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What’s the worst thing you’ve ever done?

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shehardlysleeps · 20/04/2026 17:18

I’m in a reflective mood, and it’s got me thinking about something I did a few years ago which is probably the thing I’m most deeply ashamed of.

There was a coworker who really rubbed me up the wrong way. I was very unhappy at the time, and going through an awful time personally. She would make snide comments about me, do things with my family members (who were colleagues too) which really got my back up, I felt like she judged me harshly and was pretty rude. Along with another colleague they made three or four very nasty comments which still stick with me.

Instead of raising a grievance, which I should have done, I took to posting about her on another website (along the lines of Mumsnet), not realising she used it too. She saw the posts and reported me, and I ended up facing a meeting with HR and a senior partner of the firm I was working in. It damaged my reputation within the firm forever and I ended up leaving after not being offered a promotion. I still feel ashamed of it now, nearly half a decade on, and feel like it’s tarred me forever.

Whats the worst thing you’ve ever done?

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KeeleyJ · 20/04/2026 17:29

This wasn't me but i didn't discourage it either...

Computers were a new thing when I was at school - total of about 5 computers for the whole year.

Everyone was allocated a computer terminal, I was e.g computer number 3 and roughly 8 people were to share the same one that year. No logins or passwords, just a folder each for us to save Higher English essays on.

Coincidentally I used the same one as the nastiest bully in the whole school. (Verbal and physical violence, even put her own Mother in hospital).

'Someone' accidentally deleted all of her essays just at the point she was due to submit her stuff to the exam board.

liv198288 · 20/04/2026 17:28

iamfedupwiththis · 20/04/2026 17:28

Not sure if having a poo outside as I was desperate is better or worse than an affair.

Obviously a lot worse 😂

shehardlysleeps · 20/04/2026 17:28

Nollie · 20/04/2026 17:26

Funnily enough, I've been thinking lately about some of the things I did when I was younger and they don't reflect very well on me at all. Ultimately I only have myself to blame but I do wish I had been given more attention and moral guidance when I was growing up.

This is how I feel. I was almost raised to think that things like this were free of consequences

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iamfedupwiththis · 20/04/2026 17:28

Not sure if having a poo outside as I was desperate is better or worse than an affair.

Nollie · 20/04/2026 17:26

Funnily enough, I've been thinking lately about some of the things I did when I was younger and they don't reflect very well on me at all. Ultimately I only have myself to blame but I do wish I had been given more attention and moral guidance when I was growing up.

purpleheartsandroses · 20/04/2026 17:23

If I told you, I'd have to kill you 😜

liv198288 · 20/04/2026 17:23

shehardlysleeps · 20/04/2026 17:18

I’m in a reflective mood, and it’s got me thinking about something I did a few years ago which is probably the thing I’m most deeply ashamed of.

There was a coworker who really rubbed me up the wrong way. I was very unhappy at the time, and going through an awful time personally. She would make snide comments about me, do things with my family members (who were colleagues too) which really got my back up, I felt like she judged me harshly and was pretty rude. Along with another colleague they made three or four very nasty comments which still stick with me.

Instead of raising a grievance, which I should have done, I took to posting about her on another website (along the lines of Mumsnet), not realising she used it too. She saw the posts and reported me, and I ended up facing a meeting with HR and a senior partner of the firm I was working in. It damaged my reputation within the firm forever and I ended up leaving after not being offered a promotion. I still feel ashamed of it now, nearly half a decade on, and feel like it’s tarred me forever.

Whats the worst thing you’ve ever done?

Had an affair with a coworker