What’s the worst thing you’ve ever done?

The biggest issue with the nepotism is the actual withholding of training for others. Poor form!

There's a mother who helped her daughter get a job (okay that's normal). Helped her training in the job, but actively withheld training that could have helped others. And didn't even find anyone else to do this training?

Like in an organisation you seek to make the organisation better and help others achieve their best to the whole firm does better. But she didn't. She did favouritism.

Tredadt · Today 06:05
Yeseyeam · Yesterday 21:47
I agree and have said so. I have a local government background with much recruitment experience.
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I'm sorry to disappoint you but this is absolutely true.

I've thought for a long time that relatives should be debarred from working in the same organisation. If anyone closely related to you has any control over recruitment, you just can't apply. Simple.

Yes, it might be a bit unfair to some, but the alternative - rampant and shameless nepotism and the denial of opportunities to other more deserving people - is much worse.

Also - I hate the excuse 'It's not illegal!'

Lots of things are not illegal, but they're immoral and against the spirit of fairness.

Then it is utterly shameful, @Tredadt.

I'm sorry to disappoint you but this is absolutely true.

I agree and have said so. I have a local government background with much recruitment experience.

I just want to say I am sorry you experienced this.
Almost word for word, this happened to me too, except mine also took my virginity.

This is a brilliant post.

It's like the elderly man near the beginning of Citizen Kane who explains to Joseph Cotten how he saw a young woman walking up the gangplank to a ship 50 years ago and has thought about her every day since...

There's just no telling what will stick in the mind, or how the mind can react to something, at times it's like it has no sense of priorities, or else it gets 'stuck'.

This why many places do not allow families to work together.

Every single one of us is capable of doing bad things, it's part of being human.

I have a very nasty streak and also an extremely compassionate and kind one.

I am not a good or bad person. It’s far more complicated than that.

Interesting. Looking at it, I would probably do the same (dreadful) things from my list again if the circumstances were the same. I was always nice in the right circumstances, and have not changed in that respect.

How is it weird? If they have a nasty streak it won't be long before it's shown again. They are probably content in their lives right now , if they become unhappy again the mask could slip.

What a weird question.

Wow so you would get a free outfit and get the cash back that you never paid for it? And they didn't request a receipt?! I've heard of people returning items after they've worn them but never making a profit like that 😮

Not just aimed at you as a lot of posters are saying the same thing- but are you really a good person now or just masking?

Some of these seen really tame.
Some quite bad yes.
Im 47 now, when I was 16 id steal a £40 dress from New Look. Wear it out, unpick a seam and take it back as faulty. They'd give me the cash. But I don't feel guilty about that.
Ive done a lot worse.
Stole, cheated. Told lies. Won't blame my upbringing. But I was a cunt. Things change. Criminal record.
However I am a married mother of 5 great children now. Im a faithful wife. I know im a good person, and i will help anyone that needs it.
People need to forgive themselves for the past. Especially if you know you have changed. Or made mistakes, that is human.

A few things

1. Stayed with my abuser for far too long. He was physically, mentally and emotionally abusive and broke me in ways I wont ever recover from. I truly felt it was my life's purpose to support him and help him and that he was a victim. I should have predicted that today, the exact same scenerio as yday warranted a different outcome. He once beat me for not being telepathic. Spittle flying in rage, screaming I just couldnt be bothered to read his mind. Anyway, stayed too long, didnt press charges, horrific post seperation abuse and it impacted my DS who was 9 by then

2. Reported a family member for SA me. Exaggerated it as I thought I wouldnt get support otherwise. Immediately confessed and said the whole thing was a lie as was so ashamed of the bit I exaggerated. Was convinced I couldnt explain as no one would believe me now. The worse thing? I was in Year 8 when I made the report and now as an adult I realise that it didnt need exaggerating, the extent of the abuse was already horrific and I would have got the help I needed anyway.

3. On holiday on a farm abroad. Ran inside and slammed the door. A baby chick had run in behind me. I caught its leg, it came off and it bled to death. I think about this a lot

4. Stole hundreds from abuser mentioned in 2). He kept a lot of money cash where I could access it

5. Staying at Nans house, no loo roll. Did a wee and needed to wipe. Used the towel (immediately popped it in the washing machine with some dettol after)

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Can someone get in touch about the bug I accidentally gor crushed by a car. I want to berate myself and get therapy.

I am a bad person posted on the internet. I am not expecting anyone to exploit this or blackmail me. Sheesh. I trust the internet. Someone is harvesting this information.

You were not to blame for anything.

Punched a girl outside school and allowed my friend group to bully her horrendously :-( I have no defence, I was egged on and she knew something about me and threatened to tell my parents (I was being groomed and abused but at that age thought it was an exciting relationship with an adult) I had to shut her up. I hated doing it, and years later I reached out to apologise. I understand she might never forgive me and that’s ok, but she did say I wasn’t the worst of the girls and I’m the only one who actually tried to make amends. It makes me sick to my stomach that I acted that way. Fear is a very powerful thing 🥺

You have nothing to feel guilty about.

I also hit my husband, now my ex.

He'd been physically abusive three times by this stage, and continually verbally abusive.

We had a minor disagreement about,wait for it...storage. He massively overreacted, started yelling and kept screaming the word c* in my face.

I stood up and slapped him hard about the face. Five times.

When I was 12 an older boy offered me £10 to "do him a favour". I accepted without asking what the favour was.

He told me to take my knickers off and show him my fanny. I knew I shouldn't, but I was so excited about getting the money that I did anyway.

I've felt guilty about it ever since, particularly when I think that a lot worse could have happened.