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AIBU to ask my adult son to contribute to household bills?

105 replies

Dilemmame · 20/04/2026 09:59

I have a 20 year old ds and he's just started a new job ive got myself in debt due to him refusing to apply for uc for 9 months and has been living in the home but I have asked for some help with home bills and he's refused as he said he's gotta buy a car am I as a parent being unreasonable for asking for some rent/shopping every month?

OP posts:
Jellycatspyjamas · 20/04/2026 10:04

Nope, he needs to take care of living expenses before buying a car. That means he either pays to stay with you or he pays to live somewhere else.

TeenLifeMum · 20/04/2026 10:03

We paid 10% rent after 3 months in a job post education. You may need to ask for 20% depending on your needs (my parents didn’t need the money and it was more to teach budgeting).

He pays or moves out. He’s no longer your financial responsibility!

lazyarse123 · 20/04/2026 10:03

Namechangetheyarewatching · 20/04/2026 10:01

Tell him to move out and make his own way in life, the bank of mum is now closed!!

Exactly this. Entitled little shit.

BIWI · 20/04/2026 10:03

He pays to stay.

Namechangetheyarewatching · 20/04/2026 10:01

Tell him to move out and make his own way in life, the bank of mum is now closed!!