What’s the worst thing you’ve ever done?

Lots more occurring to me now. When I was young (teens/early 20s), I behaved really awfully in relationships when I felt jealous/insecure (which was often, as I grew up without really any maternal warmth or nurturing). On one level, I look back and think I must have looked a right twat, but also I try to have some empathy for the young woman I was, acting out because she just wanted to be loved. Not at all wanting to excuse my behaviour, just wanting to kind of give that young girl a hug because she was really hurting.

I repeatedly cheated on a boyfriend. We had 5 year relationship from when I was 17-22, and I cheated on him prolifically for the first 3 years. I really did love him, but I wasn't mature enough for such a serious relationship. He had suspicions but I would lie my way out of it. I realised the error of my ways and behaved myself for the last two years, but the relationship was tainted with suspicion and I eventually lost him. I've never forgiven myself for it and I've never cheated on anyone since.

I thought at first that the poster up thread put weedkiller ice cubes in her neighbours' drinks, presumably typing from her cell in HM Prison! 🤣

You and me both x

i don’t know, as I’m not that poster. I assume she’s been brainwashed by patriarchal ideas about a woman’s morality residing in her vagina.

Jesus. The cheek of your “lol”.

This is exactly how I feel too. I’ve put a lot of work into reflecting and trying to be a better person but know that my family never will.

That’s my opinion, obviously others will feel differently. Why post on this thread, which is about the worst thing you’ve ever done, if it’s not a bad thing?

I misread the beginning of this as ‘I put bleach in my abusive ex’s eyes’ and was just about to be genuinely aghast after a thread of generally meek misdemeanours!

I’m sure he looked adorable in his mottled, stonewash-effect uniform.

I put bleach in my abusive exes washing detergent on the day I left him whilst he was at work.
I'd love to have seen his face after his black work uniform came out the wash!

We can only hope.

Don't we all do twatty things in our late teens/20s though? I can remember some horrible thoughtless things I said which make me cringe looking back, and I also slept with some idiotic guys, was careless about breaking hearts, and upset some of my friends unnecessarily. I regret all of that but I do know I am a better person now, probably because of it.

It works with dandelion seeds too……place a few in the tray before freezing…..pop the cubes out and harvest dandelions to your heart’s content 😜😜

I used to live with a guy (in a two-bed flat - we weren't friends, it was just a flatshare) who had a massive jar of pound coins outside his room and I used to steal them to pay for my bus fare to work (I was extremely skint at the time). In my defence, he was a massive twat who expected me to cook and clean and got stroppy when I didn't, and also tried it on with me. The ceiling fell in over his bed one evening and that felt like karma.

I feel like this too. I regret many thoughtless things I said when younger, that would’ve hurt others’ feelings. I may be a much better person now, after years of reading, learning, reflecting, but I am paying the price in lost childhood/ potential friendships.
But if you’ve met my mum and older siblings you’d know why I was the way I was.

Exactly!

Maybe ,but the pp says she works for the local authority
Ime workin for the NHS slso public sector
There can be a lot of restructuring,with people being moved around
Things are not guranteed and with out mummy to hold her hand the daughter may juat find she has bitten more than she can chew.

It’s morally a completely neutral thing to have done. Assuming everyone involved was consenting and adult. Why do you imagine it’s ’morally not good’?

Why ? That is so random

@SabrinaThwaite

For some inexplicable reason I love the detail in this ...😃

And I would add that the people on this thread, with one notable exception, feel remorse for what they did. So in my book that makes them good people!

There are lots of people out there who never give their behaviour (past or present) a second thought. They just do what serves them and hang everyone else, and certainly don't lose sleep over it. And I know from experience that this applies to many people who might call themselves religious, or who hold positions of trust in society.

So don't feel bad! We're all imperfect, but what matters, I think, is how you move on from these things. If you reflect, feel bad and resolve to either make amends (not always possible) or to be better in the future, that's what defines your worth as a person.

People who LOL, however....there's no hope....

Always carry a doggy bag

Those two posts seem more like boasting , morally not good, but not the worst thing in the world to have done,

It’s more the apparent pride the poster has taken in this which is the issue. The “poor things, lol”. Plus, it ultimately isn’t very helpful for her daughter either. Others on here actually feel remorse for their mistakes and have tried to learn from them.

she won't need to as she'll get mummy's job when she retires.