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Does this sound ok? School run…

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Mrsupanddown · 23/04/2026 11:47

I tried to get all the kids in to one school which is 5 minutes from us but the appeal was rejected. So I have left oldest DS at the school and DD is joining him. Youngest DS is at the school nearest to home.

I plan to drop DS (9) at school with DD (8) at 8:35. There school gates don’t open until 8:40.

So they will queue up outside with the other kids and parents. DS will wait until DD goes into her class then he will go to his.

I will be able to drop youngest off then in time for his gates opening at 8:45.

Does this sound ok and safe enough?

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mynameiscalypso · 23/04/2026 11:57

Wouldn’t be allowed at my son’s school and the headmistress is always on the gate so would notice immediately

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 23/04/2026 11:56

You aren’t leaving them “with other kids and parents” though. You are leaving them alone. Those parents aren’t responsible for your kids. They could all go off and leave in the same way, and you have to act like they weren’t there.

9 yo is too young to be responsible for 8 yo, and both are too young to be left alone outside the school.

Is there no breakfast club?

MyIcyHeart · 23/04/2026 11:53

At their age, it sounds absolutely fine. I was doing this with mine when they were 6 and 7.

We don't all have the luxury of time to stand around waiting for the gates to open, so do what you need to do.
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Darragon · 23/04/2026 11:52

No you can’t leave your 8yo in the care of your 9yo. You need to use breakfast club or a childminder or something else.

WanderlustMom · 23/04/2026 11:49

I wouldn’t want to leave my kids outside the gate.

Can’t you drop your youngest 5 minutes later? Here our gates open at 8:45 but stay open until 9 so we have a 15
minute window to get them in

littlemousebigcheese · 23/04/2026 11:48

We wouldn’t be allowed to do that at our school; parents or someone over 18 has to be there to walk them through the gates. Can you arrange with another parent to take your two in?

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