answer that...I will bet you wont

Those stats are wrong for a start.

nomas · 23/04/2026 21:07

AliceAbsolum · 23/04/2026 20:17

Agree. It boggles my mind people defend them. It must be sheer denial of the situation? Idk

No one is defending them. But funny how every thread is hijacked and taken over and becomes about grooming gangs.

Why don't you ever want to talk about what white rapists do? What about the white man called john Ashby who pleaded guilty this week to raping a Sikh woman in her home and calling her a 'fucking Muslim bitch?'

Noras · 23/04/2026 21:04

I think it’s to do with some stats which are freely available so it’s ammter of judging if those stats are accurate. Yes there are of course British men and women who behave badly/ illegally / offend but I think it’s to do with the ratios.

AliceAbsolum · 23/04/2026 20:17

NotAnotherScarf · 23/04/2026 20:10

Yes it's shit that Telford has a Muslim population of 1000 and 100 men have been implicated in the rape of young girls...10% of the total population....so what were the women and children doing at that time?

When a huge number of all certain population are identified as committing crimes why are you defending them

Why come to England by small boats, when you are in a safe, prosperous European county.... actually ignore my first point and just answer that...I will bet you wont

Agree. It boggles my mind people defend them. It must be sheer denial of the situation? Idk

NotAnotherScarf · 23/04/2026 20:10

Yes it's shit that Telford has a Muslim population of 1000 and 100 men have been implicated in the rape of young girls...10% of the total population....so what were the women and children doing at that time?

When a huge number of all certain population are identified as committing crimes why are you defending them

Why come to England by small boats, when you are in a safe, prosperous European county.... actually ignore my first point and just answer that...I will bet you wont

KatiePricesKnickers · 23/04/2026 20:05

It’s bad enough having British rapists (white/black/brown) without importing more.

Echobelly · 23/04/2026 20:01

Of course they won't focus on that, it's always distract, misdirect so you don't actually look at the real culprits. And 'Forriners attacking are wimmin' sells papers/gets clicks and engagement, and sadly, sometimes votes.

I don't know if anyone's seen an amazing clip of a British woman at one of those 'Save our women' racist rallies where she gets up to the front and says she is a victim of grooming (loud cheers to this), then adds how she is disgusted this event is using abuse as a cover for racism and bigotry. She is, of course, dragged off the stage. Shows how much they actually care about abuse of women.

AliceAbsolum · 23/04/2026 20:01

Why are you so keen to deny the reality of the situation? These men come from places where women are property.

Summerhillsquare · 23/04/2026 19:52

It's called patriarchy. The first rule of patriarchy is to deny that it exists...