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What’s the worst thing you’ve ever done?

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shehardlysleeps · 20/04/2026 17:18

I’m in a reflective mood, and it’s got me thinking about something I did a few years ago which is probably the thing I’m most deeply ashamed of.

There was a coworker who really rubbed me up the wrong way. I was very unhappy at the time, and going through an awful time personally. She would make snide comments about me, do things with my family members (who were colleagues too) which really got my back up, I felt like she judged me harshly and was pretty rude. Along with another colleague they made three or four very nasty comments which still stick with me.

Instead of raising a grievance, which I should have done, I took to posting about her on another website (along the lines of Mumsnet), not realising she used it too. She saw the posts and reported me, and I ended up facing a meeting with HR and a senior partner of the firm I was working in. It damaged my reputation within the firm forever and I ended up leaving after not being offered a promotion. I still feel ashamed of it now, nearly half a decade on, and feel like it’s tarred me forever.

Whats the worst thing you’ve ever done?

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cheekynamechang3 · 21/04/2026 13:21

Notasbigasithink · 21/04/2026 09:45

But then I wouldn't have been wet and he'd have wanted to know why I'd turned the shower on! It was 25yrs ago, I lacked rational thought....

you could have quickly popped in the shower. that's what I would have done. or you could have said there was a dead spider in the shower and you wanted to wash it away.

Thatoneisnice · 21/04/2026 13:16

I slept with two men in the same day and i was in a relationship with them both and they didnt know about each other..
But strangely i dont feel guilty as i was 20 years old and they were both twats. Deep down im quite impressed with myself. I was usually a sweet natured people pleaser and both those guys were quite manipulative. The whole thing was out of character for me and didnt last long. But i felt powerful tbh.
Of course it was also awful and sad and unhealthy. I shouldnt have been with either of them.

Something i do feel guilty about is that i was quite troubled in my late teens and had an amphetamine addiction. I was still trying to go to college at 18 but it was a course i had to pay for. I was living away from home and not in contact with my parents. My nan was quite supportive and tried to help me by paying the course fees.
She put the money into my account and instead of paying the fees i withdrew it all and bought a massive amount of speed. I couldnt then pay for the course and dropped out
I think thats probably the worst thing ive ever done as my nan wasnt wealthy and would have sacrificed things in order to send that money

Katemax82 · 21/04/2026 13:12

Midlifecrisisaverted · 21/04/2026 13:07

I've done that. Puked on a hotel room carpet too and just gave it a cursory rub and then left... 🙈

Yes but that's not as bad as covering a man AND his lively hood! I'm a monster

Katemax82 · 21/04/2026 13:11

Just remembered one...I was working in Clarke's shoes. A couple came in with a baby and a 3 year old. I fitted the baby with shoes and the 3 year old wanted new shoes but I got the feeling the couple weren't keen on spending too much. I checked his shoes and said he still had growing room because they were only going to buy new ones if he had outgrown his. I was also keen to not appear to be trying to make them spend money. The kid cried at not getting new shoes and I still feel rubbish about it. I should have just said yes he needs new shoes and not cared if the parents could afford it

8TinyToeBeans · 21/04/2026 13:10

Didn’t attend my gran or granny’s funeral. It was on the other side of the country and I have terrible fear of travel. For me, I know I paid my respects privately but I’m ashamed that people (other than my parents) will have just assumed I couldn’t be arsed. Especially since I attended my grandpa's but at the time I still lived local so the travel was less of an issue although I was still terrified.

Midlifecrisisaverted · 21/04/2026 13:07

Katemax82 · 21/04/2026 13:04

I still feel absolutely awful for that poor driver

I've done that. Puked on a hotel room carpet too and just gave it a cursory rub and then left... 🙈

Katemax82 · 21/04/2026 13:04

ConnieHeart · 21/04/2026 09:55

@Katemax82oh god, I bet you didn't drink again for quite some time!

I once puked in the back of a taxi & just paid him the normal fare & got out. Poor guy. He didn't even seem to notice somehow! I was about 17

I still feel absolutely awful for that poor driver

BeaRightThere · 21/04/2026 13:03

SabrinaThwaite · 21/04/2026 11:36

@BeaRightThere Nope - planned drinks would have been fine. I was worried sick because he said he’d be home in half an hour and turned up 5 hours later, something he’d never done before (or since). Icy country roads over high ground in the middle of winter, I thought they’d had an accident. It was the staggering in and walking past me without saying a word that was infuriating.

So, there you go.

None of that justifies what you did IMO.

CaptainMyCaptain · 21/04/2026 13:01

Amberlynnswashcloth · 21/04/2026 12:05

One of my neighbours has an awful yappy dog that drives me insane with the constant barking. One morning I was standing at my living room window and noticed that the little hell raiser had somehow got out of the gate and was sniffing its way down the opposite side of the street towards the busy road. I briefly considered raising the alarm but instead I closed the blinds and walked away. Still can't believe I did that.

(Don't worry! Another neighbour intervened and the dog was returned home safe and well and continues to yap away morning, noon and night!)

That's really nasty.

Allseeingallknowing · 21/04/2026 12:50

SoftandQuiet · 21/04/2026 11:07

Was an Avon lady once in the noughties. A customer returned an item and I never gave them their refund.

Why didn’t the customer pursue the refund?

RedWineCupcakes · 21/04/2026 12:48

Misdiagnosed someone's pet and did not advise euthanasia as quickly as I should. In mitigation, I was relatively newly qualified vet and not being properly mentored. It started a spiral of lost confidence and I left clinical work for good within a few weeks.

Jellybelly80 · 21/04/2026 12:48

365RubyRed · 21/04/2026 10:54

Bloody awful, isn't it? And the poster sounds proud of herself. Sickening. I think if I was doing well at work, then found at retrospectively that my mother had manipulated things for me to succeed, I would resign. I'd rather get by on my own merits than have my mother still holding the reins.

I agree. But maybe it’s case of the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree and the daughter is as morally bankrupt as her mum. (If the story is true)

Anjelika · 21/04/2026 12:45

paradisecircus · 20/04/2026 17:52

I've driven away after reversing into someone's car in a car park, knowing I'd damaged their car. I did get caught on cctv, so there was karma for them.

Similar one for me....I hit a neighbour's prestige car when I was trying to parallel park. There was quite a bit of damage but I knew it was a company car so wouldn't cost them anything to repair. Thankfully it was dark and no-one saw me. I drove off and parked on a different street. Gave my car (also damaged but not as badly) a good wipe down to remove paint from other car. I never got caught. I've never told a soul - not even DH - and we moved from there 9 years ago!

Allseeingallknowing · 21/04/2026 12:42

There are some evil people on this thread!

Allseeingallknowing · 21/04/2026 12:40

Tredadt · 21/04/2026 04:58

My daughter graduated 2 years ago. She's shy and very quiet and she struggled to find a job. I' was worried about her and wanted her settled. In the meantime, I got her working in my admin team at work in a local authority via an agency. I manage the admin team though don't directly line manage them. Weird set up but worked out perfectly.

I knew that a new role was being created which is a higher grade than the admin officers in my team. I gave my daughter full access to restricted areas meant for senior management and trained her fully in my role and also in everything for the new role. I wrote the job description tailoring it to the tasks my daughter does and to her strengths. The admin team only knew about it 6m before it was signed off. They requested to see the JD but were refused.

I fobbed off any requests for training from the admin officers in my team only focussing on my daughter's development. Poor things, asked so many times, lol. The job was advertised and my daughter obviously got it..She is now a senior member of my team and we work alongside each other.

The job is pretty good and will probably set her up for life in a very nice department in a good field. When I retire, she will take on my work.

This thread is about the worst thing you’ve ever done, yet you seem proud of this! What a rotten example you have set your daughter!

Freda69 · 21/04/2026 12:35

LapisBlue · 20/04/2026 17:44

I slept with two men on one day. On two separate occasions, four guys in total, as it were.

So glad I saw your comment. Thought I was really bad!
I had sex with 2 men in one evening. Hot summer night in 1974. Never told anyone that.

Esmereldapawpatrol · 21/04/2026 12:20

KeeleyJ · 20/04/2026 17:29

This wasn't me but i didn't discourage it either...

Computers were a new thing when I was at school - total of about 5 computers for the whole year.

Everyone was allocated a computer terminal, I was e.g computer number 3 and roughly 8 people were to share the same one that year. No logins or passwords, just a folder each for us to save Higher English essays on.

Coincidentally I used the same one as the nastiest bully in the whole school. (Verbal and physical violence, even put her own Mother in hospital).

'Someone' accidentally deleted all of her essays just at the point she was due to submit her stuff to the exam board.

This is brilliant.

My bully from school applied for a job I was in charge of recruiting for...CV straight in the bin! Actions have consequences and I gave zero fucks!

The worst thing I have done is probably cheating on my boyfriend when I was 23 but I have happily been with the 'other man' for 20 + years and we are very happy and have a lovely family so zero regrets, although I did feel bad for the heartache I caused at the time.

Scully01 · 21/04/2026 12:06

I'm not getting the ones about sex with two people in one day being the worst thing, have also done it and I'm totally not ashamed!! Interesting how people view this differently.

Amberlynnswashcloth · 21/04/2026 12:05

One of my neighbours has an awful yappy dog that drives me insane with the constant barking. One morning I was standing at my living room window and noticed that the little hell raiser had somehow got out of the gate and was sniffing its way down the opposite side of the street towards the busy road. I briefly considered raising the alarm but instead I closed the blinds and walked away. Still can't believe I did that.

(Don't worry! Another neighbour intervened and the dog was returned home safe and well and continues to yap away morning, noon and night!)

Sortingmyself · 21/04/2026 12:01

MyDeftDuck · 20/04/2026 19:17

Made ice cubes with weed killer and chucked them onto my nasty neighbours pristine lawn. I did use an old ice cube tray though and made sure not to use it to make ice for my G & T,

ooo I might try this on my nasty neighbour too.

ChiliFiend · 21/04/2026 11:44

CoffeeCantata · 21/04/2026 09:06

Oh God - shame on you. Of all the posts here, I agree that this is the most shocking and unforgiveable.

And absolutely no remorse from the perpetrator. Horrible, selfish, unprincipled, corrupt, self-serving...yes, I DO judge this pp.

So depressing. And the daughter knows that she didn't get where she is by her own merit or effort, but because Mum is a corrupt bad apple. How will that make her feel in the future?

I 100% agree. Especially "poor things, asked so many times lol." That is really fucked up, laughing at how you treated people unfairly. Frankly I hope her daughter gets messed around in the same way in her next job.

Teainapinkcup · 21/04/2026 11:44

Teainapinkcup · 21/04/2026 11:43

Mine are mainly about sex with people I should have not slept with (guy I worked with who had a girlfriend, manager at work who was using me for sex) some other random men who were too old for me. I have a lot of shame about it but I was a troubled and unsupported by family teen and young adult.

I am a totally different person now but yes I wish I could turn back time and make better choices.

to add these were all different places and times so I wasnt known as a bike or anything lol

Teainapinkcup · 21/04/2026 11:43

Mine are mainly about sex with people I should have not slept with (guy I worked with who had a girlfriend, manager at work who was using me for sex) some other random men who were too old for me. I have a lot of shame about it but I was a troubled and unsupported by family teen and young adult.

I am a totally different person now but yes I wish I could turn back time and make better choices.

SabrinaThwaite · 21/04/2026 11:36

BeaRightThere · 21/04/2026 09:39

It was for the heinous crime of coming home late drunk because after work drinks went on too long

Edited

@BeaRightThere Nope - planned drinks would have been fine. I was worried sick because he said he’d be home in half an hour and turned up 5 hours later, something he’d never done before (or since). Icy country roads over high ground in the middle of winter, I thought they’d had an accident. It was the staggering in and walking past me without saying a word that was infuriating.

So, there you go.

Secretsecreter · 21/04/2026 11:28

Too many to choose from 😂

Probably when I broke a girl's jaw in sparring class because I didn't like her and I was trying to impress a boy at the club.