Would you go to the funeral?

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MendingWall · 22/04/2026 19:30

DH has received an invitation (I didn’t even know this was thing) from his sister to the funeral of his BIL’s DM.

We have met her no more than 4 times (over the last 20 years) and the funeral is a 3 hour drive away.

I think going is bonkers (waste of annual leave and petrol), but he feels like he should attend. My view may be coloured by the fact I don’t really like either of them (sister or BIL), but consequently we are not close. So AIBU to say don’t go?

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wiwaprwfimh70 · 22/04/2026 19:36

If he received an invitation then it's up to him. Nowt to do with you!

Hedgehog23 · 22/04/2026 19:35

My SIL and BIL came to my dad’s funeral and I very much appreciated their support.

Youthinkyouareaniconoclast · 22/04/2026 19:35

Just double checked your OP it it does look as if that is what you are asking?

What are you asking?

QPZM · 22/04/2026 19:34

YABU to involve yourself.

He's a grown man with agency.

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MendingWall · 22/04/2026 19:34

Justmuddlingalong · 22/04/2026 19:32

Surely if he's had the invitation, it's up to him to decide.

Well yes it will be, but that’s not what I was querying.

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Cherry8809 · 22/04/2026 19:33

Well, don’t you sound like a ray of sunshine.

You might call it “bonkers” and “a waste”, but to others it’s called “paying their respects”.

You should just stay home.

Justmuddlingalong · 22/04/2026 19:32

Surely if he's had the invitation, it's up to him to decide.

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