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To think I’ll be stuck at 16 stone forever

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justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 06:45

I’m in the process of losing weight and since the start of the year I’ve lost about 13lbs.

But I seem to be in a loop. I’ll hit 16 stone 0.3 on the scales and then go back up to 16 stone 4, then go back down, then back up. It’s like an annoying cycle.

I eat well:

breakfast - yoghurt with berries and sometimes a drizzle of honey. On low protein days I’ll add some skyr.

lunch - something from home. Usually soup, a salad or a bit of meat with some veg.

dinner - again something prepped. Can be another big salad, cottage pie, pasta bake.

I eat 1550 calories a day, which is a deficit for my height and weight. I go to the gym twice a week (under the direction of a PT, to lift weights), try to run 3 times a week but I’m waiting on some new running shoes, and the other two days a week I’ll walk 10k steps minimum. I try to drink 4 litres of water a day at least.

my clothes fit better but the scale just won’t change 😥 do I just accept I’m stuck here?

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justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 08:43

ApproachingMinimums · 23/04/2026 08:41

Way too many carbs. Your stores are only accessed in the absence of insulin.

The repeat carb intake (even salad) will keep releasing insulin.

So what am I meant to eat? I thought 120g of lean protein a day with 7+ portions of fruit and veg, some fats from
yoghurt and EVOO and whole carbs was a good thing?

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RoseField1 · 23/04/2026 08:43

Unpaidviewer · 23/04/2026 08:12

Don't listen to the posters who are being utter arseholes to you. It isnt as simple as calories in and calories out. Otherwise how would people lose weight on the atkins diet?

I'm currently reading the hunger code by Jason Fung and I would recommend it. It goes into detail about the hormonal effects our diets have on us. He explains why eating 1500 calories of cake or bread isn't the same as eating 1500 calories of brocoli.

I have only been able to lose weight consistently whilst intermittent fasting. I have PCOS and find it harder to loose weight the older I get.

Edited

People lose weight on Atkinson because they eat a lot of fat and protein which is very satiating and therefore they eat in a calorie deficit without effort. It also has the effect of balancing blood sugar and reducing insulin resistance. It still works by creating a calorie deficit.

somethingbeginningwithb · 23/04/2026 08:42

I see you haven't responded to any of the comments abut weight loss injections.
They helped me lose 6 stone and I'm now a healthy weight.
Like you, I was insistent I was tracking my calories correctly. Evidently I wasn't.

Monolithique · 23/04/2026 08:42

What is your height ?

ApproachingMinimums · 23/04/2026 08:41

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 06:45

I’m in the process of losing weight and since the start of the year I’ve lost about 13lbs.

But I seem to be in a loop. I’ll hit 16 stone 0.3 on the scales and then go back up to 16 stone 4, then go back down, then back up. It’s like an annoying cycle.

I eat well:

breakfast - yoghurt with berries and sometimes a drizzle of honey. On low protein days I’ll add some skyr.

lunch - something from home. Usually soup, a salad or a bit of meat with some veg.

dinner - again something prepped. Can be another big salad, cottage pie, pasta bake.

I eat 1550 calories a day, which is a deficit for my height and weight. I go to the gym twice a week (under the direction of a PT, to lift weights), try to run 3 times a week but I’m waiting on some new running shoes, and the other two days a week I’ll walk 10k steps minimum. I try to drink 4 litres of water a day at least.

my clothes fit better but the scale just won’t change 😥 do I just accept I’m stuck here?

Way too many carbs. Your stores are only accessed in the absence of insulin.

The repeat carb intake (even salad) will keep releasing insulin.

lastminutelily · 23/04/2026 08:40

So much terrible advice on this thread!! And misinformation. First of all: calories in vs calories out is absolute rubbish. If you eat 500 calories worth of biscuits in the morning, and then go to the gym and run on the treadmill til it says 500 calories - you have NOT cancelled out the biscuits. Because you use energy from glycogen stores in your liver and muscle before you start burning fat. You would need to burn about 3000calries worth of energy before you get to your fat stores and most of us who are not elite athletes don't get anywhere near that in one gym session. That's not to say you shouldn't exercise as it has loads of other brilliant benefits (including reducing insulin resistance) but it does NOT burn off fat. Advice to reduce calories further is also terrible. You'll be really hungry and it's not sustainable. Stop focusing on calories and instead have a really good look at what you are eating. Anything that has sugar in it or carbs that break down quickly into sugars (potato in cottage pie, pasta etc) are extremely insulinogenic and will make it very difficult to lose weight. You need to cut those out for now. Focus on protein and low carb fruit and veg, healthy whole fats (eg full fat Greek yoghurt etc). No UPF. Don't use diet or low fat products, they are usually full of crap. A boiled egg is 70 calories, same as a muller light yoghurt for example but much less insulinogenic and keeps you fuller for much longer. That's why focusing on calories is not helpful.

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 08:40

Soontobesingles · 23/04/2026 08:37

There is an obsession with being slim/thin etc, which honestly isn't healthy for women over a certain age. Our bodies retain fat stores to protect our bones. We tend to plateau at a higher weight as we age. Sure, cutting calories further will see you lose more weight, but at a certain point, you are risking not getting a sufficient balance of nutrients. If you have a balanced diet, are exercising and feel well, have no markers of risk, etc., I would not obsess over the scale. I would get rid of the scale. I firmly believe that NHS calculator (like all medical science) does not fully understand the extent to which women's bodies naturally and healthily retain weight as we age.

I don’t even necessarily want to be slim. I want to be healthy, and I have a secret goal to run a marathon, which would not be possible at my current weight

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RoseField1 · 23/04/2026 08:40

DramaFrontRowSeatWPopcorn · 23/04/2026 08:06

Sorry but I have to correct you.

A lb of muscle weighs the same as a lb of fat. So muscle doesn’t weigh more than fat.

What changed though is that muscle takes up less space than fat, hence why OPs clothes fit better. She’s building muscle and losing fat at the same time. Her weight remains the same.

@justmeandthedogs OP, to burn fat quicker whilst building muscle you need to re-look at what you’re eating (focus mainly on increasing protein in take, especially after weight training, and lowering saturated fat) and add in cardio exercise to burn the calories ie HIIT classes, cycle classes, more running etc…

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What makes you think she's gaining muscle? How?

RoseField1 · 23/04/2026 08:39

Dodie66 · 23/04/2026 08:03

Try eating the larger meals earlier in the day not in the evening, more time to burn off the calories

This isn't how energy expenditure works.

DannyDeever · 23/04/2026 08:38

SheSaidHummingbird · 23/04/2026 07:00

Exercise matters little for weight loss; negligible calories burned which people think gives them license to overeat to compensate, and it spikes hunger, again, contributing to overeating.

I agree. If the objective is weight loss alone then excersize is not helpful. You end up having to eat 350 extra calories to fuel a 5k run so you don't pass out. Easier not to eat the 350 calories and sit on the sofa. (And of course if you eat 350 cals in carbs to fuel a run it is very, very easy for that to become 700cals becaise after all you're going for a run.)

For me the big wins from exercise is that while I'm exercising I'm not grazing and it kills my appetite for an hour or so.

RoseField1 · 23/04/2026 08:37

TommorrowsToday · 23/04/2026 08:00

I feel for you.

Not withstanding a vitamin or mineral deficiency, or hormonal or medical issue, sometimes this is just the way it is.

I'm about 14st, I eat 1,500 calories a day, to lose weight I need to dip under 1,100 calories.

It's unfair, and also unsustainable.

But it's just the way my body is built, if I eat "normally" like any average size 12 person, and exercise "normally" like any size 12 person, my body stays a size 18.

This is why I havent done WLI, I know that I'll need to take them forever, as my body has no interest in keeping weight off.

Edited to add: I eat mainly home cooked "ingredient" food, with a focus on protein and fibre, I go spinning twice a week, I walk a few miles a day. I'm actually medically quite "fit" (good BP, good heart rate, good recovery rate, excellent glucose metabolism).

Edited

If this is the case for you then you probably have fairly low muscle mass. You can increase your muscle with a planned programme if you want to. You'll have to be ok with minor weight gain on the scales though but it will be beneficial for your health, longevity and enabling you to eat more :)

Girlwithavibe · 23/04/2026 08:37

I would say stop weighing yourself because it's fucking with your head!
Maybe 1 X a week or 1 X a fortnight carry on being consistent with what your doing and I thing you will be pleasantly surprised ❤️

Soontobesingles · 23/04/2026 08:37

There is an obsession with being slim/thin etc, which honestly isn't healthy for women over a certain age. Our bodies retain fat stores to protect our bones. We tend to plateau at a higher weight as we age. Sure, cutting calories further will see you lose more weight, but at a certain point, you are risking not getting a sufficient balance of nutrients. If you have a balanced diet, are exercising and feel well, have no markers of risk, etc., I would not obsess over the scale. I would get rid of the scale. I firmly believe that NHS calculator (like all medical science) does not fully understand the extent to which women's bodies naturally and healthily retain weight as we age.

RoseField1 · 23/04/2026 08:35

DeepRubySwan · 23/04/2026 08:00

How do you accurately track your calories though if you are eating home cooked food? Or are you eating ready made meals? I found using Lean Cuisine helped me lose weight. The other things that really helped was eating two meals a day. Try buying a bunch of frozen meals and soups and just eating that tracking your calories that way and cut to 1200 a day. You will lose weight trust me. If you.dont on that you may have a thyroid issue.

Pre packaged food is wildly inaccurate in terms of calorie content. Cooking your own food from scratch is likely to be far more accurate.

InsaneRise · 23/04/2026 08:35

Satsuma55 · 23/04/2026 08:16

Really? Because if I want to lose weight I stop eating bread, pasta and potatoes....works EVERY TIME.

Ditto. It takes about 3 days to see movement on the scales and around 5 days before I can add back in a small amount and still continue to lose weight.

CheeseAndTomatoSandwichWithMayo · 23/04/2026 08:33

If eating 1550 calories a day isn't helping you lose weight or you're losing weight very slowly, cut back to 1250 calories a day for 2 weeks and see how that goes

RoseField1 · 23/04/2026 08:32

canyon2000 · 23/04/2026 07:58

I don't really believe in calories in/calories out any more! I think it is more complicated than that. I'm 53 and trying to maintain my weight and I am finding it increasingly hard. I don't eat breakfast. Lunch is the mythical 'massive salad' with a bit of cottage cheese on then a piece of fruit. Dinner is a small portion of whatever we are having plus lots of veg, pudding is kefir yogurt with fruit in. I don't drink alcohol. I walk an average of 25,000 steps a day. I can maintain my weight on this but not lose any but when I was younger I would lose 2-3 pounds a week doing this. It seems bonkers to me!

That's because your calorie expenditure has gone down as you get older. The science hasn't changed.

Rincoe · 23/04/2026 08:32

Is this all about body re composition - would one of those fancy scales help?

PeopleWatching17 · 23/04/2026 08:32

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 07:21

I don’t get the carb hate at all 😭

I am missing quite a large chunk of bowel, due to surgery. This makes digestion of fibre extremely difficult so my diet tends to be very carb heavy. I have managed to lose over five stone in the last 10 months by calorie counting. I don’t for one minute thank you are lying about the calories you’re consuming, but it is possible that somewhere a mistake is being made. I don’t follow an app, I weigh everything myself and stick to about 1500 cal a day. I write down everything I eat and I’ve had to ban butter, cheese, and crumpets from the house because I can’t control them 😊
I hope I’m not being patronising, but are you sure you are accurately weighing everything, including any spread you put on bread, milk and drinks, mayonnaise et cetera?
Just as a guide and I hope it helps, this is what I eat on a daily basis.

Breakfast is usually two slices of granary toast (Hovis with a triangle of laughing cow low-fat spread and marmite.
Lunch is usually a sandwich (I know, bread again) with Philadelphia light and ham or smoked salmon, and a packet of mini cheddars.
Dinner tends to be chicken or 5% mince, with pasta or potatoes, carrots, broccoli, tinned tomatoes.
Treat is either two ginger biscuits or 11 Maltesers.
I don’t drink tea, not much coffee, mostly water.

Good luck

Usernamechanging · 23/04/2026 08:32

Intermittment fasting. Works a treat.

justmeandthedogs · 23/04/2026 08:31

DannyDeever · 23/04/2026 08:28

If you're not losing weight on 1500 cals then you need to cut to 1000. It sucks but the equation is calories in vs calories out, if you're in deficit you'll lose weight.

A "drizzle of honey" needs to go IMHO. Its hard to measure and if you go cold turkey on sugar you forget you ever liked it after a few weeks. I can't think of anything worse than taunting yourself with an occasional taste of sugar.

Fill up on something with few calories like bare naked rice or salad and veg.

Good luck, it's totally doable.

I. Weigh. Everything. The drizzle of honey is at most 12g

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RoseField1 · 23/04/2026 08:31

Wolffie17 · 23/04/2026 07:58

If your clothes are fitting better, is it possible you’ve swapped fat for muscle? So your weight hasn’t changed but your shape has?

No.

HoldMyWine · 23/04/2026 08:31

I would stop running as it makes you hungry and walk instead. Have you measured yourself? Your body composition will change through weight training.

PassTheCranberrySauce · 23/04/2026 08:30

I second intermittent fasting.

Basically, no breakfast, early lunch/dinner. An apple for a snack.

Katie0909 · 23/04/2026 08:30

It sounds like you are doing everything right and going about it in a sensible and sustainable way. If your clothes are looser then you will have lost fat and toned up. Fat is bulkier than muscle so you could lose the same weight in fat as you gain in muscle and look slimmer without weighing less, as seems to be happening. Don't let the disappointment derail you as you are doing brilliantly. It sounds like you've hot a plateau so it might be good to not weigh yourself for a while, as it's demotivating, and then weigh yourself after you've next seen a change in how your clothes fit. Good luck, it gets so much harder as you get older but you are really working to make the changes and it will happen.

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