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To just hate having a woman's body

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Redgreenbluetwo · 21/04/2026 16:01

Maybe it's cos everything has happened at once today, but I just hate having a woman's body, and DH doesn't know how lucky he is.

Meant to be going on a spa day tomorrow with my friend. Obviously I got my period today. It fucking hurts, is a mess, and makes tomorrow more difficult. On top of that I have to go through the rigmarole of hair removal. I hate having dark hair and having to shave my armpits most days. Just such a pain in the arse. Now I have to do my bikini line later as well, and woe betide me if my legs are ever prickly. And my bra has been giving me gyp at work all day too.

Just bugger off with it all.

DH has to worry about none of those things. Sometimes I just hate it. I can't really remember what it was like to be a kid and not have the hassle of these things either but they really are just so bloody annoying!! And we have childbirth. And I have the menopause to look forward to. Men can be as hairy as they like, have no periods, no bras, no anything. Aaarggh!

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PullingOutHair123 · 21/04/2026 16:25

I agree OP.

If you have dark hair and fair skin, hair removal is a pain in the arse. I have some fair friends who don't bother - one asked why I did - I showed her my (unshaved) legs and she just went "oh".

I have been seriously looking at the swim suits that have shorts, so can forget thinking about the bikini line. One thing less to worry about.

And periods always arrive at the worst moment in time. I didn't have one for 2 years - and yet it arrived at THE worse time. Luckily have a teen daughter to used to carrying spares for her, otherwise would have been in real trouble!!

Batties · 21/04/2026 16:12

Apart from your period, you don’t have to worry about those things either. You are making a choice.

nomas · 21/04/2026 16:12

I don't mean to minimise, but do you need to do your pits?

You can get half sleeved rash suit type swimsuit and shorts. That way you eliminate pits and bikini line.

if you also get go one step further and get swim leggings, you eliminate shaving your legs.

Period pain is horrible.

Arlanymor · 21/04/2026 16:11

It's not his fault though.

ArtyFartyCrafts · 21/04/2026 16:06

Well, you don’t HAVE to do any of those things. You’re choosing to. None of them are actually essential or necessary. They’re what society has conditioned us all to believe is required. You can choose to conform to it, or choose not to.

Although, I will agree with you on the annoying periods!