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Why isn't there any mainstream media focus on British men rape who molest and rape, women and children? But just 'the boat people' ?! Evil/badness exists everywhere!

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Betchygreen · 23/04/2026 19:27

I'm an immigrant of white British/European descent and I saw a headline today in the mainstream media about 'rape meaning sex' pleaded according to asylum seekers who have recently tried at court for rape.

What's going on? If I had to report a (my) white British rapist, I really don't think it would've made headlines. Nor would've any other abuse. White Male British men seem to get off with impunity, or I know are ever accused and formally charged.

I feel it is a shocking abuse of power that only newcomers and brown skinned/other culture peoples are singled out.

Why is it that the UK remains so very much patriarchal and oppressive towards women and children? Why are we not centred in such as way that it as important for women and children to thrive in our society and culture as it is for men of any/whichever long standing class? Is it classicism or what is it? Explain it to me, I truly don't understand why it has to be like this other than those who get a rise out of feeling powerful and in control of others?

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1dayatatime · 24/04/2026 08:30

Cheese55 · 24/04/2026 07:06

As the male 20 year old asylum seekers assimilate into UK, I wonder if any strides made by the current generation regarding women's rights will be lost by a whole new generation of men who dont respect women, like at all.

So the alternative approach is rather than the asylum seekers trying to assimilate, to change our own mindset and for everyone else to be more accommodating understanding of different cultures attitudes to women's rights in the UK.

It could be seen as racist or a view that "not all cultures are equal" to insist that our culture and laws in regards of women's rights are somehow superior to say someone from Afghanistan or Iran?

GCAcademic · 24/04/2026 07:44

KatiePricesKnickers · 24/04/2026 06:07

But your ‘most rapists are white’ is a valid comment in a majority white country?
What other gems of the bleeding obvious do you have?

It might be bleeding obvious but social media is currently full of white men carrying on as if only brown or black men have ever raped a woman.

Thechaseison71 · 24/04/2026 07:11

nomas · 23/04/2026 21:30

Calling an entire culture disgusting is not only grossly offensive it ignores that the vast majority of rapists and child abusers in the UK are white.

And you think there was just one male rapist in the country? How delusional.

Edited

Well seeing as about 80% of the British population is white that would fugure

Cheese55 · 24/04/2026 07:06

As the male 20 year old asylum seekers assimilate into UK, I wonder if any strides made by the current generation regarding women's rights will be lost by a whole new generation of men who dont respect women, like at all.

Stnam · 24/04/2026 06:34

Quite a few white men who travel or live in other countries rape and sexually abuse women there. I certainly wouldn't blame the local population for objecting to it. I actually find it depressing that they don't get more angry about it.

Dragracer · 24/04/2026 06:11

Because it's ran by British men who want to be able to rape, abuse, molest women and children without consequence?

It's the same as the rich telling you it's the poor stealing all your money.

KatiePricesKnickers · 24/04/2026 06:07

nomas · 23/04/2026 23:36

Then you aren’t following the chain of posts, so your comments are therefore irrelevant.

But your ‘most rapists are white’ is a valid comment in a majority white country?
What other gems of the bleeding obvious do you have?

nomas · 23/04/2026 23:36

KatiePricesKnickers · 23/04/2026 23:17

No, I’m telling that to you.

Then you aren’t following the chain of posts, so your comments are therefore irrelevant.

Cocktailglass · 23/04/2026 23:35

I don't see mainstream news of 'boat people ', in fact the only information comes from other media.

The local and national news are heavily restricted to imply any form of intolerance so when reported it's a case of names, which may or may not be ethnic.

This is from an in law... the reality which is experienced and exposed is actually of groups of men who do 'bend the rules', traffic others with fake IDs, all live in one house which is resident and paid for by UC to one person who takes rent money, opens up a car valet and they all work there.

How do I know? Because first hand experience, literally.

'Married a man from a fleeing country, I was in love. He had no money so my family paid for the big wedding, I couldn't because I was young and couldn't afford it as wasn't earning. We lived together for 3 years, had 2 children. I claimed benefits as a single mother as he had his own house, managed to get away with it for this time as we didn't change our details.

He said he was working at a takeaway, which he did according to the boss, not here right now, but I didn't know it was a cover and he was really involved in illegal trafficking and money laundering.

Shocked, disgusted, divorced, two DC I've had to try and shield but social media and faces of crimes screenshot. He's imprisoned now, along with his crew, rightly so"

I've written a more understable account from the genuine furious one.

Flossette · 23/04/2026 23:26

Are there really the likes of today’s case in Brighton carried out by white British men that just aren’t reported though? I found that case quite shocking but maybe I’m just naive.

EwwPeople · 23/04/2026 23:23

barkygoldie · 23/04/2026 23:15

Im also curious to know who really drives this agenda in the MSM. Rapes by white men are happening all the time but that is not as newsworthy as someone brown skinned. I mean the answer is plain old racism, but who’s pulling the strings. I do wonder if racism, like sexism, was always there but less outwardly expressed in the last couple of decades, and it is now more socially accepted to express it.

What agenda specifically? Because there are cases of rape and abuse by white men in the media every day. It’s not a massive cover up.

Are you referring to differences in reaction from the public? The way headlines are made?

1dayatatime · 23/04/2026 23:23

Traceysgoingtobelivid · 23/04/2026 23:15

Because we have enough of our own rapists and murderers without importing more.

Yes but "our own" rapists and murderers have historically been predominantly white.

By importing brown and black rapists and murderers from other countries we can ensure a diversity and inclusion amongst the crimes of rape and murder.

Its only racists that seek to deny this diversity and inclusion and want white only rapists and murderers.

EwwPeople · 23/04/2026 23:21

ElenOfTheWays · 23/04/2026 23:11

Yes and "she liked rough sex" as a defence for murder.
I'm not defending British rapists (and murderers) I'm saying that trauma is NOT the reason illegal migrants commit rape.

My point was that angry, disenfranchised men with a lot of time of their hands, all cooped up together is a recipe for disaster.As you see at some football matches, riots, protests, marches etc. Add in possible trauma(and can you claim that none of them come from a traumatic background) and other mental health issues , and it just adds fuel to the fire. It doesn’t mean that every single one is traumatised, or that trauma causes them to rape or even that every single one of them will rape or wants to rape.

More men, more risk. For me , it’s that simple.

KatiePricesKnickers · 23/04/2026 23:17

nomas · 23/04/2026 23:00

Tell to that person who said there is only one white rapist in the UK.

Edited

No, I’m telling that to you.

barkygoldie · 23/04/2026 23:15

Im also curious to know who really drives this agenda in the MSM. Rapes by white men are happening all the time but that is not as newsworthy as someone brown skinned. I mean the answer is plain old racism, but who’s pulling the strings. I do wonder if racism, like sexism, was always there but less outwardly expressed in the last couple of decades, and it is now more socially accepted to express it.

Traceysgoingtobelivid · 23/04/2026 23:15

Because we have enough of our own rapists and murderers without importing more.

ElenOfTheWays · 23/04/2026 23:14

GCAcademic · 23/04/2026 23:09

Men are nearly always let off after raping, whatever their ethnicity. Have you seen the conviction rates? Rape is virtually decriminalised in this country.

Agreed. I'm not suggesting only migrants get let off with lame excuses. But let's face it, "I didn't know it was illegal" is a whole new level of bullshit.

ElenOfTheWays · 23/04/2026 23:11

EwwPeople · 23/04/2026 23:03

You do you , boo.

As for excuses for rape, that’s an institutional failure overall, where anything goes. “I tripped and fell” has been successfully used as a defence for rape before.

Yes and "she liked rough sex" as a defence for murder.
I'm not defending British rapists (and murderers) I'm saying that trauma is NOT the reason illegal migrants commit rape.

GCAcademic · 23/04/2026 23:09

ElenOfTheWays · 23/04/2026 22:59

Trauma my arse! These men are economic migrants and they rape because they come from countries where the culture is that women are chattels. Where a woman out on her own is free game and an "uncovered" woman is a prostitute.
There are men from these cultures being let off after raping because they say they "didn't know it was against the law"
I mean ffs!

Men are nearly always let off after raping, whatever their ethnicity. Have you seen the conviction rates? Rape is virtually decriminalised in this country.

EwwPeople · 23/04/2026 23:03

ElenOfTheWays · 23/04/2026 22:59

Trauma my arse! These men are economic migrants and they rape because they come from countries where the culture is that women are chattels. Where a woman out on her own is free game and an "uncovered" woman is a prostitute.
There are men from these cultures being let off after raping because they say they "didn't know it was against the law"
I mean ffs!

You do you , boo.

As for excuses for rape, that’s an institutional failure overall, where anything goes. “I tripped and fell” has been successfully used as a defence for rape before.

nomas · 23/04/2026 23:00

KatiePricesKnickers · 23/04/2026 22:52

@nomas “the vast majority of rapists and child abusers in the UK are white”

That’s because the vast majority of the population in the UK are white.

Tell to that person who said there is only one white rapist in the UK.

ElenOfTheWays · 23/04/2026 22:59

EwwPeople · 23/04/2026 21:28

The way I see it is like this. The issue is men. Adding More men , many of them traumatised, that have gone through God knows what, with possible metal health issues, that are treated like shit and being told how unwanted they are , with no real supervision , support or input …. Is that really a good idea?

Trauma my arse! These men are economic migrants and they rape because they come from countries where the culture is that women are chattels. Where a woman out on her own is free game and an "uncovered" woman is a prostitute.
There are men from these cultures being let off after raping because they say they "didn't know it was against the law"
I mean ffs!

GreenCandleWax · 23/04/2026 22:58

Flossette · 23/04/2026 22:50

It would be interesting to see the stats of violent crime committed by those born outwith the UK compared by those who live within.

A lot of ‘boat’ immigrants come from countries with a fairly sleazy view of western women. I worked with immigrants in a past life and the vast majority were lovely but a significant minority were brought up watching Hollywood films where (white western) women would get into bed with a guy within 30 mins of meeting them. This would be unheard of in their culture (and our culture too but the immigrant living in a far off land didn’t know this). This seemed to give the impression to some that all western women were gagging for sex with virtual strangers, hence they come here thinking that’s the norm.

I don't think its even that. Its cultural norms for such men to dominate women as though they own them, and that women are seen as inferior and unimportant and unworthy of respect or consideration. Added to that is a perception or belief, as you hint at here, that westerners are immoral. Ironically such men will likely believe they have superior moral standards!

Flossette · 23/04/2026 22:56

I also wonder whether violent assaults are more associated with immigrant communities. There have been machete attacks recently on the streets in the city where I live. Machetes really aren’t something that were ever common here. Are immigrants importing these hideous weapons here? Also if you are fleeing a war zone you perhaps have seen endless violence and have normalised it a little. Think of the butchery of Rwanda and Sarajevo in the 1990s. Scenes of violence unimaginable to us.

TeenLifeMum · 23/04/2026 22:52

I give you anyone linked to Jeffery Epstein. They’re only pinning money and sharing confidential info on people, not the sex stuff and it’s only what is in the emails of a dead man, not the accounts of loving women.