AIBU for stopping a nice Muslim girl from showing my son her hair?

There are two different things at play here and lots of posters are conflating them.
The first is whether or not women and girls should feel the need to cover their hair for religious reasons. Personally I think no but they do.
The second is whether or not OPs son was ok to ask her to remove her head covering, the answer to that is also no. I live in an area with an orthodox Jewish community and it wouldn't be appropriate to ask a male to remove his kippah/yarmulke.
It's not OPs job to overrule the parents of a ten year old unless the child is in danger. You'll see other threads where MILs are castigated for giving DC sweets against the wishes of parents but suddenly it's ok for OP to stand back and knowingly allow a child to go against the religious wishes of her parents.

The only thing I would've done differently OP is to challenge your son and not the girl. DS do not ask anyone to remove a religious covering. They are worn for reasons that align with people's faith.

As if this actually happened.. Ridiculous threads on here.

I’m not religious and I wouldn’t even let my 10 year old girl go to a 10 year olds boys house without my being present and a ban on going upstairs.
I’m confused as to why they’d let her, since they’re strict enough that she’s wearing a head covering. It makes me think parents aren’t into it, or the girl has learnt about being Muslim at school and decided to give it a whirl?

No, we didn't used to judge arranged/forced marriage and FGM because that was their culture. And in the past we didn't oppose sati, because that was a cultural practice.

A 'nice' Muslim girl? Could you read that comment again, please?

Would you give a visiting vegetarian child meat?

She could have been in trouble with her parents if she’d done it, so I think you did the right thing OP. She could always ask her parents if it’s ok and show him next time they play. Whether we agree with it or not, it isn’t our place to force our views onto 10 year olds from other cultures.

From what?

Freedom of choice?

Don't worry, her parents are already doing that.

Hmm. A bit surprising that she’s covering her hair so young-but you were right to approach this with caution. I mean-you wouldn’t feed a culturally vegetarian child meat, would you?

If it's her cultural norm, then it's not for you to judge.

There's no point in half-arsing this. I hope you also informed the Muslim girl's parents that she was about to show her hair to a boy. They will want to make sure she doesn't do that again.

I think you did the right thing OP, children should be comfortable not removing any clothing if they don't want to. Obvious exceptions for medical treatment, going swimming etc.

OP I have taught a lot of Muslim students and some of them have removed head coverings in my presence for various reasons, showing off a new hair do or because they are too hot or just because.

Then there was the one time I took a group to visit uni, and said to one, "You look different, have you had your hair done?"

The answer, "No miss, I'm not wearing a head scarf".

I've seen nursery age Muslim girls in head scarfs.

This thread is seriously sinister. Ramifications? Modesty? For showing hair

Ramifications? Obviously you know there would be a ceiling on what the ramifications could be in proportion to the ‘rule’ that was broken. How bad do you think the ramifications could have been?

I am Muslim (though in my specific family I don’t cover my hair, members of my family do, I was always given the choice and those that do cover were never forced just fyi to some of the posters here with their assumptions) and I agree completely with this.

He asked and she was obliging? Op cannot police every single interaction her child has with his friends. Theyre obvious friends based on their previous interactions, the girl obviously enjoyed his company. He wasn’t presurising her, they’re young and just kids and curious

Like you I would be unsure of the rules and ramifications, but would have felt uncomfortable with the girl removing her head covering in those circumstances. As the supervising adult I think your instincts were right.

Talking about modesty when referencing children is just wrong. Modesty? A child?

I'm not Muslim, so I'm taking religion out of it. But I don't think it's right that a boy should be pressuring a girl to take off part of her clothing so he can see what's under it. Males of every age should respect a females right to wear what she wants to wear and for her to be able to keep covered whatever part of their body they want to keep covered. A male doesn't get to pressure a female to remove parts of her clothing for any reason ( in general life, not as a medical thing with a doctor) .
I think that OP has done the right thing to tell her son that it's not acceptable behaviour. And I'm not just talking about asking to see private parts, if a female of any race or religion doesn't want to show any part of her body to someone else, for whatever reason, maybe she is self conscious about an aspect of that body part, she doesn't need to show it and no male should be pressuring her. Her body, her rules. No male has the right to see any part of her body if she doesn't consent .

you’re missing the point. You’re replying to a poster who (like me) thinks the use of the word ‘protect’ is inappropriate. There was nothing putting her in danger that she needed ‘protected’ from

And no I am not going back to check if it was the OP who used the term "cultural sensitivity," but to me that is code for ''aren't you cute I am now going to patronise you and show you I know best'' maybe it shouldn't mean that and maybe people have genuine intentions but there is only so much white western people can put onto others

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Using "nice" in your title is patronising, if your issue had related to a Christian child you know you would not have prefaced it with "nice".

You have just reinforced to this child that it is is wrong for her to show her hair, which it isn't. You don't know why she is wearing it and what her parents attitude is to it.

You might have asked her what her parents expectations were and gently indicated that this should be followed but it feels very "white saviour" to bowl in with your assumptions.

Well done for enforcing religious observance - of a religion that's not yours - on a child that's not yours. Applause, is it? Loud cheering, perhaps?

How weird.