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Aibu that having thick hair is not something for someone to be envious of!?

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thickhairproblems · 22/04/2026 18:58

As the title says!
I have very thick hair, always have, it’s straight but has lots of kinks in so needs to be blow dried and straightened after each wash. I absolutely cannot leave to air dry as it’s a frizzy poofy mess. Even just blasting it with hair dyer it’s frizzy, lots of kinks and a few waves. Needs to be brushed as I dry it to somehow calm it down and it takes absolutely ages to do! It’s about bra strap length, I’ve tried it shorter but doesn’t sit right, needs some weight to hold it down so doesn’t poof out, layers don’t sit right. First bit of wind outside and it turns to a mess, gets very knotty.

Today Someone asked if my hair was all mine and that they would love to have hair like mine. This isn’t the first conversation I’ve had with people about wanting thick hair. Every hairdresser I go to mentions it.

Aibu that having thick hair isn’t something to be envious of
or
yanbu thick hair is a pita!

Also if anyone has any styling tips that would be great

OP posts:
TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 22/04/2026 19:03

YABU and YANBU.

My hair is so thick I've got "paper cut" style injuries from just brushing my hands through it.

But I'm well aware that fine hair is it's own problem.

There's probably about size women in the world with hair the perfect thickness.

Everyone else is allowed to moan a bit.

(I can't wait for my hair to thin a bit!)

weareallcats · 22/04/2026 19:03

YABU! I have many of the same issues you describe but with fine hair! I’d love a properly luxurious mane.

Tigerbalmshark · 22/04/2026 19:02

Yes thick hair is very difficult to manage!

Is it actually curly? Mine behaves a lot better when I embrace the curliness (and moisturise it) instead of blow drying straight. Or scrape it all back into a bun, which is my other approach.

RampantIvy · 22/04/2026 18:59

As a post menopausal woman with hair that has thinned too much YABVVVVVU.

Be careful what you wish for.

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