To just hate having a woman's body

That’s understandable. Some women with very large breasts do say they get back/shoulder pain.

Hahahahaha

i am a 34L, I don’t move without a bra on. It’s painful not to wear one

My father had the kind of body hair that suggested he would have been well placed for the next Ice Age and he was very dark haired. I took after him in the hairiness - a home IPL unit was life changing. I no longer have hair on my legs or my arm pits. The amount of time saved has been amazing. The upside for the hairiness is that even when older I still have a good head of hair and decent eyebrows.
@vanillachoc I had the same thing and it was utterly miserable and painful. I found out my flare ups were made worse by the tetracycline I took for acne and acidic foods. (I ended up taking roacutane to finally get the acid under control.) I have to be very careful about not having too much food that is acidic but I largely consider myself "cured". I do have some antacid tablets made especially for people who suffer from this and I take a couple if I feel a twinge coming on and it heads it off - they aren't prescription. I can't stand those fizzy baking soda tasting drinks. For some reason, at my worst, champagne would absolutely set things off - now I just pop a few antacids.

Add big boobs and a tendency to pile on weight to the mix. Actually I’d say the two things are very much related - I’ve not been able to run since age 12 because of the boobs. No way I could get away without a bra. So I am doomed to have a bigger body. The BMI charts which were designed to measure Dutch men in the 19th century take no account whatsoever of women’s different build. We have less muscle and more fat because that’s our body type.

I wish periods and shaving were my biggest inconvenience. I live with Chronic UTI and when in a flare the pain leaves me unable to even walk, I have to lay completely still for a long time for the pain to subside. And it’s unpredictable. I could have something planned for ages and be hit with a flare minutes before I have to leave, or even while I’m out. It is so utterly depressing and debilitating and medical professionals have no interest because it’s just “an unfortunate effect of a woman’s anatomy”. I know periods can be life wrecking for some women but this post sounds like it’s just a minor inconvenience. Pop a painkiller, use a pad or tampon and forget about it. Nothing helps my pain.

Yeah but having to live with sweaty balls and penis between your legs and constantly having to 'adjust'..... I guess it's just one thing but it's the male equivalent of boobs in a way.

Periods are ridiculous though. Evolution should have done a better job there.

Agree it’s a hard job. I had all the hair lasered off twenty years ago. Very liberating. The periods are a pain in the arse. Last month I only had about two days I felt normal.

Not to be disrespectful as I know you have said you don’t have a problem, but that sounds like fibroids.

Well, it IS your body, OP, and you're never going to have another one. You can spend ££££s on cosmetic surgery and hair removal but it will still be your own body and you're a woman, so ... I would, as tedious young folk say these days, 'lean into it'. Also, some of those young people think that leg and armpit hair is incredibly chic these days, so there's always that to consider.

Shave or don't shave, nobody is forcing you to do this. The periods are a PITA but you know - don't you?? - that you could go onto a continuous contraceptive pill regime and just not bleed. Talk to your GP about a Mirena, for instance.

SOD making your pubes 'pretty'! You're right, men tend not to obsess about the shaping of their pubic hair and nor do I. If I care enough about it, I wear a boy-leg costume which completely sidesteps any 'need' to prune and sculpt my lady garden. Pubes are there for a reason, ever stop to think about that? Why do we feel this need to strip them off? It hurts, you get ingrown hairs and spots, you have to keep on doing it. Fuck that shit.

No. We need to pressure women to stop caring so much about their entirely natural body hair and obsessing about trivialities to do with appearance.

Well periods can be a fucker alright but the shaving stuff is optional. I don't bother with most if it

YANBU
Periods and menopause are unavoidable .
Men have no idea about the physical toll of preganacy, childbirth and breastfeeding, pet peeve is when a couple anounce "we'te pregnant" No youre *** not just one of you is! It completely iignores and undermines the physical toll of pregnancy and childbirth on a womens body .

Hair removal you can opt out off but it is hard to ignore social conditioning and norms.
I have fair skin and dark hair so hair on legs, arms, under arms and bikini line and upper lip are very noticeable.
I envy my fair haired friens who have much less noticeable fair and fine body hair.
I also used to suffer from heavy painful periods and putting on a swimming costume would be the last thing id want to do , defintely puts a dampner on special occasions

I won't wear tampons (they've always freaked me out. I don't like stuff stuck inside me) and I haven't tried period swimwear yet.
I actually cancelled my spa trip with a friend last year because of this.
So you're doing better than me!
I get you have a choice regarding hair removal but I'd probably be the only hairy woman at the place. I'd rather not attract unwanted stares and feel at ease. And a spa day is a lot of money so I'd like to feel good and enjoy my day.
I completely agree with everything you said. I'd add grey/white hair and the joys of getting older for women. Men do have it easier.

Seriously, as in getting a reduction? I’d never lob mine off, there isn’t too much to lob off in the first place 😂

If I was shaving as often as that I’d buy an IPL machine. Approx £500 in Boots. Well worth it.

True, but we won’t evolve quickly enough for them to disappear. We did need them up until about 60 years ago? Not sure when formula milk came out.

This.

You don’t need to wear bras if you dress carefully.

I don’t understand how you can think societal pressures didn’t come first. Women have been objectified and literally were the possessions of men, for hundreds of years. The ‘societal pressures’ are the wishes of men, that have been handed down throughout the generations. You have been saturated in images of smooth hairless women since you were born! Of course you should do what you want to do, everyone should, but I think it is naive to think your wishes exist in some kind of vacuum separate from your culture and your sex class.

It’s hardly your DH’s fault though is it. There’s also things you can do about it if you so wish like treatments etc. I’d also question the “men don’t have to do any of this thing” given the disgust I’ve seen on here about hair on backs or shoulders.

Indeed. I tried breastfeeding DS and failed, now he's weaned I was thinking I could just get them lopped off, as I'm not going to ever need them again as I'm not having another child.

Men have to shave their faces. Well they don't have to, but many choose to. You don't have to shave anywhere at all, but you may choose to.

Good! I gave up shaving in 2020 (after doing my armpits and getting a rash.) I decided never again. Haven't shaved my legs since 2014. My lady garden gets a trim when I remember, but I remember shaving it a few times and it just looked awful and felt worse, so I've let it alone since then. I don't pluck my eyebrows either, always thought they looked fine as they are (despite being a teenager in the 2000s when eyebrows were plucked into oblivion.)

Would you get lasers? I did and its wonderful. Just cuts out the whole rigmarole.

what is even the point of boobs, alot of women.never use them for the purpose they were intended for either.