To want SD’s room to be multifunctional?

Because its supposed to be the SD's room. It's private. Not shared with the woman her dad is now married to. The SD didn't ask her dad to marry this woman and move into a house in which she's a 2nd class citizen.

It's madness - but very telling, that people can't see it from the SD perspective. Blended families are usually anything but. They're like this shit show - arranging the kids to fit the adult's lives.

So after school or after bedtime when mum needs to catch up on an email or do a quick teams call her son can’t use his bedroom or is woken up? That’s ridiculous when another room is empty in the working week.
she should use the step daughter room and just not consult her about it or talk about it or let her work and work stuff impact that room at all on the weekends.

Even if it was every weekend, SD would use the room 8 nights a month (presuming she arrives on Friday after school and goes back to mum’s on Sunday)
OP will be using the desk in that room Mon -Fri 20 days a month. The 2 don't overlap

How is being given the second largest bedroom “getting a rough deal”?
SD is there 4 nights a month, the OP will be the using the desk in the room when she’s not there.
the 2 don't over lap…

and why should the OP spend the majority of her day, 5 days a week in her bedroom of the house she is paying for?!

honestly, it’s madness!

I read she comes on weekends. Is it EOW?

I did think this, but:

1. SD has a double bed and will want to keep it
2. She keeps barely any stuff here so there’d be more space for my desk
3. DS will be around from 3.30 on weekdays, and in holidays, when I’d need to be working, plus if he was ever off sick
4. It’s easier to keep a room clean and tidy if it’s not being played in daily

That screen shot you have posted says he works minimal hours so he looks after DS, not so he can look after DS

If you had an empty quiet other room wouldn’t you prefer to work from there? So many studies to show how working in one’s bedroom disturbs sleep

@Unexpectedlysinglemum ?? I don’t sleep while I work.
My bed is seperate from my desk.
My bedroom is ‘empty and quiet’, how would you think my bedroom is noisy (pet pig with a snoring problem set up camp in my bed?), and what does ‘empty’ mean - how would my bed make it any more/less empty than a bedroom with a stepchild’s bed???

I sleep fine, as do all my kids who wfh. No one is laying awake all night because we wfh in our rooms.

One day, they will all be gone, and there is no way I’ll be setting up in any of those rooms, I have much better plans for them than that!!

No, she says both. Which is why I've said that she needs to make sure she is clear on the reasons for the reduced hours.

Why would you want to spend the majority of your waking AND sleeping/reading/scrolling hours in the same room? I'd go nuts

I read she comes on weekends. Is it EOW?

If you had an empty quiet other room wouldn’t you prefer to work from there? So many studies to show how working in one’s bedroom disturbs sleep

How is being given the second largest bedroom “getting a rough deal”?
SD is there 4 nights a month, the OP will be the using the desk in the room when she’s not there.
the 2 don't over lap…

and why should the OP spend the majority of her day, 5 days a week in her bedroom of the house she is paying for?!

honestly, it’s madness!

No, she says both. Which is why I've said that she needs to make sure she is clear on the reasons for the reduced hours.

Step kids always get a rough deal don't they. Kids always come last. No wonder there are so many messed up kids - then adults. Her mum and dad brought her into the world. She didn't ask to be here. Then they split up. She didn't ask for that either. So she has to spend her time across 2 homes. Then her dad starts living with another woman and has another child. Then her dad and step mum and half brother, move to another house, where she doesn't have her own room. She has to share it with the step mum. Poor girl.

You should have a desk in your bedroom.

No she said he works fewer hours because of his health. Then because he works fewer hours than FT, he does childcare. He doesnt work minimal hours for childcare reasons, he works few hours due to his health.

Most people suggested working in their own kid's room.

Or her wife or her parents or whoever is funding them all. Not ‘defer’ to them but respect that the person doing the paid work needs to use quiet space available to get that paid work done in peace, and not allowing them this space is detrimental to the whole family’s income.

I don’t understand the issue with working from your bedroom?

We still have all adult kids at home (some will be moving out as renovating a joint but to move into, but others will stay). Due to the number of us, working in common areas is not feasible for those that work from home, so we ALL work in our bedrooms. I do so as well, even though DH and I ‘pay’ for the house, although that is such an arsehole argument. No idea why this is a problem and can’t be done.

ETA - I do have one that does not do any wfh, so theoretically their bedroom is useable while they are out at work each day, but it would be a cold day in hell before I set up camp in there to work. And no, they don’t pay rent/board, but even so I would find it really inappropriate, especially in the basis of ‘I work to pay for this house’.

Step kids always get a rough deal don't they. Kids always come last. No wonder there are so many messed up kids - then adults. Her mum and dad brought her into the world. She didn't ask to be here. Then they split up. She didn't ask for that either. So she has to spend her time across 2 homes. Then her dad starts living with another woman and has another child. Then her dad and step mum and half brother, move to another house, where she doesn't have her own room. She has to share it with the step mum. Poor girl.

You should have a desk in your bedroom.

Can't you just find a house with a bedroom big enough for a desk in your own room?

Why would you use the childrens rooms and not your own, just curious?