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Daughter won't take her socks off on holiday

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NiftyMember · 20/04/2026 16:41

Hi,

I am going on holiday to Gran Canaria with my eldest daughter in a few weeks time. The weather of course will be quite warm and there's something that bugs me about my daughter when we go on a sunshine holiday. Whatever she is wearing on her feet (sliders, crocs & sandals) she will pair them with socks, even in boiling weather! Personally I am a flip flop and bare feet all day kind of woman. Is anyone else's son or daughter reluctant to take their socks off on holiday or is it just mine? I do worry she will overheat one of these days even at 21 years old. Is there anything I could say to her about this to convince her to ditch the socks?

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CopeNorth · 20/04/2026 17:05

Assuming this post is for real, YABU. Leave the poor girl alone. Why the need to control what another adult wears?

AppropriateAdult · 20/04/2026 17:03

I also thought you were going to say she was a toddler… and my advice was still going to be “Pick your battles.” But she’s an adult… Confused

DottieB · 20/04/2026 17:01

Has she always done this? If not, I agree there could be some aspect of her feet that she has become self conscious about - wonky toes, smell, scars?
Or she could be like my dad who just really doesn’t like bare feet - on anyone, anywhere!

TinselAngel · 20/04/2026 16:59

likelysuspect · 20/04/2026 16:56

Why?

Why?!!!!!!

Why are you wearing that yellow shirt today, why not the red one, do you have a problem with red, whats red ever done to you, are you triggered by red, do you need therapy?

No one needs a reason why they are wearing a garment.

Unless its a wedding dress for shopping or something. But even then. Meh.

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Only that it might be something the OP can assist with- eg recommendation of comfortable footwear.

hahabahbag · 20/04/2026 16:58

My dd won’t show her feet (apart from sun lounger to pool) maybe it’s a young adult thing?

FlapperFlamingo · 20/04/2026 16:56

She’s 21 - you need to never mention this (and anything else you bang on about to her) again. She isn’t going to overheat, she gets to choose what she wears.

likelysuspect · 20/04/2026 16:56

TinselAngel · 20/04/2026 16:45

Have you asked her why? Is she self conscious about her feet? Do shoes rub her feet if she doesn’t wear socks?

Why?

Why?!!!!!!

Why are you wearing that yellow shirt today, why not the red one, do you have a problem with red, whats red ever done to you, are you triggered by red, do you need therapy?

No one needs a reason why they are wearing a garment.

Unless its a wedding dress for shopping or something. But even then. Meh.

Whatwouldnanado · 20/04/2026 16:54

Buy her a voucher for a pedicure? Other than that say absolutely nothing. Unless you never want her to holiday with you again.

Blimms · 20/04/2026 16:52

Come on people!

lottiegarbanzo · 20/04/2026 16:51

If she literally wouldn’t take her socks off and wore the same ones all week, day and night, then you might have a point.

SerendipityCat · 20/04/2026 16:49

I meant to add that this is yet another in a series of utterly pointless posts which have been wasting forum bandwidth in the last week or so. Grandma’s remarks about her grandson’s fake tan, a work colleague with an imaginary dog, now a daughter’s socks. I know I’m old and grumpy, but Jesus, is it getting tiresome.

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 20/04/2026 16:49

She’s twenty-fucking-one.

LovelyPombear · 20/04/2026 16:49

She’s 21, ffs

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 20/04/2026 16:48

Surely it’s up to her!

She could equally be thinking “aren’t all those people’s sandals etc rubbing their feet with no socks? And the smell of bare feet! I don’t really like seeing everyone’s bare feet, I wish they’d wear socks”

Not saying she’d be right but it’s as sensible as what you’re saying

Blimms · 20/04/2026 16:47

Daftest, made up post I’ve read in a while.

TomatoSandwiches · 20/04/2026 16:47

Why do you feel the need to control your adult daugthers fashion/comfort choices? You're the weird one here.

SALaw · 20/04/2026 16:46

There was a post like this last summer too. Let her wear socks if she wants to wear socks ffs. She’s old enough to make her own sartorial decisions.

Raindropskeepfallingon · 20/04/2026 16:46

I wouldn’t care if my child wore socks on holiday, much less an adult. No one overheats because they’re wearing a pair of socks. Some people, myself included, find it more comfortable to wear them. Leave the woman alone, it’s her body and she gets to make her own clothing choices.

Usernamenotfound1 · 20/04/2026 16:46

TinselAngel · 20/04/2026 16:45

Have you asked her why? Is she self conscious about her feet? Do shoes rub her feet if she doesn’t wear socks?

Does it matter why?

is it anyone else’s business?

Everyonelikesam · 20/04/2026 16:45

I assume you are joking. Surely no-one could really worry about an adult "overheating" because they are choosing to wear socks.

mortgagefreesoon5 · 20/04/2026 16:45

She's probably got a tattoo she doesn't want you to see.

TinselAngel · 20/04/2026 16:45

Have you asked her why? Is she self conscious about her feet? Do shoes rub her feet if she doesn’t wear socks?

Octavia64 · 20/04/2026 16:45

All the young people wear socks and slides.

haven’t you noticed?

PrincessFluffyPants · 20/04/2026 16:45

Is she self conscious about her feet? Verruca? Fungal nail?

PinkyFlamingo · 20/04/2026 16:45

It's her choice as an adult what to wear. I have no idea why this bothers you so much, it's not your feet.