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To think I’ll be stuck at 16 stone forever

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justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 06:45

I’m in the process of losing weight and since the start of the year I’ve lost about 13lbs.

But I seem to be in a loop. I’ll hit 16 stone 0.3 on the scales and then go back up to 16 stone 4, then go back down, then back up. It’s like an annoying cycle.

I eat well:

breakfast - yoghurt with berries and sometimes a drizzle of honey. On low protein days I’ll add some skyr.

lunch - something from home. Usually soup, a salad or a bit of meat with some veg.

dinner - again something prepped. Can be another big salad, cottage pie, pasta bake.

I eat 1550 calories a day, which is a deficit for my height and weight. I go to the gym twice a week (under the direction of a PT, to lift weights), try to run 3 times a week but I’m waiting on some new running shoes, and the other two days a week I’ll walk 10k steps minimum. I try to drink 4 litres of water a day at least.

my clothes fit better but the scale just won’t change 😥 do I just accept I’m stuck here?

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Backawayfromthesausage · 23/04/2026 07:22

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 07:20

My TDEE is around 2100, at a sedentary level, according to multiple websites.

Does that not logically tell you something is wrong in your calculations?

how do you feel you’re fueling your body if it is not cals or burning muscle or fat?

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 07:21

SheSaidHummingbird · 23/04/2026 07:21

And remember, you need to readjust and recalculate your deficit continuously as you lose. Your body will require less calories and you lose weight, so you need to eat fewer and fewer calories to continue to lose.

again, I am aware. Nutracheck does it for you every stone or so.

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justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 07:21

Doglover84 · 23/04/2026 07:20

In that case it doesn't matter what the scales say, what you are doing is obviously working, just be patient and stick at it. And ignore the carb haters 🤣

I don’t get the carb hate at all 😭

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SheSaidHummingbird · 23/04/2026 07:21

And remember, you need to readjust and recalculate your deficit continuously as you lose. Your body will require less calories and you lose weight, so you need to eat fewer and fewer calories to continue to lose.

Divebar2021 · 23/04/2026 07:20

Eugh I don’t know why I read these because the comments are always shit. ( not your fault OP ). 1500 calories seems quite low for someone at 16 stone… was that set by your PT or My Fitness Pal. When I started out I was on 1800 calories and I was a stone lighter than you. I also think your diet sounds a little bit boring and I’d probably add some eggs and maybe some nuts etc in there. That’s up to you though - I think it’s a plateau and it will correct itself. I’ve never not had one even on WLI. The running isn’t going to fix it but you should do it for your health anyway. ( but what has your PT said about it. ?)

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 07:20

Blondeshavemorefun · 23/04/2026 07:19

What’s your height ? I was 17s and 5/7 and my tdee was 1800. To lose weight you need to lose 500/600 c a day from your tdee

I was on 1200c a day to lose 1-2 lbs a week

unless you are 6f you are unlikely to lose weight on 1550c a day

I beleive you track it all and I use mfp to track calories but you need to eat 300c less a day to lose weight

it is literally what you are eating

so smaller portions

My TDEE is around 2100, at a sedentary level, according to multiple websites.

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burgundybirdie · 23/04/2026 07:20

What app are you using to calculate the calories? They're not all as accurate as they could be, especially if it's an AI one. Have you tried the (admittedly old-school but it works for me) method of just weighing on regular scales and using the nutritional information on the packaging to tot up the calories? It could be that the app is at fault.

If it's not the app, have you tried calorie cycling? That can help to shift a plateau.

Doglover84 · 23/04/2026 07:20

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 07:07

I’m guessing it’s because of my weight. Used to it to be honest. It’s just really frustrating because I know I am doing everything right but the scale just will not budge! Clothes that were bordering on too tight on me a few weeks ago now fit me really well so it’s obviously moving, just not on the scales

In that case it doesn't matter what the scales say, what you are doing is obviously working, just be patient and stick at it. And ignore the carb haters 🤣

Backawayfromthesausage · 23/04/2026 07:20

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 07:07

I’m guessing it’s because of my weight. Used to it to be honest. It’s just really frustrating because I know I am doing everything right but the scale just will not budge! Clothes that were bordering on too tight on me a few weeks ago now fit me really well so it’s obviously moving, just not on the scales

It’s not because of your weight, many of us have been where you are. And we are responding from a position of knowledge.

the fact is it is not humanly possible to eat in a defecit and not lose weight, over a prolonged period, it it not humanly possible to maintain 16 stone on 1500 cals a day. There is no way round this fact. Unless bed od chair bound,

to maintain at 16 stone the body needs a min of 2100 cals, usually more.

as such, over the course of an average week you’re consuming 500 cals a day more than you think,

travailtotravel · 23/04/2026 07:20

Oh I feel you, OP. I'm stuck going up and down the same 5lb ... it crept up and is hard to get off. I can do it if I'm sticking to 1200 cals. But where's the joy? So now, its by clothes fit and being good. Seriously reducing carbs is key, I rarely eat bread (but love it so much), pasta or rice, potatoes. Swede is my new low carb friend!

I'd consider WLI to get some off quickly but I was prescribed some a while ago and they really screwed with my metabolism and I didn't lose weight!

Try adding a bit more walking (headphone in, podcast on!),different exercises are good .... also outside in the fresh air so more about mental health benefits!

Blondeshavemorefun · 23/04/2026 07:19

What’s your height ? I was 17s and 5/7 and my tdee was 1800. To lose weight you need to lose 500/600 c a day from your tdee

I was on 1200c a day to lose 1-2 lbs a week

unless you are 6f you are unlikely to lose weight on 1550c a day

I beleive you track it all and I use mfp to track calories but you need to eat 300c less a day to lose weight

it is literally what you are eating

so smaller portions

Beatriz85 · 23/04/2026 07:18

Following as im in a vicious circle of dropping few pounds then gaining them back. Dropping weight is becoming increasingly difficult. But I haven't been tracking calories...

SheSaidHummingbird · 23/04/2026 07:14

CaffeinatedMum · 23/04/2026 07:12

I would make sure you’re walking at least 10k steps every day. I massively notice a difference in how many calories I burn in a day when I have a very sedentary day (even with a workout) compared to a day where I’m doing a decent amount of steps.

How many calories do you think you burn on 10k steps?

CaffeinatedMum · 23/04/2026 07:12

I would make sure you’re walking at least 10k steps every day. I massively notice a difference in how many calories I burn in a day when I have a very sedentary day (even with a workout) compared to a day where I’m doing a decent amount of steps.

monkeysox · 23/04/2026 07:11

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 06:52

As I’ve said, I do. I track every last gram that enters my mouth.

Are your food scales and person scales accurate?

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 07:11

Sunshineandrainbow · 23/04/2026 07:09

When are you eating the bread as it not on your daily list? Could you try and reduce this?
Could you look at your portion sizes?

You day plan doesn't seem a lot to me to be honest. Do you have any snacks in between?

mainly at weekends when I have time to make a nice breakfast, but still all calorie counted and I’ll adjust other meals. Snacks tend to be some light cheese or fruit, again all fully tracked

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youalright · 23/04/2026 07:10

Are you losing fat and gaining muscle which is why the scales aren't moving much

GoldMoon · 23/04/2026 07:10

Maybe as your clothes feel looser but the scales are not budging you are gaining muscle and losing fat . Try taking your measurements monthly . Perhaps you will see a difference there .

Livefreely · 23/04/2026 07:10

SheSaidHummingbird · 23/04/2026 07:00

Exercise matters little for weight loss; negligible calories burned which people think gives them license to overeat to compensate, and it spikes hunger, again, contributing to overeating.

Yes exactly this. Exercise is negligible in terms of weight loss but is important for your overall health and wellbeing of course.

i understand you say carbs are nothing to be afraid of but I think we need far fewer than we often think! I used to be a heavy carb eater and now only have one meal a day with a lot of carbs. This has helped stabilize weight and has not affected exercise.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 23/04/2026 07:09

Your weight loss so far is good though. Keep on going.

10namechangeslater · 23/04/2026 07:09

You are eating too much pasta and bread I suspect.

Sunshineandrainbow · 23/04/2026 07:09

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 06:55

Because I’ve tried lower calories before and it spirals into a place where I end up with very unhealthy habits. Carbs are nothing to be afraid of and needed if you’re doing a lot of cardio and exercise. I mainly eat wholewheat pasta and lots of lovely wholemeal sourdough

When are you eating the bread as it not on your daily list? Could you try and reduce this?
Could you look at your portion sizes?

You day plan doesn't seem a lot to me to be honest. Do you have any snacks in between?

BlueMum16 · 23/04/2026 07:09

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 06:55

Because I’ve tried lower calories before and it spirals into a place where I end up with very unhealthy habits. Carbs are nothing to be afraid of and needed if you’re doing a lot of cardio and exercise. I mainly eat wholewheat pasta and lots of lovely wholemeal sourdough

Mix your diet for a few weeks.

I followed a Second Nature app that my GP provided me. It's basically for prediabetics and recommends cutting carbs and sugar. It worked for me.

So I have yoghurt for breakfast with fruit but full fall so much less sugar. If they remove the fat they fill with sugar to taste nice.

Lunch would be usually a salad or homemade soup (but not potato) and no bread

Dinner would be meat/fish with veg and no potatoes. I don't eat pasta but swapped rice for cauliflower rice (or half and half at first).

Sometimes your body just gets stuck and needs a change.

What do you drink?
What snacks, if any are you eating?

TheBeaTgoeson1 · 23/04/2026 07:08

Unless your not telling the truth, you need to lose 200 caleries a day.

That will shift the scales.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 23/04/2026 07:08

I’d get bored with your diet tbh. It needs variety.