What’s the worst thing you’ve ever done?

Maybe fed it something poisonous?

Mine was when i was convicted of arson. In my defence I just had a stillborn but my ex cheated on me and the stress made me lose my little boy so once I left the hospital I set fire to his garage (.man cave where he would invite her whilst I was asleep) . Got a 4 month stretch and I ruined alot of my future plans however interestingly his own mother was fuming at him for calling the police and said he should have worked with me or moved out but he refused to empty the man cave and seeing it enraged me.

the biggest consequence to my actions however I would do it again tomorrow if I felt how I felt that day and I knew no one was going to get hurt.

Well.

I was a young pup and I cheated on my first husband who was serving in Afghanistan at the time - with his own cousin, got pregnant, had an abortion and passed it off as a miscarriage. Husband was home on R&R a week later and I managed to fiddle the dates. His cousin knew rightly and was applying serious pressure on me to come clean.

I’m not even sure if that’s the worst I’ve done tbh. But it’s the first thing that comes to mind. No regrets. Married now to a lovely man and I’m a very sensible mother. A lifetime ago.

Not necessarily... 😜

You've reminded me of when I had a Saturday job in a record shop. The sleeves were separate to the actual records or cassettes or CDs to avoid shop-lifting and one time someone brought a record sleeve to the counter for me to find the actual record and sell it to them.

I just couldn't find it. So I put a different record in the sleeve and sold it to them.

I still feel bad that that person had to come back to the shop and probably took it out on one of my weekday colleagues. And they might have given it as a present and then that person had the hassle of it. It was so bad of me.

This was in 1988 so I suppose they've got over it now.

Same here!!!

The fact that you are trying to be a better person, means you are definitely not a monster 🌷

And me

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My Dad had just killed himself (couple of hours prior), and we were breaking the news to a family member, who worshipped my Dad.

Said relative run from the house at the news, and we were outside, trying to consol him/stop him from doing something stupid.

A car passed, then backed up, a lady called out asking if everything was ok.

To this day, I am still throughly ashamed of myself, that I rather rudely told her to drive on, that it wasn't a freak show, or words to that effect. I would love to apologise that I absolutely didn't mean it, and there was no need for me to say that to her.

I was the other woman when I was 24. Instead of doing the right thing and breaking it off and letting his wife know I took the immature salt earth approach. I told him to pick me or her. Then when his divorce was finalised I left him.

@Puffalicious Basically I ended it with someone I had just told that I loved because my ex came back on the scene and fucked with my head. He didn’t actually want me but didn’t want me finding someone else. I ended up with neither. It’s over 10 years ago and it still fucks me up. I get you.

Thank you for the update, and yes I totally agree with your actions 😉

There are men I slept with who I shouldn't have done and men I should have slept with who I didn't!

My God, I'm never letting my toothbrush out of my sight again..

same 💐

There is no way I would ever tell the Internet the worst thing I've done because we only think we're anonymous and I really don't want to get arrested.

Some of the things PPs have mentioned are pretty bad. Some are so tame they make me feel like a monster by comparison.

I've done so many things I'm ashamed of. Some are objectively horrific. I've betrayed people I cared about or let them down horribly because of selfishness. I've used and even hurt people for my own amusement. I've sunk to the very bottom of the pit of self destructiveness. I've been weak, lazy, opportunistic, and cruel at the expense of others. I've broken almost all of my own ethical standards at some point or another. I have broken all of the Ten Commandments.

I know there might be some leeway for poor mental health, poor upbringing/guidance, substance misuse, youth, etc. And I do believe in redemption and forgiveness. I believe in the grace of God.

But I still did those things. Sometimes they haunt me, and I am consumed by regret and shame.

But I'm trying to be a better person. I think I'm succeeding, at least somewhat, so far.

Broke my dog's leg. It was 20+ years ago and I still feel sick about it.

He was a little Cavalier King Charles Spaniel and had jumped on the sofa to climb on me. I pushed him a bit too hard because he was wet and muddy from the garden and I had a brand new dress on because I was going to a wedding.

He landed really awkwardly on the floor and shattered his elbow. Had to have multiple ops to fix it. He did love to the grand old age of 14 or 15 though!

When I was younger for a period of time I lived with my nanny. Irish & VERY religious. I absolutely despised going to church. So I hid her false teeth in the chest freezer when she'd gone to bed so we didn't have to go. She was frantically looking for them all over the house till I felt sorry for her because she couldn't eat her sunday dinner and I miraculously found them for her. Said they were in her pinny apron.
Oh I feel awful just typing it because she was an absolute diamond of a woman I just LOATHED going to church. She died in 2020 and I neber confessed what i'd done.

Same. I had no emotional intelligence, was so selfish & just awful. He would have moved across the country for me; he adored me, but I couldn't see past the 'I'm free to do what I want any old time' attitude of my youth. I treated him very badly.

The mistakes of youth when you're so beautiful you think you rule the world. I really want to look him properly in the eye & say sorry. We kept in touch through my marriage & children & subsequent divorce, but have drifted since he married & had children. I'm incredibly happy in my relationship these past 15 years, & I suppose it's really knowing what love truly is that I now see how terrible I was.

I also treated my first love poorly at the end. He became like my brother & I just didn't know how to get out. I worked abroad for a bit & met lots of other boys, but it limped on for another year. He moved out as I went abroad again, & the first time he saw me afterwards I was with another man- I'll never forget the hurt in his eyes. God, I hope he's happy.

The OP is saying she wished she had managed it differently. She wasn’t trying to ruin anyone’s life - she was talking about it on an anonymous forum. Ruining someone’s life would be making up untrue allegations about them to intentionally get them into trouble not posting about a situation on an anonymous forum (as people do on here!)

Anyone who has been bullied knows it disempowers you. The OP clearly needed to talk about the situation and maybe get some advice. If the bully recognised herself then that speaks volumes!

OP, we learn from experience. Your employer was at fault for not dealing with the crux of the problem - an unpleasant culture in the workplace. That’s not on you!

Please please please stop being ashamed of yourself. She was a vile bully and you sound really sensitive and nice.

So so many, 95% of these were related to me when I’d been drinking, I’ve now been sober for over 3 years, done a lot of apologising and can almost go to sleep feeling slightly less guilty