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Why isn't there any mainstream media focus on British men rape who molest and rape, women and children? But just 'the boat people' ?! Evil/badness exists everywhere!

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Betchygreen · 23/04/2026 19:27

I'm an immigrant of white British/European descent and I saw a headline today in the mainstream media about 'rape meaning sex' pleaded according to asylum seekers who have recently tried at court for rape.

What's going on? If I had to report a (my) white British rapist, I really don't think it would've made headlines. Nor would've any other abuse. White Male British men seem to get off with impunity, or I know are ever accused and formally charged.

I feel it is a shocking abuse of power that only newcomers and brown skinned/other culture peoples are singled out.

Why is it that the UK remains so very much patriarchal and oppressive towards women and children? Why are we not centred in such as way that it as important for women and children to thrive in our society and culture as it is for men of any/whichever long standing class? Is it classicism or what is it? Explain it to me, I truly don't understand why it has to be like this other than those who get a rise out of feeling powerful and in control of others?

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MaturingCheeseball · 24/04/2026 11:06

And one of the men is on the run for murder in his home country.

cantstopthinkingaboutit2 · 24/04/2026 11:01

A woman’s life has been ruined after being gang raped and this is your first thought and concern. Unbelievable.

It made the news as strangers gang raping a woman is actually pretty rare in this country these days. That would have made the news if they were white, black, green, blue.

Megifer · 24/04/2026 10:52

nomas · 24/04/2026 10:38

Around 2000 women are raped by men in the UK every week. Nothing about that statistic should make anyone feel better.

Ive been raped, youre right it shouldnt, however I was replying to this completely different point:

Me - tbf its white men who notice and tell them to fuck off/variation of.

your reply to the above - This seems unlikely given the vast amount of abuse is committed by white men. Plus racist and anti-Semitic attacks too.

MaturingCheeseball · 24/04/2026 10:45

But surely no sane person can think it’s ok to allow large numbers of undocumented men into a country. Every other schmuck has to trudge through passport control. These men could be rapists/murderers/petty or large-scale criminals - we just don’t know.

Do I like the idea of “home-grown” rapists? No - it’s horrible - but, as others have said, we can do nothing about their residency and, presumably, if they have a record that will make a difference in apprehending/sentencing them.

Worralorra · 24/04/2026 10:40

You’re looking in the wrong places - a simple Google search used AI to return this from the ONS:

Specific, publicly available statistics that break down the exact number of White British men charged with rape in the UK for the most recent calendar year (2024–2025) are not explicitly published in consolidated national reports.
However, available data from the Ministry of Justice and the Crown Prosecution Service (CPS) provides the following context for England and Wales:
Overall Rape Charges: In the year 2023/24, the CPS charged 2,572 suspects with adult rape. In the 2024/25 period, 4,636 total suspects were charged with rape/sexual offences, marking an increase.
Ethnicity of Defendants: According to Statistics on Ethnicity and the Criminal Justice System 2024, for indictable offences, where ethnicity is known, 83% of defendants were White.
Recorded Offences: In the year ending December 2024, there were 71,227 police-recorded rape offences, with a charge rate of 2.7%.
GOV.UK +3
The Office for National Statistics (ONS) notes that they do not break down police-recorded crime by both ethnicity and specific offence type in their main releases, and caution that data on perpetrator characteristics is often based on victim surveys.
Office for National Statistics +1

Is 83% not damning enough for you?

nomas · 24/04/2026 10:38

Megifer · 24/04/2026 10:17

If it makes you feel better to think its unlikely thats absolutely fine.

Around 2000 women are raped by men in the UK every week. Nothing about that statistic should make anyone feel better.

nomas · 24/04/2026 10:35

BlakeCarrington · 24/04/2026 10:33

Well that was also all over the papers so people are talking about it, which kind of disproves your point.

No it doesn’t prove my point? When OP started her thread why didn’t you others talk about this John Ashby case that is literally in the courts this week?

nomas · 24/04/2026 10:34

5128gap · 24/04/2026 10:24

Because when a man who is not white British rapes or murders, it suits white British men to pretend it's his ethnicity, nationality or race that is the characteristic predisposing him to rape and murder rather than his sex.
Which is nonsense really, because if ethnicity, nationality and race rather than sex were the pertinent characteristics then you'd expect to see similar offending patterns in men AND women of other ethnicities. Yet funnily enough, across all races, ethnicity and nationality, the shared characteristic of the most violent heinous criminals is sex.

Nice to have a voice of reason on the thread.

BlakeCarrington · 24/04/2026 10:33

nomas · 23/04/2026 21:07

No one is defending them. But funny how every thread is hijacked and taken over and becomes about grooming gangs.

Why don't you ever want to talk about what white rapists do? What about the white man called john Ashby who pleaded guilty this week to raping a Sikh woman in her home and calling her a 'fucking Muslim bitch?'

Well that was also all over the papers so people are talking about it, which kind of disproves your point.

Quine0nline · 24/04/2026 10:31

It is interesting that this is reported in all forms of the mainstream media, not just the right wing papers. As much in the guardian and Independent as the daily mail, telegraph, sun and Star. As much as on BBC, sky or itv.

5128gap · 24/04/2026 10:24

Because when a man who is not white British rapes or murders, it suits white British men to pretend it's his ethnicity, nationality or race that is the characteristic predisposing him to rape and murder rather than his sex.
Which is nonsense really, because if ethnicity, nationality and race rather than sex were the pertinent characteristics then you'd expect to see similar offending patterns in men AND women of other ethnicities. Yet funnily enough, across all races, ethnicity and nationality, the shared characteristic of the most violent heinous criminals is sex.

Megifer · 24/04/2026 10:17

nomas · 24/04/2026 09:59

tbf its white men who notice and tell them to fuck off/variation of.

This seems unlikely given the vast amount of abuse is committed by white men. Plus racist and anti-Semitic attacks too.

If it makes you feel better to think its unlikely thats absolutely fine.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 24/04/2026 10:11

Presumably because we have more than enough vile home-grown rapists/abusers (of whatever colour) without importing more, who will end up being a drain on the taxpayer and won’t be deported because of their human rights.

nomas · 24/04/2026 10:03

GCAcademic · 24/04/2026 07:44

It might be bleeding obvious but social media is currently full of white men carrying on as if only brown or black men have ever raped a woman.

Exactly. Do they think abuse by a man is somehow more acceptable if a white man does it? Absurd.

nomas · 24/04/2026 10:01

KatiePricesKnickers · 24/04/2026 06:07

But your ‘most rapists are white’ is a valid comment in a majority white country?
What other gems of the bleeding obvious do you have?

A poster says the entire Muslim culture of men and women are disgusting and that one white rapist in the UK is nothing compared to that, and instead of pulling them up on such a heinous comment, you are pulling me up on stating a fact?

Nice to see you have your priorities straight.

nomas · 24/04/2026 09:59

Megifer · 24/04/2026 09:11

Id assume its because it feels like a disproportionate number. We're told there are only a very small amount of the people you refer to here, yet it seems theres a large number of this minority committing these crimes.

I have to walk through a rough area of my town to get to the office. Its renowned for groups of immigrants to gather (its a fact they are immigrants im not assuming this). Me and other women are harassed by these and tbf its white men who notice and tell them to fuck off/variation of.

Im always fearful of what any man is capable of, but i have to say I fear white British men a bit less than these groups of immigrants that hang around because the rate of attack seems disproportionate.

tbf its white men who notice and tell them to fuck off/variation of.

This seems unlikely given the vast amount of abuse is committed by white men. Plus racist and anti-Semitic attacks too.

MeetMeOnTheCorner · 24/04/2026 09:25

These are the stats from the CPS on convictions. Cannot find more up to date ones but this table covers ethnicity. You will need to piece the lines together to get the numbers for each group. It’s useful for this debate.

Why isn't there any mainstream media focus on British men rape who molest and rape, women and children? But just 'the boat people' ?! Evil/badness exists everywhere!
Why isn't there any mainstream media focus on British men rape who molest and rape, women and children? But just 'the boat people' ?! Evil/badness exists everywhere!
MeetMeOnTheCorner · 24/04/2026 09:18

They get fully stuck in when it’s a footballer. The “boat people” issue is about importing these men and many feel we need to avoid this. It’s not about not recognising we don’t have uk born white rapiers! I seem to remember high profile cases about a taxi driver and a police officer. Both white.

filofaxdouble · 24/04/2026 09:16

Stnam · 24/04/2026 06:34

Quite a few white men who travel or live in other countries rape and sexually abuse women there. I certainly wouldn't blame the local population for objecting to it. I actually find it depressing that they don't get more angry about it.

Yes I agree. Those countries should deport them straight back to the UK.

thefloorislavayes · 24/04/2026 09:15

Are you making an argument that only newcomers and brown skinned/other cultures are singled out? Because if you are I suggest you go and read/listen to Maggie Oliver.

filofaxdouble · 24/04/2026 09:13

The police have never admitted to routinely covering up mass rape from white British men due to a fear they would be labelled racist.

Dweetfidilove · 24/04/2026 09:12

BeckyBloom · 23/04/2026 21:35

Because we have been taught to be tolerant and accepting and that diversity is good. We are stuck with the men who are born here….why accept that it’s fine for men in boats with no papers who have travelled through many safe countries are to be welcomed when they come from a culture that has no respect for women and no respect for Western values?

Some day I'll make the time to discuss these Western values that produced the Epsteins, Weinsteins, Saville, Pelicots, Trumps and Mountbatten-Windsors of thos world.

Megifer · 24/04/2026 09:11

Id assume its because it feels like a disproportionate number. We're told there are only a very small amount of the people you refer to here, yet it seems theres a large number of this minority committing these crimes.

I have to walk through a rough area of my town to get to the office. Its renowned for groups of immigrants to gather (its a fact they are immigrants im not assuming this). Me and other women are harassed by these and tbf its white men who notice and tell them to fuck off/variation of.

Im always fearful of what any man is capable of, but i have to say I fear white British men a bit less than these groups of immigrants that hang around because the rate of attack seems disproportionate.

LetsBeWellBehaved · 24/04/2026 08:59

This isn’t white rapists vs brown rapists. Any sex offender born here is in the same category. They are our mess to sort out.

People are pissed that now we have extra creeps coming from elsewhere. These evil people are taking places away from actual refugees fleeing genocidal violence and brutal regimes from the same countries. It’s disgraceful. People aren’t angry enough, the status quo is continuing.

Cheese55 · 24/04/2026 08:35

I think there is nothing we can take from the Taliban's view of women!