Page 18 | HolyCheeses and Mary… the spreadsheet, the bullshit bingo and the aftermath. Part deux

HolyCheeses · 2026-04-22T16:36:38+00:00

Was asked to start a thread. started a thread.

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HolyCheeses · 17/09/2026 23:01

SpryCat · 17/09/2026 13:18

How is your house getting on @HolyCheeses ?

Very slow but I’m expecting a lump sum in the spring so can coordinate trades etc to really start the ball rolling 2027 is going to be such a good year.
im appalled at some of the stories I am reading here !

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SpryCat · 18/09/2026 03:27

HolyCheeses · 17/09/2026 23:01

Very slow but I’m expecting a lump sum in the spring so can coordinate trades etc to really start the ball rolling 2027 is going to be such a good year.
im appalled at some of the stories I am reading here !

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I am so pleased for you! Concentrating on what you need and want to do for your future must feel great. Yes some of the stories on here are harrowing.

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HolyCheeses · 18/09/2026 20:56

SpryCat · 18/09/2026 03:27

I am so pleased for you! Concentrating on what you need and want to do for your future must feel great. Yes some of the stories on here are harrowing.

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Thank you !

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VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 18/09/2026 23:43

HolyCheeses · 18/09/2026 20:56

Thank you !

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You know what.

So many people post on here, get told their partner are scum, and refuse to believe it.

You posted, listened to the advice, ditched the bellend. And then didn't majorly doubt yourself.

I'm proud of you,in a weird faceless internet kind of way.

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HolyCheeses · 19/09/2026 09:55

Hmm I’m not sure about that- i
remwner many a thread where the poster LTB- I’m on the sidelines with my pomppms cheering away.

I clearly had major doubts other wise I wouldn’t have posted. I just got the extra shove I needed and had trust in those different perspectives

i had reached out to very close friends and family but because he was so charming, knew just how to present himself so well, their opinions were coloured by that- my ex husband set the bar so incredibly low that they were all delighted this seemingly great guy had come into my life.

I have not regretted the decision once- I have also read the original thread over and over as some of the advice on there is top notch and served as a reminder.

I was and am incredibly grateful for that! 🩷

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Ponoka7 · 19/09/2026 10:56

You aside, I really feel for his parents, he's made the last part of their life unstable. I'd bet they didn't fully know what was happening and just trusted him. He's atrocious for potentially making two elderly people homeless and then he'll piss off and hope to find another victim.

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HolyCheeses · 19/09/2026 18:51

Ponoka7 · 19/09/2026 10:56

You aside, I really feel for his parents, he's made the last part of their life unstable. I'd bet they didn't fully know what was happening and just trusted him. He's atrocious for potentially making two elderly people homeless and then he'll piss off and hope to find another victim.

I doubt that- he cares greatly what his extended family think of him. It is interesting he was adamant they’d never go to a home but I can see that happening now he won’t have a carer on tap !

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Bombayss · 19/09/2026 18:59

Like a lot of men when it comes to caring duties, very generous with the nearest woman's time.

Boy, have my friends handed their husbands their arse to them, calmly and firmly, on that score when it arose.

No more golf/sailing all day Saturday!!
Menopause has been great on that score for zero tolerance of being taken advantage of.

cantthinkofagoodusername1 · 20/09/2026 07:25

Bombayss · 19/09/2026 18:59

Like a lot of men when it comes to caring duties, very generous with the nearest woman's time.

Boy, have my friends handed their husbands their arse to them, calmly and firmly, on that score when it arose.

No more golf/sailing all day Saturday!!
Menopause has been great on that score for zero tolerance of being taken advantage of.

I watched my father frequently invite his mother to stay, then he’d disappear to play golf for hours on end, leaving my mother to entertain his mother. The two women didn’t get on that well, so it was unpleasant for everyone.
I don’t know why my mother didn’t disappear to do her own thing, but from a young age, I was adamant that I would never be in that situation myself. A typical man being generous with the nearest woman’s time, as you say.