To want SD’s room to be multifunctional?

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SamphireSupper · 22/04/2026 12:08

DP and I have decided to downsize as unfortunately he has medical issues which mean he can’t work full-time anymore. We have DS4 together, and SD13 who visits, at most, every other weekend. I work from home and am the breadwinner (relevant) and I currently work from the dining room.

The new house we have found is much smaller, still has three bedrooms, but no dining room. DS would have the box room. I’ve said I will need to have my desk in SD’s room. DP and SD don’t want this. AIBU?

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Catza · 22/04/2026 12:13

They don't want this but are they offering a solution? Or do they just expect you to figure out what to do as long as she keep her room?
I would say, she goes into a box room and you share with your son. Presumably, he is in nursery or school during the day, plus, he gets to enjoy a bigger room. Play silly games, win silly prizes.

AnneLovesGilbert · 22/04/2026 12:12

Well it’s obviously not up to SD and as you’re supporting everyone and you’re not married I don’t think it’s up to DP either.

Stompythedinosaur · 22/04/2026 12:12

I don't think that's fair on your sd, they wouldn't have their own space but would be staying in your office.

I'd put a desk in your bedroom.

SewingButterfly · 22/04/2026 12:10

Why not give the big room to ds (he lives there full time so makes sense for him to have larger room), and set up a corner of it as your office. That way SD can have a room thats solely her space

BridgetJonesV2 · 22/04/2026 12:10

If she's only there every other weekend, she doesn't have a lot of choice. But I would assure her that you won't be using it/going in there when she's with you.

Mumoftwoboysaged4and5 · 22/04/2026 12:10

Could your son have the bigger room and you put your desk in there. That was SD has the box room but no desk?

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