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Why isn't there any mainstream media focus on British men rape who molest and rape, women and children? But just 'the boat people' ?! Evil/badness exists everywhere!

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Betchygreen · 23/04/2026 19:27

I'm an immigrant of white British/European descent and I saw a headline today in the mainstream media about 'rape meaning sex' pleaded according to asylum seekers who have recently tried at court for rape.

What's going on? If I had to report a (my) white British rapist, I really don't think it would've made headlines. Nor would've any other abuse. White Male British men seem to get off with impunity, or I know are ever accused and formally charged.

I feel it is a shocking abuse of power that only newcomers and brown skinned/other culture peoples are singled out.

Why is it that the UK remains so very much patriarchal and oppressive towards women and children? Why are we not centred in such as way that it as important for women and children to thrive in our society and culture as it is for men of any/whichever long standing class? Is it classicism or what is it? Explain it to me, I truly don't understand why it has to be like this other than those who get a rise out of feeling powerful and in control of others?

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LetsBeWellBehaved · 25/04/2026 11:49

Betchygreen · 25/04/2026 11:17

OP, here. Nowhere in my original post did I say rapists who belong to a certain culture or race - whether legal immigrant, native British citizen or asylum seeker - should get away with/excused for raping. All rape, regardless of the culture/race of the perpetrator, should be prosecuted with the full force of the law.

I was asking why White British men do not face the same public outage, and outrage, as brown skinned individuals, when there are clearly thousands of white men committing misogyny and rape. PPs have attempted to answer this question: It comes down to prejudice, ignorance, white male supremacy, misogyny and racism.

of all the hills to die on

Badbadbunny · 25/04/2026 11:48

anourishingsoup · 25/04/2026 09:42

Yes, when people are only concerned about black/brown rapists they are very wrong.

Who said they're not concerned about "white" rapists? Presumably white rapists get caught and imprisoned too? Presumably white rapists get ostracised by family/friends, lose their jobs, etc. Are you saying that doesn't happen??

Badbadbunny · 25/04/2026 11:46

Bad enough that people born in Britain are rapists, but even worse when people are in the country who shouldn't be are adding to the number of rapists.

Just because we have "home grown" rapists doesn't mean we should also accept foreign born and/or illegal immigrant/asylum seeker rapists too.

If we had proper controls as to who comes into the country and proper systems in place to vet/check them, monitor them, and yes, deport those with no right to stay here quickly, the number of rapists would be less and more women/girls would be safe.

EasternStandard · 25/04/2026 11:44

cantstopthinkingaboutit2 · 25/04/2026 11:33

The incident you are referring to was a gang rape in a public place on a stranger. That was always going to get a lot of press attention. I know you are desperate to see racism here but this story would have made headlines regardless of where the rapists were from.

Agree on the recent case. Are you talking about the headlines and case this week op? Do you think it shouldn’t have been reported

Cheese55 · 25/04/2026 11:40

Betchygreen · 25/04/2026 11:17

OP, here. Nowhere in my original post did I say rapists who belong to a certain culture or race - whether legal immigrant, native British citizen or asylum seeker - should get away with/excused for raping. All rape, regardless of the culture/race of the perpetrator, should be prosecuted with the full force of the law.

I was asking why White British men do not face the same public outage, and outrage, as brown skinned individuals, when there are clearly thousands of white men committing misogyny and rape. PPs have attempted to answer this question: It comes down to prejudice, ignorance, white male supremacy, misogyny and racism.

I think PPs have pointed out that there is outrage over all men who rape/assault. I think the point is that, an increase of 20ish year old men whatever their colour leads to more rapes/assaults. Thereby indicating it is men that is the problem from wherever the are from. However I do think men from countries that have zero respect for women might influence their behaviour towards women when in the UK.

cantstopthinkingaboutit2 · 25/04/2026 11:33

Betchygreen · 25/04/2026 11:17

OP, here. Nowhere in my original post did I say rapists who belong to a certain culture or race - whether legal immigrant, native British citizen or asylum seeker - should get away with/excused for raping. All rape, regardless of the culture/race of the perpetrator, should be prosecuted with the full force of the law.

I was asking why White British men do not face the same public outage, and outrage, as brown skinned individuals, when there are clearly thousands of white men committing misogyny and rape. PPs have attempted to answer this question: It comes down to prejudice, ignorance, white male supremacy, misogyny and racism.

The incident you are referring to was a gang rape in a public place on a stranger. That was always going to get a lot of press attention. I know you are desperate to see racism here but this story would have made headlines regardless of where the rapists were from.

Betchygreen · 25/04/2026 11:17

OP, here. Nowhere in my original post did I say rapists who belong to a certain culture or race - whether legal immigrant, native British citizen or asylum seeker - should get away with/excused for raping. All rape, regardless of the culture/race of the perpetrator, should be prosecuted with the full force of the law.

I was asking why White British men do not face the same public outage, and outrage, as brown skinned individuals, when there are clearly thousands of white men committing misogyny and rape. PPs have attempted to answer this question: It comes down to prejudice, ignorance, white male supremacy, misogyny and racism.

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BlakeCarrington · 25/04/2026 10:02

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Please piss off with your accusations of racism. My comment above is in no way racist and your silencing tactic to prevent discussion of the extra threats being imported won’t work.

KatiePricesKnickers · 25/04/2026 09:52

anourishingsoup · 25/04/2026 09:42

Yes, when people are only concerned about black/brown rapists they are very wrong.

And who has said that? No one in this thread.

anourishingsoup · 25/04/2026 09:42

KatiePricesKnickers · 25/04/2026 07:05

Are they wrong?

Yes, when people are only concerned about black/brown rapists they are very wrong.

Swiftie1878 · 25/04/2026 09:33

nomas · 23/04/2026 21:07

No one is defending them. But funny how every thread is hijacked and taken over and becomes about grooming gangs.

Why don't you ever want to talk about what white rapists do? What about the white man called john Ashby who pleaded guilty this week to raping a Sikh woman in her home and calling her a 'fucking Muslim bitch?'

It’s been all over the news and has been since the offence occurred last year. Rightly so.

LetsBeWellBehaved · 25/04/2026 07:53

What’s racist abojt not wanting rapists to be given compassionate citizenship exactly (at the expense of women/children’s safety and genuine refugees)? You have to just laugh. I just cannot with people anymore.

KatiePricesKnickers · 25/04/2026 07:05

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Are they wrong?

anourishingsoup · 24/04/2026 21:40

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Cheese55 · 24/04/2026 18:44

Dweetfidilove · 24/04/2026 11:58

This is a country where men will rape and/or sexually assault women in public and be applauded for it, passerbys will turn a blind eye to it, no-one will give testimony against the assailants etc. Women are raped in buses, tubes, in town centres... And they won't face prosecution either.

Billionaires, millionaires and paupers- we all produce men that treat women with wanton disregard; because in the West as elsewhere, they can do so with impunity. We are not better where this is concerned.

Nobody is doubting that UK men commit sexual violence but women in the Uk do have more freedom than say Afghanistan. The men that come from there are not going to have the same view of women as UK born men (which isn't that great).

ZoeCM · 24/04/2026 18:42

Bollihobs · 24/04/2026 16:53

Apparently he had just been released from a Mental Health facility (having been sectioned last September) but without a full package of support. An extremely sad situation all round.

I couldn't give a fuck. I feel no sadness for him. Poor mental health does not make anyone commit a racially-motivated rape. That poor, poor woman.

Bollihobs · 24/04/2026 17:29

nomas · 24/04/2026 17:06

Oh, the poor mentally ill white man defence, as usual, when the criminal is white.

He whipped his victim, strangled her, turned hot water on her in the tub, made her say Hallelujah, repeated on many occasions that he was the master, and that she was ‘a fucking bitch and a fucking Muslim bitch’. he exposed himself to her and slapped his erect penis against her head. He raped her vaginally. He repeatedly called her a dirty and a filthy bitch. He repeatedly said that he was giving her some big British white cock.

And you feel sad for him?

Lack of Mental Health care for mentally ill people is very, very sad and can have, as here, devastating consequences.

Not sure where you are coming from and nowhere did I say "the poor mentally ill white man"

I tend not to categorise, label or other wise reference a person's colour if it has no relevance. I don't know but I don't think being White made him mentally ill, he just was, he was not, and is not of sound mind. But all you see is his colour.

BlakeCarrington · 24/04/2026 17:28

@anourishingsoup - it’s very obvious why people are focusing on where they come from - we have enough home grown sex offenders without importing yet more fgs!

anourishingsoup · 24/04/2026 17:27

AliceAbsolum · 23/04/2026 20:01

Why are you so keen to deny the reality of the situation? These men come from places where women are property.

Why are you focusing on where they come from? A man rapes a woman for control and power, regardless of where he comes from. White men who rape do not hold higher standards of women 🤔.

OP it's racism plain and simple. So many of the Protect Our Women crowd in my city have convictions for DV and ABH towards women. They don't give a shite about the women, they are just racists.

nomas · 24/04/2026 17:06

Bollihobs · 24/04/2026 16:53

Apparently he had just been released from a Mental Health facility (having been sectioned last September) but without a full package of support. An extremely sad situation all round.

Oh, the poor mentally ill white man defence, as usual, when the criminal is white.

He whipped his victim, strangled her, turned hot water on her in the tub, made her say Hallelujah, repeated on many occasions that he was the master, and that she was ‘a fucking bitch and a fucking Muslim bitch’. he exposed himself to her and slapped his erect penis against her head. He raped her vaginally. He repeatedly called her a dirty and a filthy bitch. He repeatedly said that he was giving her some big British white cock.

And you feel sad for him?

Bollihobs · 24/04/2026 16:53

nomas · 23/04/2026 21:07

No one is defending them. But funny how every thread is hijacked and taken over and becomes about grooming gangs.

Why don't you ever want to talk about what white rapists do? What about the white man called john Ashby who pleaded guilty this week to raping a Sikh woman in her home and calling her a 'fucking Muslim bitch?'

Apparently he had just been released from a Mental Health facility (having been sectioned last September) but without a full package of support. An extremely sad situation all round.

Dweetfidilove · 24/04/2026 14:24

filofaxdouble · 24/04/2026 13:49

You are NOT at equivalent risk.

You are NOT at an equivalent risk of being groped by passers by in London as you are in Cairo.

You are NOT at an equivalent risk of violent sexual assault in London as you are in Kabul.

The fact that there is risk in London does NOT make that risk the same as the risk somewhere else.

I wasn't groped in Cairo, but I've been groped by a white British man on Brighton Pier - middle of the afternoon and with 3 friends.

EasternStandard · 24/04/2026 14:17

filofaxdouble · 24/04/2026 13:49

You are NOT at equivalent risk.

You are NOT at an equivalent risk of being groped by passers by in London as you are in Cairo.

You are NOT at an equivalent risk of violent sexual assault in London as you are in Kabul.

The fact that there is risk in London does NOT make that risk the same as the risk somewhere else.

London? Yep it’s not all the same.

Soupsavior · 24/04/2026 14:13

MyPeppyCyanFinch · 24/04/2026 13:31

There really aren't white British grooming 'gangs' raping on the scale that the Asian and other non- white British gangs have been.

There are thousands upon thousands of white British rapists but not in a co-ordinated way like the Asian and other non-white British grooming gangs have been.

And definitely not any using white British culture or religion to rape. Which is what all of the Asian and other non-white British grooming gangs have all done. They used their Religion and culture to groom and rape white British girls.

This is really naive, there are and have been pedophile rings abusing children full of white men and women. The idea that they don't do this on the same scale is just a racist accusation. The only difference is when they show the mugshots of the white British rapists people don't point to their race for a reason.

cantstopthinkingaboutit2 · 24/04/2026 14:09

Dweetfidilove · 24/04/2026 13:29

Champagne socialism vs hysterical juxtaposition 🤔.

I can not want to walk the streets of Kabul or Cairo AND accept I'm at great risk of being raped in London too. As the OP asks - I can acknowledge that evil men come in all colours, shapes and sizes and rapists will rape wherever you meet them - Kabul, Cairo and London.

Have you ever been to Cairo? I have never experienced harassment like it, despite wearing a full length skirt and arms covered etc. A woman on the trip made the mistake of wearing a knee-length skirt and she was stared at, leered at, shouted at etc all day. On the flip side, I‘ve been to London wearing a vest top and shorts in the height of summer and had no issues at all.

Of course there are good and bad people everywhere but some people are being very very naive about cultural differences and different societal attitudes towards women.