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To wonder why working class white boys do worse than any other ethnic group, and how we can change this?

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Carla786 · 22/04/2026 22:38

A lot of stuff I've read recently has argued the way school is set up disadvantages boys compared to girls. But this doesn't explain why white working class boys would perform worse than wc boys of other ethnicities.
Asian wc boys are more likely to have present fathers,,but black wc boys less likely than white boys (I think). So absent fathers I'm sure are part of the problem, but then maybe also black boys then have a protective factor that still boosts performance which white boys don't have? What could this be?

And how can white wc boys be helped? The question also remains why white wc girls are apparently less affected too : maybe I suppose tying in to school methods being more suited to the average girl?

https://www.spiked-online.com/2026/03/24/the-betrayal-of-white-working-class-boys/

The betrayal of white working-class boys

Anyone who still believes in white, male privilege should take a look at England’s school system.

https://www.spiked-online.com/2026/03/24/the-betrayal-of-white-working-class-boys/

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Simonjt · 25/04/2026 06:27

FairKoala · 25/04/2026 06:13

I don’t know how old you are and this wasn’t a thing when I was in school either. But all schools do get extra money for those pupils who have English as an Additional language (EAL)

Ds and his friend at 8years old (friend came to the UK at 3 months old) both struggled with reading and writing, his friend though was given separate lessons together with other pupils who weren’t born in the UK and after a while those who had the help moved off the lowest table and those who didn’t stayed put

OTOH I have a friend who despite her dc having spent all but the first few weeks of their lives abroad. On returning to the Uk as teens. Both children struggled with reading and writing English She asked about the EAL lessons but school told her they were only available to those born outside the UK

I’m 38, so I’m going to pretend me being eight wasn’t long ago. I know when our son was at a UK primary (he’s ten), the only additional thing there EAL students was a tablet to use google translate.

FairKoala · 25/04/2026 06:13

Simonjt · 23/04/2026 05:57

As someone who moved to the UK as an eight year old who didn’t speak any English, can you tell me about all these mysterious special lessons I supposedly had, because if I had them I was given some pretty impressive memory drugs afterwards.

I don’t know how old you are and this wasn’t a thing when I was in school either. But all schools do get extra money for those pupils who have English as an Additional language (EAL)

Ds and his friend at 8years old (friend came to the UK at 3 months old) both struggled with reading and writing, his friend though was given separate lessons together with other pupils who weren’t born in the UK and after a while those who had the help moved off the lowest table and those who didn’t stayed put

OTOH I have a friend who despite her dc having spent all but the first few weeks of their lives abroad. On returning to the Uk as teens. Both children struggled with reading and writing English She asked about the EAL lessons but school told her they were only available to those born outside the UK

Carla786 · 24/04/2026 23:22

PotolKimchi · 23/04/2026 07:33

I think that comment that studying hard would be seen as social death or engaging with education would be looked down upon is indeed very British. I have lived on three continents and that includes North America. White working class people in rural areas also struggle (and some of the same rhetoric around illegals and education being for the elite) but there is absolutely no disparaging of education per se. Partly this is a result of the total absence of a safety net. And partly because it is okay to work very hard and be aspirational even if what you are doing isn’t glamorous or high paying.

Class structures in this country has meant that upper classes have looked down upon ‘aspiration’ or those who work visibly hard while enjoying generational wealth. This plus the availability of a safety net means that attitude has percolated through society.

I think also many don’t realise how ‘behind’ they are esp if you compare them globally. People in villages in Asia and Africa are often hugely and openly aspirational. They will go to great lengths to learn English, get access to things that will better their lives, move thousands of miles to the nearest big city to improve their lot. When their descendants who are now educated want to do better, they look to go abroad. Not just the UK but Canada, Australia, the Middle East- Asian migrants can be found all over. So many Chinese people from working class families who take up jobs with MNCs in Africa so that the next generation can do even better. There isn’t the same desire to do better, to take risks.

(I am always baffled by MN threads where someone’s child has moved from England to Wales or Scotland and they are bereft…my parents made it very clear that their investment in my education was so that I could move far away and do better).

Partly this is a result of the total absence of a safety net

  • is there a total absence of a safety net in US? I know there isn't one in the same way as here,,but there is Social Security etc? I've heard Republican speeches against welfare dependency.

From what little I know of America,,I agree with what you say about aspiration for rural white wc. America does surely have a class system (insults like 'hillbilly' and 'white trash' make a mockery of claims it's a classless country) but not as entrenched a one as here. The ideal of the American Dream is a self-made person, way back to Lincoln being born in a log cabin.

I can see what you mean about finding it odd people are sad when kids move for better prospects: I suppose more recently this wasn't as necessary,,and people hark back to that. I mean, surely it's ideal not to have to leave for a better life? But obviously sometimes it must be done.

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Carla786 · 24/04/2026 23:17

FernandoSor · 23/04/2026 08:00

Deindustrialisation.

When the mine or mill or factory went so did the miners institute, the social club, the friendly society, the sports clubs, the brass and concert bands, the outings, the apprenticeships, the day release and night classes, the chapel, the buses and trains, the sense of civic pride.

Then the deep vein of traditional socialism and collectivism that bound together industrial towns was vilified and we were told it was a bold new age of individualism and society didn’t matter.

And here we are.

Interesting post. Too often the institutions that went with those workplaces have been forgotten.

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Carla786 · 24/04/2026 20:35

anourishingsoup · 24/04/2026 11:54

Don't get me wrong, there aren't a lot of Asian children in the arts, but it is now an option for some whereas previously it wasn't a consideration.
There's an interesting thread about Harrow where posters are discussing how the increasing numbers of non ethnically white British pupils are changing the landscape, which is causing such schools to "lose their quintessential Britishness".

Interesting, I must look into this.
I've had a look at the Harrow thread: it seems a bit of a strange situation. If these overseas Chinese & Indian students are so academic and not much into extracurriculars , why did their parents choose a school like Harrow which places importance on extras and ranks as less academic than some others, though still good?

Others cite similar experiences (unclear if they're talking about overseas Indian & Chinese students or British-born with that heritage). Certainly at my girls' school, which had lots of British Indian (though fewer Chinese) students, they did as many extracurriculars as everyone else and didn't seem to dominate academic prizes more than any other group..maybe it's different for some boys?

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Hallamule · 24/04/2026 18:42

HarshbutTrue2 · 24/04/2026 18:09

What a load of old twaddle. The 11+ did not depend on cultural capital. It was an iQ test, consisting of verbal reasoning etc. It wasn't looking for what candidates knew, it was looking for candidates future potential.
I know. I took it. I passed. I was clever.
In no way did my parents have the time or money to drag me round museums and recitals or pay for extra tuition.
Although I did read a lot, my actual reading skills and knowledge from books was not tested. Nor my knowledge of history and geography. I didn't even study science until I got to grammar school. Nor French.

If it was truly an IQ test then tutoring for it wouldn't help and there's plenty of evidence that it does. Super bright kids pass regardless but the more average candidate can certainly be helped across the line.

HarshbutTrue2 · 24/04/2026 18:13

And it is also twaddle to say that girls would only get married. I can think of only one of my peers who married at 16. One out of 120. The rest of us were more aspirational. We wanted jobs, we wanted money, we wanted to go out into the world and achieve things. A large proportion of us 'only' became teachers

HarshbutTrue2 · 24/04/2026 18:09

C8H10N4O2 · 23/04/2026 21:46

The tripartite system failed far more children than it benefited. Most children, especially girls, were labelled as failures at 11 and provided with a very limited education, often not even leading to public exam courses. For the “secondary” children the curriculum was also usually divided by sex with girls diverted to “homecraft” (not exactly a money spinning career option).

Its often trumpeted as a vehicle of social mobility - in reality only a small percentage of children in grammars came from the backgrounds we are talking about here.

Most WC children were effectively weeded out by an 11+ skewed toward culturally enriched children. It enabled grammars to cream off children from the more aspirational skilled trades end of the WC, not too many from the poorest areas. Even now, in areas with grammar schools its common to find the Yr 7 intake entirely from private primaries or strongly tutored and a whole bunch of soft barriers to deter poorer families. When I was a child I can remember families deciding which child if any could take a grammar place (with the pricier uniforms/attendance costs). Typically if any child was sent it would be the boys, girls would only get married after all.

The national curriculum is independent of schooling models and has nothing to do with them.

What a load of old twaddle. The 11+ did not depend on cultural capital. It was an iQ test, consisting of verbal reasoning etc. It wasn't looking for what candidates knew, it was looking for candidates future potential.
I know. I took it. I passed. I was clever.
In no way did my parents have the time or money to drag me round museums and recitals or pay for extra tuition.
Although I did read a lot, my actual reading skills and knowledge from books was not tested. Nor my knowledge of history and geography. I didn't even study science until I got to grammar school. Nor French.

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Aluna · 24/04/2026 16:43

JudgeJ · 24/04/2026 13:42

The pay thing isn't true, I taught in a Secondary Modern in the very early '70s and when the Authority was going Comprehensive I moved to the old Grammar school in preparation, it was becoming 13-18 with the Secondary Modern becoming a Middle School but my pay scale was the same in both.

The pay scale was the same but, as I said, pay was degree related and you didn’t need a degree to teach at a secondary modern. Only around 20% of sm teachers had degrees in the 60s.

At grammars teachers got perks (ie allowances) for “good” honours’ degrees and extra funds for special positions that were more common in grammars. So on the same scale, grammar teachers often ended up being paid more.

Lampzade · 24/04/2026 15:40

JHound · 24/04/2026 12:47

You are lying though. Demonstrably so. You said there are no DEI measures for white working class children.

That’s a lie. I’m have linked you to exactly those kinds of measures.

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You are correct
There are definitely DEI measures for white working class and travellers too

JudgeJ · 24/04/2026 13:42

Aluna · 23/04/2026 22:15

Exactly.

The real problem was that the secondary moderns didn’t have the same funding as the grammars and as pay was degree related, and a degree was not always required to teach at a secondary modern, the teachers were paid less too.

I don’t think it was the division per se that didn’t work, it was the way it was done. Secondary moderns were very much second fiddle.

As several people have noted including myself, the division works fine in Germany.

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The pay thing isn't true, I taught in a Secondary Modern in the very early '70s and when the Authority was going Comprehensive I moved to the old Grammar school in preparation, it was becoming 13-18 with the Secondary Modern becoming a Middle School but my pay scale was the same in both.

JHound · 24/04/2026 12:47

oldshprite · 23/04/2026 19:20

guess you’ve never read an economist article :) but ok, you got me -its all lies.

You are lying though. Demonstrably so. You said there are no DEI measures for white working class children.

That’s a lie. I’m have linked you to exactly those kinds of measures.

anourishingsoup · 24/04/2026 11:54

noworklifebalance · 24/04/2026 10:09

That’s really interesting.
I wonder whether AI will turn things on its head again (thinking of the current thread on ABIU) and parents will again encourage (perhaps not push) their children into these roles.

Don't get me wrong, there aren't a lot of Asian children in the arts, but it is now an option for some whereas previously it wasn't a consideration.
There's an interesting thread about Harrow where posters are discussing how the increasing numbers of non ethnically white British pupils are changing the landscape, which is causing such schools to "lose their quintessential Britishness".

ElmBeechOak · 24/04/2026 10:57

Aluna · 23/04/2026 22:11

Well that’s the line that’s given now. In fact girls’ grammars were fundamental in women’s education movement. Shifting girls from all over the country, including predominantly working class areas, into education and giving them aspirations beyond marriage and kids.

It’s completely untrue that working class children were “weeded out” - indeed there were areas of the country, particularly the old industrial areas, where there weren’t large numbers of middle classes so the majority of grammar cohorts were working class.

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I went to a girls’ grammar in the north of England. Working class girls definitely hadn’t been weeded out.

i’m not sure whether grammar schools were a good idea overall or not, but they probably did promote social mobility for bright working class children.

noworklifebalance · 24/04/2026 10:09

anourishingsoup · 24/04/2026 09:54

I'm seeing this. Third generation whose parents are in fairly decent financial states are pushing back against the doctor/engineer as the only career path. Their second gen parents (who felt the pressure) are allowing arts degrees. The whole STEM focus is not just about money though, it's status too. It will be much harder for a graduate of fine art to get married than a doctor. But the younger generation are increasingly doing their own thing now and the parents are increasingly accepting this and even encouraging it too.
There has also always been an 'underclass' of Asian DC who did badly at school, got into drugs, violent crime etc very similar to the WC white boys situation.

That’s really interesting.
I wonder whether AI will turn things on its head again (thinking of the current thread on ABIU) and parents will again encourage (perhaps not push) their children into these roles.

anourishingsoup · 24/04/2026 09:54

noworklifebalance · 23/04/2026 22:04

Do you think your more “balanced” approach (not saying it is a bad thing at all) will then be emulated down the generations leading to Asian children from “successful families” being less aspirational? The drive to succeed and do well will no longer be there, as there is no poverty, discrimination etc to overcome in the same way your parents had to?

I'm seeing this. Third generation whose parents are in fairly decent financial states are pushing back against the doctor/engineer as the only career path. Their second gen parents (who felt the pressure) are allowing arts degrees. The whole STEM focus is not just about money though, it's status too. It will be much harder for a graduate of fine art to get married than a doctor. But the younger generation are increasingly doing their own thing now and the parents are increasingly accepting this and even encouraging it too.
There has also always been an 'underclass' of Asian DC who did badly at school, got into drugs, violent crime etc very similar to the WC white boys situation.

Sunshineandoranges · 24/04/2026 09:52

DelectableMe · 23/04/2026 18:42

What do you mean? Do you mean in schools? As pp have said, there are plenty of programmes and financial support for this cohort. Teachers are specifically asked to focus on them (as well as other identified groups) when we both predict and breakdown our results.
We have to explain outcomes.

I have never seen a programme such as you describe. I was working in a further education college where there were several low level courses e.g. pre entry and entry level nvqs. Those in construction, car mechanics etc were mostly full of white working class boys who had done badly at school. In the library and corridors there were posters showing many successful men and women e.g. architects, successful entrepreneurs, sports champions. Not one showed a white man if any age.When i queried this with the person responsible for selecting and buying the posters, i was told they werent needed. So dont bother aspiring via the education system if you are young, white, male and working class could be the message from these posters.

TakeOffSound · 24/04/2026 08:10

noworklifebalance · 23/04/2026 22:04

Do you think your more “balanced” approach (not saying it is a bad thing at all) will then be emulated down the generations leading to Asian children from “successful families” being less aspirational? The drive to succeed and do well will no longer be there, as there is no poverty, discrimination etc to overcome in the same way your parents had to?

Yes I do think so. Already I can see that the next generations of Asian kids are different. Thankfully though, they know there are other careers than being a doctor or lawyer. They will work hard if that way inclined but will have different aspirations I think. And more willing to take career ‘risks’, so not automatically enter the professions, and be more open to the creative industries. I think that’s a good thing overall.

Obviously it won’t be good if they aspire never to work and stay at home, take drugs etc. I don’t think the majority will follow that route though.

AnythingButThis · 24/04/2026 08:01

Laurmolonlabe · 24/04/2026 07:51

Not anecdotal- I went to a Girl's Grammar in the South West we had more girl's from the council estates than from the villages (which tended to be more affluent in most cases). 80% of us went to university- it was just assumed you would go.You can't base a case on one individual.

Yep thats why I was being anecdotal not making a case

Laurmolonlabe · 24/04/2026 07:51

AnythingButThis · 24/04/2026 07:04

Anecdotal not statistical but my mum from a WC family in Leeds went to grammar, first in the family to Uni, Fulbright scholarship to the states and doctorate. She remembers her mum worrying about the cost of uniforms.

Not anecdotal- I went to a Girl's Grammar in the South West we had more girl's from the council estates than from the villages (which tended to be more affluent in most cases). 80% of us went to university- it was just assumed you would go.You can't base a case on one individual.

CinnamonJellyBeans · 24/04/2026 07:33

C8H10N4O2 · 23/04/2026 21:51

It hasn’t become more female oriented.

There was a period of time where exams included assessed work. This turned out to produce more good grades for girls - unsurprising, girls being socialised in ways which mean they complete more homework, turn work in on time. Boys do better when they just do exams which don’t account for missed work during the previous two years.

We are now back to near 100% exam based assessment. Funny that.

When I was at school, we did the 11+ . The marks were put up on the wall. There was one girl (who later went to Oxford) who consistently beat me in every test. She was formidable and such a polymath, I didn't mind losing to her. She was my first pacemaker and a remarkable example of how cultural capital can extend the brain in every area.

I was third on the list. Impossible. No one else could touch us two. Despite being a polite child, I was bold and asked my teacher how I had been beaten by boy X. The boys' grades were all automatically boosted by 5%. This hasn't happened for decades.

School is one of the few places were there is a (relatively) level playing field. It's one of the few places where men don't get the upper hand through the misogyny that pervades every other aspect of my life and yours.Women are strong, resourceful and multitask. We don't spend 10 minutes bleating about how we don't want to do a 2 minute task. FFS just let my daughters do better than the boys because they worked harder, chose to invest in themselves and did not fear being dragged out of their comfort zone to learn something challenging.

AnythingButThis · 24/04/2026 07:04

Aluna · 23/04/2026 22:11

Well that’s the line that’s given now. In fact girls’ grammars were fundamental in women’s education movement. Shifting girls from all over the country, including predominantly working class areas, into education and giving them aspirations beyond marriage and kids.

It’s completely untrue that working class children were “weeded out” - indeed there were areas of the country, particularly the old industrial areas, where there weren’t large numbers of middle classes so the majority of grammar cohorts were working class.

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Anecdotal not statistical but my mum from a WC family in Leeds went to grammar, first in the family to Uni, Fulbright scholarship to the states and doctorate. She remembers her mum worrying about the cost of uniforms.

Onmytod24 · 24/04/2026 00:28

The comment about boys taking GCSE exams later might seem sensible but it doesn’t fit in with the reality. Some schools get really high results actually start the GCSEs in year nine rather than year 10 so they can take them earlier and that suits boys better

EwwPeople · 23/04/2026 23:28

Carla786 · 23/04/2026 23:13

That's interesting it's global, I want to look into that more

I looked into this for a different thread, and around the world, in different cultures, systems (including the much praised Scandinavian ones) , continents girls (when given the opportunity to do so) tend to outperform boys .

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