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To think I’ll be stuck at 16 stone forever

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justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 06:45

I’m in the process of losing weight and since the start of the year I’ve lost about 13lbs.

But I seem to be in a loop. I’ll hit 16 stone 0.3 on the scales and then go back up to 16 stone 4, then go back down, then back up. It’s like an annoying cycle.

I eat well:

breakfast - yoghurt with berries and sometimes a drizzle of honey. On low protein days I’ll add some skyr.

lunch - something from home. Usually soup, a salad or a bit of meat with some veg.

dinner - again something prepped. Can be another big salad, cottage pie, pasta bake.

I eat 1550 calories a day, which is a deficit for my height and weight. I go to the gym twice a week (under the direction of a PT, to lift weights), try to run 3 times a week but I’m waiting on some new running shoes, and the other two days a week I’ll walk 10k steps minimum. I try to drink 4 litres of water a day at least.

my clothes fit better but the scale just won’t change 😥 do I just accept I’m stuck here?

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ApproachingMinimums · 23/04/2026 17:21

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 17:08

What a load of tosh

You're the one who is 16 stone though.

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 17:20

LillyoftheValleys · 23/04/2026 17:16

10K = 6.2 miles

You're walking at less than 3 mph. (You said 2.7mph.)

At 3mph, 6.2 miles would take you just over 2 hrs.

2.7 mph is looking more like 2.5 hrs.

Also, everyone's steps are different.
Some people take tiny steps, others take huge strides.
Gadgets need calibrating - I'm sure yours is.

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I don’t know if It’s just because of my weight that you’re being like this, but again you’re incorrect. I’ve sat around 9k so far daily this week, which is entirely my own fault and something I’ll work on but the day in the picture is entirely representative

To think I’ll be stuck at 16 stone forever
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ApproachingMinimums · 23/04/2026 17:20

Fripperiesadsuch · 23/04/2026 17:12

Yes and if you were stuck in a survival situation then red meat is one of the most nutritionally complete foods you can eat.

It also contains all nine essential amino acids required for muscle growth, tissue repair, and immune function and contains iron, zinc, and B vitamins (especially B12) in forms that are much easier for the body to absorb compared to other sources, zinc, iron, selenium, and phosphorus and beneficial compounds not found in many other foods, including taurine, carnitine, creatine, and carnosine, which support metabolic and cardiovascular health

Op you mention protein days; have you tried eating protein daily at every meal (30g approx) with plenty of fibrous veg? So always a big salad to start lunch and dinner,

This @justmeandthedogs

LillyoftheValleys · 23/04/2026 17:16

10K = 6.2 miles

You're walking at less than 3 mph. (You said 2.7mph.)

At 3mph, 6.2 miles would take you just over 2 hrs.

2.7 mph is looking more like 2.5 hrs.

Also, everyone's steps are different.
Some people take tiny steps, others take huge strides.
Gadgets need calibrating - I'm sure yours is.

Fripperiesadsuch · 23/04/2026 17:12

OneGreenSheep · 23/04/2026 16:36

What kind of meat do you eat daily? Does it not bother you that red meat is a probable cause of cancer and processed meat is a known cause?

Yes and if you were stuck in a survival situation then red meat is one of the most nutritionally complete foods you can eat.

It also contains all nine essential amino acids required for muscle growth, tissue repair, and immune function and contains iron, zinc, and B vitamins (especially B12) in forms that are much easier for the body to absorb compared to other sources, zinc, iron, selenium, and phosphorus and beneficial compounds not found in many other foods, including taurine, carnitine, creatine, and carnosine, which support metabolic and cardiovascular health

Op you mention protein days; have you tried eating protein daily at every meal (30g approx) with plenty of fibrous veg? So always a big salad to start lunch and dinner,

PersephonePomegranate · 23/04/2026 17:12

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 17:05

Thank you! If the 15s13 sticks on the scales I’m down a stone since the start of the year. A lot, lot slower than I wanted but it feels more sustainable.

I think you've got the right mindset. Sustainability is always better than speed (although speed would be nice too).

Good luck!

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 17:08

ApproachingMinimums · 23/04/2026 17:05

There is no evidence red meat causes anything but great health. I never touch processed meat as it's full of chemicals and preservatives. I eat mostly minced meat because I am on a budget. Lots of eggs and butter. some fish (tinned and fresh). I also sprout and grow low oxalate veggies - mung, alfalfa, lentils, black eye, chick and marrowfat peas. I probably eat what my ancestors eat pretty much although in the ice ages there would have been only meat of course. My maternal haplogroup is from Siberia.

What a load of tosh

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justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 17:07

balancenotperfection · 23/04/2026 17:07

Are you taking progress photos and body measurements? The scale is only one piece of information.

I have taken some when I started, it might be worth updating them and seeing if there’s a difference

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balancenotperfection · 23/04/2026 17:07

Are you taking progress photos and body measurements? The scale is only one piece of information.

ApproachingMinimums · 23/04/2026 17:05

OneGreenSheep · 23/04/2026 16:36

What kind of meat do you eat daily? Does it not bother you that red meat is a probable cause of cancer and processed meat is a known cause?

There is no evidence red meat causes anything but great health. I never touch processed meat as it's full of chemicals and preservatives. I eat mostly minced meat because I am on a budget. Lots of eggs and butter. some fish (tinned and fresh). I also sprout and grow low oxalate veggies - mung, alfalfa, lentils, black eye, chick and marrowfat peas. I probably eat what my ancestors eat pretty much although in the ice ages there would have been only meat of course. My maternal haplogroup is from Siberia.

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 17:05

PersephonePomegranate · 23/04/2026 17:02

I'm inclined to agree with you.

Stick with it OP. Sometimes you just get stuck and then all of a sudden, drop a few lb in one go or at least start moving again I know this stage is frustrating, bit carry on and it'll pass.

Well done on your weightloss so far!

Thank you! If the 15s13 sticks on the scales I’m down a stone since the start of the year. A lot, lot slower than I wanted but it feels more sustainable.

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MeridaBrave · 23/04/2026 17:03

LillyoftheValleys · 23/04/2026 16:30

The 10K steps as a goal is nonsense. Nothing personal there! The whole 10k thing was the name of the Japanese invention for the gadget to measure steps. There was never any science behind it.

I genuinely wonder how many people hit 10K a day- that's just under 5 miles and is close to 2 hrs of walking at 2.5 mph. I do around 7K and that's a 3 mile hill walk, taking about 50 mins, and some days I have shorter walks around town etc to add onto that.

I was curious as it's easier to move at home- a standing desk, a couple of short bursts of walking at lunchtime etc.

The 10k is arbitrary but it’s more likely to be a case of the more the better. I get an average of 16k aim for a minimum of 12k - desk job but 10-12 min walk to train and I walk my dog.

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 17:02

ERthree · 23/04/2026 16:29

Stop drinking 4l of water a day as you will be retaining water.

The less you drink the more you hold onto as you’re dehydrated!

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PersephonePomegranate · 23/04/2026 17:02

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 06:55

Because I’ve tried lower calories before and it spirals into a place where I end up with very unhealthy habits. Carbs are nothing to be afraid of and needed if you’re doing a lot of cardio and exercise. I mainly eat wholewheat pasta and lots of lovely wholemeal sourdough

I'm inclined to agree with you.

Stick with it OP. Sometimes you just get stuck and then all of a sudden, drop a few lb in one go or at least start moving again I know this stage is frustrating, bit carry on and it'll pass.

Well done on your weightloss so far!

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 17:02

bafta16 · 23/04/2026 16:57

Blimey OP. You have to have a life surely? Not on a treadmill between meetings.

I walk to my office - 2.5k steps. Walk at lunch, another 2k. Can get anywhere between 1k&3k just walking around at work. Right now I’m on 6884 and by the time I’ve gone got a walk at the beach and got home, I’ll be on about 11k minimum!

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justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 17:00

LillyoftheValleys · 23/04/2026 16:30

The 10K steps as a goal is nonsense. Nothing personal there! The whole 10k thing was the name of the Japanese invention for the gadget to measure steps. There was never any science behind it.

I genuinely wonder how many people hit 10K a day- that's just under 5 miles and is close to 2 hrs of walking at 2.5 mph. I do around 7K and that's a 3 mile hill walk, taking about 50 mins, and some days I have shorter walks around town etc to add onto that.

I was curious as it's easier to move at home- a standing desk, a couple of short bursts of walking at lunchtime etc.

I track it. 10 minutes of walking should be 1000 steps. I walk a KM in 13.5 minutes, so about 4.4km or 2.7 miles an hour. I get 10k in a lot less than 2.5 hours!

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Sleepygiraffe18 · 23/04/2026 16:58

How frustrating for you OP.
I would suggest increasing your calories to maintainence for at least a few weeks. When you're in a deficit for a prolonged period of time your body adapts and weight loss plateaus. So if you increase to maintenance for a while, your body relaxes and cortisol decreases. Then after a while if you eat in a small deficit again for a while fat loss should start again.
Phases of deficit/maintenance is much more sustainable and healthier for fat loss.

As well as general movement/activity every day and if you can some strength training.

All the best.

bafta16 · 23/04/2026 16:57

Blimey OP. You have to have a life surely? Not on a treadmill between meetings.

OneGreenSheep · 23/04/2026 16:36

ApproachingMinimums · 23/04/2026 16:25

Nope. No issues. I feel better than I ever have. Skin, nails, hair all amazing. Sleep like a log. No problem with logs either.

What kind of meat do you eat daily? Does it not bother you that red meat is a probable cause of cancer and processed meat is a known cause?

Frequency · 23/04/2026 16:33

@justmeandthedogs If you can afford it, get a treadmill, especially if your desk job has any WFH days.

While the kettle is boiling - 30 seconds fast incline walking
Waiting for dinner to cook - 15 minutes fast incline walking
On the phone - x minutes gentle, low incline walking
5 minutes between Teams meetings - treadmill, etc.

It really adds to the step count over the week and the incline raises your heartrate which is great for your overall cardio fitness.

It's also a steady cardio, which means your body is more likely to use fat to fuel it rather than muscle - hence why you see all the bodybuilders at the gym speedwalking Mount Everest on the treadmill.

LillyoftheValleys · 23/04/2026 16:30

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 16:13

What’s that got to do with the price of fish? Yes, I work, a desk job but I ensure to hit 10k steps daily. I walk as much as I can during working hours and get steps in before and after work, and at lunch.

The 10K steps as a goal is nonsense. Nothing personal there! The whole 10k thing was the name of the Japanese invention for the gadget to measure steps. There was never any science behind it.

I genuinely wonder how many people hit 10K a day- that's just under 5 miles and is close to 2 hrs of walking at 2.5 mph. I do around 7K and that's a 3 mile hill walk, taking about 50 mins, and some days I have shorter walks around town etc to add onto that.

I was curious as it's easier to move at home- a standing desk, a couple of short bursts of walking at lunchtime etc.

Gemtastic · 23/04/2026 16:29

I don’t know whether you’ve tried this and I’m sure you’ve tried everything but I do think it might be worth trying varying your calorie counting. So having a couple of days a week where you eat more so you avoid your body going into starvation mode. Also do you move around a lot during the day - up and down stairs, walking round the building etc. that can burn extra calories.

Also a lot of PTs recommend progressive loading to build up muscle; so the body gets used to e.g. a particular workout so you need to increase weight or reps to continue to build more muscle.

Finally interval training is positive for exercise rather than going for full effort without recovery.

Otherwise just keep your confidence and trust the process!

ERthree · 23/04/2026 16:29

Stop drinking 4l of water a day as you will be retaining water.

Pippa12 · 23/04/2026 16:26

It’s soooo disappointing when you are being so good and don’t see results. FWIW I don’t see drops every week, the scales won’t move for 3-4 weeks then over a week I’ll drop 2-3lbs and it will stay off. Then I’ll yo-yo over the next 2-3lbs again. I weigh myself most days, first thing in the morning, after a wee and naked.

Maybe you are losing inches?

Everybody has their own views on WL- try not to get to caught up in everybody else’s ideas/opinions. I like slimming world. It’s great for me. I’m down to 9st (<5ft) and I enjoy it.

Don’t get discouraged- sounds like you’re doing a great job!

ApproachingMinimums · 23/04/2026 16:25

Happytap · 23/04/2026 14:29

This sounds like a prescription for bowel cancer! Not to mention heart problems. My goodness. Eat some veggies!!! Aim for 30 plant points a week.

This honestly scares me that people could advise eating like this. Your gut must be a mess.

Nope. No issues. I feel better than I ever have. Skin, nails, hair all amazing. Sleep like a log. No problem with logs either.